So shes been my best friend for almost 8 years. I love her to death, and value our friendship alot. Two years she tried to kill herself, and she has been fine and her peppy self until about 2 months ago. She and i no longer attend the same school, so its hard to help her there. Shes been hanging out with other cutters and they have drug her into cutting and shes even dressing alittle emo now. I dont mind the clothes, but it kills me that shes hurting herself. Telling an adult is my last resort. I would like to try to handle this on my own. Am i out of my mind?
2006-10-04 14:43:07 · 12 answers · asked by Courtney 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know it has to hurt you seeing her do this to herself. But this isn't something that people can just stop doing. It is a problem that she HAS to get help for. Try talking to her first. Being her best friend, she values your opinion. Tell her how you really feel and that your scared something bad will happen to her and you couldn't stand to lose her! But at the end of the conversation, if she seems like she's just going to blow you off, you have to tell an adult. You know what, even if she doesn't blow you off, you have to get her help. People with this problem always deny that they're doing anything wrong because they don't feel that they are. This can turn devastating. How will you feel if (God forbid) something happens to her?
She might resent you at first, but that's natural. After she gets help, she will not resent you anymore. She should know you love her; and hopefully you'll have your old friend back.
Good luck hun and Blessed be.
2006-10-04 15:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by LadyMagick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should definitely try talking to her first. Be very careful not to offend her though by saying something like "I think the people you're hanging out with are bad influences". Instead explain how much you love her, and it hurts to see her causing herself pain. Let her know that there are other people out there who love her just as much and would not want this either. Tell her about her best qualities and what makes her such a wonderful person. Tell her how capable she is of doing amazing things and what she loves. So, now you're not out of your mind. Perhaps what she needs right now is just well YOU to be there for her. However, if things get much worse, tell an adult. You'll know when the time is right. Until then, be a great friend and call her over for a best friend date with ice cream, staying up late, movies, etc.
2006-10-04 14:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you love her.. But you have to save her life by telling an Adult,, she is not in her right mind.. Never think you have time to see what will get her to stop. When things are controlling the mind..tonight might be too late then you will hate yourself for the rest of your life because you can put a stop to this because her parents can get her REAL LIFE HELP! that's too much for a young person to deal with.. Love hurts, Love has pain. Love has roads you have to step over.. She might hate you tomorrow for telling but years later she will love you for saving her life.. Be quiet as a friend she might never get married, have children, never see you again. Make the right choice for the both of you.
2006-10-04 15:04:17 · answer #3 · answered by M M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to talk to her about it . tell her that she REALLY means a lot to you and that she has to stop. tell her that if she won't stop for her self maybe she will stop for you. if that doesn't work. threaten her by saying if she doesn't stop that you will tell an adult. i don't think you will be able to handle it by yourself but you might be able to. it will take her a while to give this up. i know this for a fact. she wont be able to just give it up over night. it usually takes professional help to get her to stop. this is because she has a reason for cutting herself . (usually cause its pain in her life that she can control or its like she is cutting all her problems away. or something like that) try asking her that too , why she cuts her self, and how it is helping her. i really recommend you tell an adult. tell her parents you don't have to tell them yourself. you can tell them anonymously. like write a letter. or email or something like that. but just think if something happens to her like hitting a vein and almost killing herself or really killing herself you would have to live with the guilt that you knew and didn't tell anyone. i really hope this helps. if you have any questions email me. i know EXACTLY what your going through and what SHES going through. GOOD LUCK! i hope everything works out.
2006-10-04 15:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by sarah m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might like to try this on your own, but you cannot solve her problems on her own. I suggest you talk to her about it...don't approach so it feels to her as if you're cornering her...Let her know how much she means to you and how important it is that she's in your life and you don't want her to hurt anymore, but she's gotta seek help...and she's gotta do it wanting help....
I was a psychology major and my lil brother has issues, but he hasn't gotten any kind of real help cuz he thinks he's fine.
The only way people in the mental health profession can help a person is only if that person wants the help and wants to get better.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-04 14:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by asiantomato84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not out of your mind, however you should call her parents and tell them what you know the can get her the help she needs. dont wait get off line and call right now !! She may be mad at you awhile but when she gets better she will thank you. Good Luck GO make that call !
2006-10-04 14:58:42 · answer #6 · answered by stormyjoem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 22:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason she is cuttin herself so try to find that out and then if she tells you maybe you help her solve the problem
2006-10-04 15:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell an adult because what's if it's too late then you'll regret it.
2006-10-04 14:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by nice_simple_guy82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell an adult. no matter what. don't let it be your last resort. don't handle it on your own!!
2006-10-04 15:00:45 · answer #10 · answered by toonotshy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋