ok has anyone got pregnat at the age of 13-15 and if so how mad were ur parents? see im only asking because i really want a kid but im afraid my parents will hate me.
2006-10-04 13:59:51 · 33 answers · asked by kieras_411 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
you want a kid at the age of 13-15 ... make sure its really what you want before taking the risk ... and your parents will eventually understand !!
2006-10-04 14:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by Nini69 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
having a kid that young is 10times harder then it would be if you were older and in a adult relationship. I had 2 kids by the time i was 19. its not what its cracked up to be. More than likely ur parents will be pissed but most of the time they get over it and will be supported. But some parents might try to force abortion or dis own u. I know ppl who has that happen.
Just imagine having to go to school and be a mom at the same time? Is it fair to the baby? NO! Is it fair to ur parents that they will have to support another child? NO! Is it fair to u that u have to lose the best yrs of ur life cuz u have major responsibilities now? NO! dont do that to urself, a innocent baby or ur parents. I graduated school only because there is a school in my city made for pregnant or parenting KIDS. Enjoy ur teenage yrs while u have them. They go by way to fast anyways. It not worth it. wait...And besides what are the odds of staying with the dad? Im not with my baby daddy. Do u really want to have baby daddies all over town. NO! GOOD LUCK IN MAKING THE RIGHT CHOICE
2006-10-04 19:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by mizz_burque 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister was 15 when she had her first baby. Our parents were extremely upset, the fact that she was having sex at such a young age, the fact that she was having sex at all freaked them out. Her mother (my step mother) tryed to force her into an abortion, which she refused. So she had the baby, and found that is was nothing like she imagined. Her body changed, she became depressed...she had decided without the life experience and knowledge to have a child, the guy that got her pregnant left as soon as the baby was born, said he couldn't handle the responsibilty. So she was alone, a few months after she had the baby our parents told her she had to move out, they had raised their children and were not going to raise hers. She managed to find a place close by and got social assistance but she struggled alot. She had to live with her decisions, she had to get up each time the baby needed her, feed her, change her...she didn't get much sleep at all and became very emotionally & physically drained. She eventually however found a daycare and went back to highschool and got her diploma. When he daughter was around 2 she met a man and they fell in love, she did a college course and got a good job and they got married and bought a house. When I asked her about her life, she said "I wouldn't give up my daughter for anything, but I wish I had had more time to be a kid myself. I wish I had finished school and married before I had a baby, because as much as I love my daughter...it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do." Even though she was a mature 15/16 year old, she was not ready for the responsibility for someone else life.
I know your your own person and no one can make anyone do anything they don't want to, but I would seriously talk to my parents about it first as an adult! How are you going to support this baby, where are you going to live. It might suit you just fine to have a baby but do expect your parents to help? If so you really need to think about what your doing, do you want your child to be raised on welfare, to grow knowing that its Mom was only 15. Would you want your 15 year old to have a child and expect you to care and support it??
Its a bigger decision than "I'm affaid my parents will hate me" and if you truely care and think they have your best interest at heart then talk to them.
2006-10-04 14:29:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will always be plenty of time for you to have children later. Childbearing is the sort of thing for which you have a large window of time. Let me share with you some serious considerations that might help you understand why it is far better to wait until you are physically mature. Between the ages of 13-15, you are in a phase of rapid development. Even though you can technically have a child, your body is not fully prepared for it. At this time in your life, if you were to become pregnant, your body would have to decide whether to provide resources for your own development or for that of the child. Either way, one of you would suffer permanent damage because of it. The damage can take many forms, some of them relatively minor (and not terribly obvious) like learning disabilities or minor physical defects. It can also take major tolls on one or both of you. A developing heart (be it yours or the baby's) can be irreparably damaged by lack of sufficient nutrition. This can cause life-threatening or even fatal arrhythmias, amongst other things. Before you say "well, I'd make sure to eat right" let me just say that as a mother of two daughters, I can attest that it's difficult to get all the proper nutrition when you're pregnant even if you're an adult and fully grown, let alone if you are still growing yourself. All this is presuming that you have a perfectly normal pregnancy... there are so many other complications that can damage the health (or even end the life of) of both baby and mother. A pregnant teenager has an even more elevated risk of developing complications.
So, to my mind, the question of how upset your parents would be is not even remotely as important as the question of whether you're mature enough to consider the devastating health issues you could bring upon yourself and your future baby. A woman who is prepared to be a good mother considers all these things and does everything within her power to ensure the best for her children.
My younger (nearly 12 year old) daughter adds: "How would you be able to provide for the baby? Especially if your parents decided not to help you? What about the father of the baby? You cannot just pick someone off the street! I would recommend that you wait until you're at least 18 (or older). You or your baby could be seriously, permanently damaged!"
My other daughter (who is your age) says: "If you would want to go out or something, you would not be able to because you would have the baby. It would wreck your social life. A baby is a life-long committment! I also would like a baby, but I know that it would ruin both of our lives right now so I choose to be responsible and wait until I'm prepared (physically, emotionally, financially and mentally)."
(Says the mama- That's what will make them good mothers some day =)
2006-10-04 14:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were your mom I'd be FURIOUS!! Do you have any idea of the reality of parenthood??? I've been a mom since I was nineteen and I'M EXHAUSTED!Trust me, its easy to think oh my baby isn't like that I know it won't be, but IT IS!!! Being a mom is a full time job, and if you don't believe me ask a random mom on the street! Ask a mom you admire. They'll all tell you its WORK! Its not a game! Can you handle being vomited on for 12 hours straight, and then spending the next 6 in the emergency room? No sleep? No friends? Oh yes no friends! Do you think your friends will pick you and your child over a night out at the movies with the hot guy they just met? Being a parent is an EIGHTEEN YEAR + commitment. And geuss what? If you have a baby, your mom will be taking care of you AND your child! That means her tour of duty as a parent will be even longer! If you were mine, and you came home pregnant I'd have one word for you! ADOPTION! Go be a kid. You've got the rest of your life to be a mom! What kind of future are you giving this child you want? If you get pregnant you'll end up in a dead end job. No college, no nice house....PLEASE don't do this! I love my son, but I'd have been a better mom if I'd waited til I was 25. And you know what? He deserves the best! If you can't see that this is a mistake go talk to your guidance counselor!
And PS...they are only babies for 3 years tops....ready to be 18 and at a parent teacher conference? You aren't even old enough to drive or vote! Don't do this! Your CHILD will be the one regretting it! And I'm not trying to hurt you....just being realistic! Its the hardest thing I've ever done. PLEASE PLEASE don't do this!
2006-10-04 14:11:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't have a kid now wait u have soo much more time that u will want to have fun and u might want a kid now but when u want to go to a bar or something and go out with ur friends u can't because they might not want to have a kid that is crying or upset and wants to go home to ruin it for u. Your parents will probably be really mad. If I were u I would try to get a job babysiting or something that way u are around kids more often and then it is kinda like having a kid of ur own. That is what i did.
2006-10-04 14:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by Brandi S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm..your parents will be pretty pissed off because they will be the ones supporting this kid. you dont have money at that age to have a baby and support it and if you get a job then who will watch it while you work? dont expect the guy to do it because they arent always there for you, especially if its a guy your age. Why would you really want a kid at your age? something must be clouding your brain because once you have a child, they are your responsibility for the rest of your life. You want one now because you think they are cute or you want someone to love you who will love you back. got some news for you...BAD IDEA! I'm 21 and married and would love a child with my husband, but sometimes other things come first. wait before you make such a big decision. Imagine all your friends out partying and having fun and you have a child to take care of. or meeting a guy in the future who you like but isnt interested in you when he finds out your like 20 with a 5 or 6 years old.
2006-10-04 14:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I have wanted a kid since I first found out what a baby was. I am 23 and I just had my first. I love my daughter and I am so glad I have her, but every once in a while I wish I would have waited a little bit longer. Like when my friends are going out and I have to stay home with the baby. You haven't even reached the going out stage yet. You should really think about waiting at least until you are out of high school. You need to live a little before you get strapped down with a kid. And I know this may sound a little harsh but think about the life you would be able to give a kid at your age. Your parents would have to support it, or you would have to drop out of school to support the baby. And at your age you won't be able to get a good job, you'd probably have to get on wellfare, and thats not the life you want to give your kids. Trust me, wait a few years, you have plenty of time to have kids. Be the kid first.
2006-10-04 14:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by Libby L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi hun-
I got pregnant at 16- but not because that's what I wanted, but rather it was what God intended for me at that time, regardless of my plans for a different life. I had already graduated HS (after my Jr year) so my parents couldn't be too mad- although they were disappointed.
I moved out and got married. I never asked my parents for a dime the whole time- even when things got tough.
If your wanting to get pregnant, I suggest you plan to do it alone or with your BF as well. It's not fair to your parents to have to support and raise another child that they didn't plan on.
My marriage ended after 5 years and I became a single Mom- living on very little money for the next six years. I never moved back home or asked my parents for help. I worked 2 jobs and went to school full time until I got a career. Was it hard- you bet. But no one else made the choices I made but me. So, it wasn't up to anyone else to fix it but me.
I am now in my 40's and am a professional Mom- remarried with an excellent salary. Knowing what I know now- I would have made incredibly different choices in my life. It wasn't fair to my children to be raised as they were- even if it turned out for the best in the long run.
Get an education- get engaged- get married- start a family.
Do a lot of babysitting and listen to the crying for awhile. That's a great way to curb the desire.
Good luck and think smart.
2006-10-04 14:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your 13 - 15 you really need to think about this. Pregnancy IS NOT A GAME and shouldn't be played by a 13 - 15 year old. baby's are hard work and its even harder trying to get through the labor. You have your whole life ahead of you, why would you want to leave school to have a baby now? trust me schooling is more important to a year 7 - 10, get your schooling first, wait until you find the right person who will be there through the whole of your pregnancy and you will have to put up with him for the rest of your life. Just think about it a little longer, talk to your parents/school councilor about it or even a doctor. good luck
P.S i think your a little young to be making any life decisions but that's just my opinion...
2006-10-04 14:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i got pregnant at 15 and had a miscarriage. but when i was 19 i had my son adn when i was 20 i had my daughter. my parents werent mad but ya know it is alot of money and responsibility. i am now 22 and i love my babys for the world but i wish i could had them when i was married and finanically ok.at 19 i made 9 dollars an hour but me (and my mom) spent about 200 a week on the and noew my so0n is 3 and we put back 600 a month for both kids live your life and wait you want one now but it is hard i still have trouble wait till you finish school i wish i did but i9 now work 7 days a week with no days off 8 hours a day to support my babied. ievfen when i am badly sick i can not take off work cause i have 2 beautifukl ba bies to feed not just me. just wait alittle and share the love of a child with the man you love or marry good luck
2006-10-04 14:11:39 · answer #11 · answered by michele,deanna w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋