2006-10-04 14:51:40 · 11 answers · asked by Lucy Lu 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Depending on the age of the child, I might say...Did you know it's dad's birthday today? I will leave it up to you, if you'd like to call him....and leave it at that.
2006-10-04 15:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by Cynthia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It is terrible when the other parent is a deadbeat, but the child - parent relationship is important no matter what. You are doing your child a good service by encouraging him or her to call and wish the other parent a happy birthday.
2006-10-04 21:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My youngest son father is a dead beat. He makes good money but refuses to send my son a thin dime.(Yet he spends freely on a woman /other kids) He does things for my son only when it is convenient for him. I have cried and begged for assistance from this man. This wasnt the man I met. This wasnt the man that was there for me when I had my first son.The man I thought would never be a dead beat. The man that lived in a two parent home.He now lives in another state so when its very hard trying to obtain an address, I have asked his mother to help but us she isnt even try trying us. Sad but true. In spite of my sons father presence(dead beat) in his life I still have my son call and send cards on special occasions. Yes I have a good heart . I cant treat him the way he is treating my son. You know the old saying what goes around comes around. He will get his before its all said and done. I dont talk negatively about my sons father in front of him . My son see/know that I am the one providing/supporting the family. My son is finally at that age where he can see his father for who he really is. I have seen my son cry because of the lies his father has told him. I had a deep hurt in my heart . My son made his choice and it was better that he did. Now he cant say that I was keeping him from his dad he saw that it was his dad taking himself out of his life.
2006-10-04 22:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always encourage my child to call her father on his birthday day and holidays because this will allow the child to get to know that parent for them self and people do change (this way if that parent do change you will not look like the bad one at the end)
2006-10-04 22:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
despite how you may feel about the other parent, to the child, it is still their parent. children hold thier parents on a certain pedestool, despite what may have happened in the past. Keep in mind, don't impose your thoughts about the parent onto the child. It just makes them feel confused. let the child call.
2006-10-04 21:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by tinyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , because you should never include the child in the problems you and the other parent are having, If you do you will give the child different issuse as they grow up.The child should respect you both.
2006-10-04 21:55:21 · answer #6 · answered by silverice_20002000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the other parent choose not to have anything to do with the child you shouldnt make the child have anything to do with the dead beat parent it is not fair for that child to have to feel the rejection of the other parent if they dont have to
2006-10-04 21:59:56 · answer #7 · answered by southern angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It shows good faith to your children that you want them to have a relationship with their other parent, gives the other parent no ammunition that you tried to keep them apart. It's the right thing to do by your kids, helping them stay in contact with the other parent. (I hate doing it, but I do and now that my kids are older, they know I tried.)
2006-10-04 21:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is still their parent and very important.
2006-10-04 21:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't. If they feel like calling, then they can and if they don't feel like it, I won't force them.
2006-10-04 21:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by PrettyProblem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋