hai, i am a girl from india, got married(arranged, as per parents choice).i am in US now with my husband. i have never fallen in love before marriage, i used to always believe in love for a life. i married this man with lots of dreams, hoping he will be with me through thick n thin. he is different from what i ever thought, from day one he has made me feel more lonely,n helpless. there were lighter moments with him too but still the darker moments r more, he has made me cry like almost every week. every happy moment end with a fight or something upsets. he is too demanding, i dont know sometimes i feel i love him but the next moment i feel i hate him n should get seperated. is this common in all arranged marriages, or is mine a wierd case. i feel i can never be happy with him but at the same time i am worried for him, think abt him. he is not sensitive at all, he doest understand me or cares abt my feelings although i have told him many times, he says he loves me, but i dont understand
2006-10-04 14:12:06 · 8 answers · asked by hello f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes you can love and hate at the same time, but it looks to me that you just felt sorry for him.....
2006-10-04 14:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by aemi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need marriage counselling to make this work. The fact that it is an arranged marriage makes it all the more necessary cuz you didn't know about his personality which seems kinda cold and heartless. Try to get him to go to counselling with you. Have your parents help you with the cost since they arranged the marriage and obviously didn't do the best job of picking a suitable match for you who needs someone who is caring, sensitive and fun-loving. Don't despair! You might be able to work this marriage out if he is willing to work on it too. If he says, forget it, then you should work at getting out of that marriage before you lose yourself.
2006-10-04 14:21:38 · answer #2 · answered by Lean on Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person really loves you, he should put your feelings always b/f his. You love the man you thought you married & hate the one your with now.
2006-10-04 14:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing is that you did not marry him for love but to please your parents. Now the only thing you can do is may be try to live with him and if you cannot you get a divorce
2006-10-04 14:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by sexonsight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand ur situation if ur not happy and hes tooo demanding get out just because he says he loves u doesnt mean he really does!!
2006-10-05 00:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyes322 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a sad thing, to be in a loveless marriage.
2006-10-04 14:15:37 · answer #6 · answered by T Time 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, sometimes it feels like you hate that you love him
2006-10-04 14:14:52 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Meow♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THERE IS A SONG FROM THE 60S THAT GOES LIKE THIS I DONT LIKE YOU BUT I LOVE YOU DONT WANT TO ----------------------------------------YOU REALLY GOT A HOLD ON ME I LOVE YOU ANDI DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO ----------------------- SOUND FAMILA
2006-10-04 20:51:28 · answer #8 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋