i had a very good friend working in same place with me..
later on our friendship become attraction and fall in love each other..
we start to date out together..and had a good journey..but everything changed in one night..
i was out for drinks with other guy friends (same working click) and he can'e take it..he start to blame me that i'm not honest..betrayed him and start to talk very rude which make me hurt a lot..
eventhough i try to explain to him..he seem not to understand me..
finnaly..i decide to just take a walk off fr this relation..
but..my problem is i had been love him so much..and can't just forget him..but i tried to..
this become more difficult to me coz we are working in same place..
i have to see him each day..
that make me very..very upsad..and uncomfortable...
any idea how to over come this..?
2006-10-04 14:10:04 · 14 answers · asked by CuTe GaL.. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Congratulate yourself for refusing to accept abuse as the price of a passionate relationship.
Be thankful for your self-preservation instincts.
Consider yourself blessed that you saw his bad side so soon. Imagine what a nightmare he would have been to live with.
Be happy you have good memories, but happier that you didn't commit to a long-term living hell.
With this attitude, you may find you can treat him with a friendly but detached manner at work. If he is unpleasant, ignore it and rise above it. If he is small-minded, and in a position above you, you may have to get a new job, but do that on your own terms.
Don't bring it up. Don't explain yourself. Just be glad that you were open enough to try but smart enough to walk away.
You won.
2006-10-04 15:00:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mel M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but I am going thru the very same thing. except I've never gone out w/ this guy but I've just liked him for a very long time. It's more like a love-hate thing. Just get different hobbies or take up some new ones. do things you enjoy to help take your mind off of him. So far it's been working pretty well for me. Oh and everytime you see him just think about how he obviously has no respect for you, especially w/ the way he talked to you and all. Hope this helps. I know it hurts when you love a guy so much and then find out he's a complete jerk and try to forget about him. good luck=)
2006-10-04 14:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by 77684 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you feel love for this guy, he is not showing you the same love. Though it hurts to back out of the relationship, it is the best thing you can do for yourself. He is trying to control you and that will never allow for a trusting, mature relationship. It always hurts to lose a relationship. But in the long run you will be much happier. Wait for a man that can respect you and love you. You will be glad you waited. About the job situation, can you work in another department, but in the same company? Or maybe consider changing jobs if it won't cause a financial hardship. Hope this helps.
2006-10-04 14:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by Grace A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always have had rules for dating someone that you go to school with or work with: DON'T! And even if it isn't serious, than everyone is in your business. And it's not like you can date other people at the job... But don't let it sweat you honey. You gotta remember that it's a job, so leave your personals at the doorstep. And it's not gonna be easy believe me. But all I can tell you is to occupy your time, and take your mind away from it... Hell, act like you got a secret admirer. Send yourself flowers (if you got the money) Because believe me, when men get over the hump, they're over and on someone else... You did the right thing by walking away... If he's gonna keep on accusing you of something that you didn't do he's insecure and might have something to hide his damn self. So keep your head up and pretend like he's any old co-worker....
2006-10-04 14:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most companies discourage this for very good reasons. If you had married and one of you became a manager of the other. Bad thing.
From your perspective it is a bad thing because you do have to see him every day. Never a good idea to fall in love with someone at work. It makes a breakup twice as hard.
So what to do? You have done the right thing. If he would not listen to you about something like this it would only get worse if you got closer or married. He sounds very jealous and does not trust that you are telling him the truth.
As hard as it may be never go back. You will be sorry. Move on and find someone who will believe you about anything until you prove to be un-trustworthy. You will not be faced with this again.
And find them outside of work please.
2006-10-04 14:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take some time. You might not want to give up right away. He may be insecure do to a past experience. If his rudeness was way overboard or out of line, it might be a good sign of the lack of respect he has. Live your life and in due time, you'll move on. It's just hard for right now.
2006-10-04 14:14:48 · answer #6 · answered by willno74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely dating someone you work with can have its perks and problems.
Maybe you should write him a note explaining your actions and that you were clearly not doing anything wrong...
I think he reacted the way he did cuz he had real feelings for you and was hurt.
Hopefully this makes your situation a lil better.
If you can't solve this, try to move on, i know its hard, but you gotta move along...like the song by all american rejects.
2006-10-04 14:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by asiantomato84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all to fall in love in a work place is not a good idea.Even if you fall in love with your coworker is acceptable and while you went out for a drink with other coworker whom you don't love;Your b/f is jealous about the other coworker who takes you out.It means you are sexy also.If he seem not to understand your love means he is just bugging around you.How narrow minded person is he.Life is to share !Wherever you get enjoyment you can.Hey don't be silly It means you have to create a distraction for him.Pay attention to your new friend,for they are the first to discover your relationship with him.Only those will hurts you who are displeased with you.Believe in Work is worship and pay attention in your work.Decide upon your true goal and plan to reach it.
2006-10-04 14:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by precede2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey. dont torture urself by telling urself 2 have a break when u cant even do it. u love him. dat's all dat matters. u did something wrong but with no purpose to it. apologise and explain. there's no harm in saying sorry rite? if he cant give in, coz, to him, its a mistake, u have to be the one giving in n apologise. u just cant fight fire with fire. just go to him and say sorry, and that u love him. dont torture urself coz u think its the right thing to do. but see how u r now... just bear with him. dey cant stand it if we have fun with other guys without dem knowing. jealousy. understand dat. so just say sorry alright?
all the best girl!
:)
2006-10-04 14:21:24 · answer #9 · answered by rufiogerl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 03:13:02 · answer #10 · answered by citizen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋