ok help me....SERIOUSLY?

Question

ok im leaving home in feb. with my girlfriend she is turning 16 in feb and i will 17 then....i live in ohio and no matter wut my parents say im leaveing and so is she we decided that together! umm well basiclly i wanna know how to avoid getting caught! ive already aranged the living situation but i dont think its enough! wut is the best way to stay away for 2 years! is it hard or wut? im really looking for answers on how to avoid my parents not people trying to convice me to stay! please help! by the way the reason were leaving is cuz she is pregnant

Answer 1

If you are serious about this, and by the sound of it you are, you need to do this legally. You can file a petition with the court for Emancipation. If you can prove to a judge that you can 1. that you can provide for yourself financially, 2. that you can provide a safe place to live for yourself and 3. that you have the maturity to make decisions in your best interest, then the judge will give an order that releases your parents from all legal and obligations and responsibilities concerning you. You can get an attorney at low or no cost through your local legal aide society.

Make sure that you use all legal roads because you will not do your girlfriend, yourself or your child any good behind bars for breaking the law. It sounds like it is just your parents that you have issue with. If you are granted Emancipation, if you have a place to live and a legal way to make money you should have no problem, your girlfriends parents will be the only ones that will have to give their consent. If they won't then she may have to seek legal means also.

Check with the local police to see how old you have to be to move out legally. In the state of Texas it is 17. In some states a girl can get married without parental consent as young as 14. Her being almost 16 and pregnant may actually work in your favor.

Teen marriage is hard and a child to that and it becomes even harder, but that does not mean that it can't work it just means that you will have to work harder. So think very long and hard about your decision. I have a cousin that got pregnant at 13, decided to keep her child and at 14 became a mother and then married her 18 year old boyfriend. That was in 1982 and they are still married. It wasn't easy for them and they struggled both finacially and personally but they worked hard and beat the odds.

Good luck and even if you can't be together the way that you want right now, you can be there for her and your child. Two years seems like a long time, but you will find out that with a baby the time will really go by fast.

I really don't see any difficulty with you being able to legally stay in the area that you want to live, just follow the legal route and explain to your parents that although you may not have chosen to do the things they wanted you to do, you are going to be a father now and they have taught you to be responsible and do the right thing by your child and girlfriend. They will be mad, pissed off, hurt, angry and disappointed right at first but they will eventually see that you are trying to step up and be a man and they will respect you for that.

Answer 2

Umm you arent old enough to do that one you are a kid at 17 two running away seems childish .. you are going to have to face fact and prove you are a young man not a scrared kid
you will need you parents both sets right now it is mean and thoughtless . Do you have a good job to pay for everthing insurance, baby stuff a home . help from anyone at all. Even adult ppl need help when babies are here and coming But even more so a kid. Also you might as you are older be charged with all kids of this like kidnapping to sat. rape
Act like a MAN nad dont run for everyone sake

Answer 3

Do kids think before they do anymore?

For one none is going to let two kids rent a place and for two do you have any idea a baby cost? Just getting ready for it is going to cost you well in the thousands and lets not forget about medical bills. Just to have ultrasounds cost in the thousands and then to have the baby WOAH that is about 15,000 right their. The only way to get threw that is insurance and I got news for you Kido the only jobs with the type of insurance that will cover your girlfriends appointments, ultrasounds and delivery are the ones who only hire people who have graduated high school and are decent jobs, no fast food place is going to give you that type of medical insurance.

How are you and your girlfriend going to go to school? Seeing as your underage your parents have to go to the school and get all your school records and have them switched to your new school and who is going to watch the baby while your in school or do you and your girlfriend plan on dropping out and working at fast food places all your life because guess what dear fast food places are about the only places that will hire drop outs.

If you run away your parents can contact the authorities and report you as run away's in which once they find you and your girlfriend you two are going to be in ALOT of trouble.

Clearly you and your girlfriend have no idea what the real world is like and how the real world works nor do you know how expensive babies are. It sounds to me that you and your girlfriend needs your parents because you have no idea what you re doing or what you are in for.

I was 16 when I got pregnant and not once did I think of running away because I new it was stupid and none in thier right mind would let a 16 year old rent a place, not to mention it is aganst the law to do so. I told my parents and yes they were pissed but they got over it and they helped me threw it and my dads insurance covered my pregnancy and delivery.

I really urge you and your GF to sit down and talk to both of your parents, leaving will be a very stupid idea and within a week you will just be back and have to deal with your angry parents.

Answer 4

So your going to be a parent, now more than ever you need to be responsible and "adult". Running away isn't going to help anyone, she will need the help and support as time goes on, you both will. Whats done is done, call your parents all together and let them know as a FAMILY because that is what you are now. They might be upset & worried and be on the attack, your their babies remember and all they have ever wanted is for you to be healthy and taken care of. Your obviously willing to take responsibility for your actions as is she, but the grandparents have a right to be apart of this too. They will love that child as much as they love you no matter how mad they get now. If they love you they will help you both prepare for this and plan for your futures. I seriously believe you need to talk to your families about the soon to be family member, tell them "we are pregnant and are going to be responsible but we need help, we've never raised a child and don't know where to start preparing" act like an adult and hopefully you will be treated as such.

Good luck to you both, and I hope your baby is healthy and happy always.

Live, Love & Laugh,
Michelle

Answer 5

So you want your child to grow up not knowing it's grandparents? You both should sit down and talk to your parents or a counselor before making a drastic decision such as leaving. I know first hand how hard it is to raise a child at such a young age. I had my first at age 17 and COULD NOT have done it without the help of my parents and family. Diapers cost a lot of money, as do babies.

Answer 6

I`m not going to tell you to say, but please TELL YOUR PARENTS!!! They might not understand, at least not right away, but they`ll get used to the idea eventually and they should know that they`re going to have a grandchild. You`re going to be a parent and you have to start taking responsibility for your actions. You may think so, but runnning away because you`re to afraid to tell your parents is not responsible. You`re not five years old anymore. You can`t run away from a problem and wait for someone else to handle it. If things don`t work out then fine, leave, give them time to cool off, but they`re going to find out eventually and they`ll be ten times as mad if they find out when the kids a few years old than if you tell them now.

Answer 7

Hey Mike, Sounds like youre a smart guy. I agree with the previous poster, confide in your parents first, or her, if theyre easier to talk to.
YOU DO NOT want to do this alone. We both know that, so BE A MAN, thats what you really want isnt it?? TIME to **** or get off the pot. You asking this question, shows you're capable of making the right decision. Don't screw things up with your girl and her parents. It may be tough at first, but everyone will eventually stand by you.
Best wishes,
Mr.BeenThere

Answer 8

Sorry but you won't make it on your own too long at 16 and 17. You need a place to live, food, lots of things. You can't do that without a college education or working lots of hours. It will be better for you and your baby to stay and work things out with your parents. I know you don't see that know but trust me you will. Good luck.

Answer 9

mike i know u said no convincers of other, but. my mom was the meanest baddest B i knew. i was pregnant at (12) you hear dat(12) i hid my pregnancy under a big sweat shirt for eight months. at least you are there trying to help her. my babies father left me alone. well one day my cousin told my mom she came in the room i knew a pistol was loaded and about to kill me and the baby or i was about to be sent off to the ghetto Version of reform school. but it did not happen that way. she hugged me and kissed me and said we will get through this here are some suggestions. don't start running now you'll run from all your problems forever. and you will make your child a runner. stop be still and face your problems head on. GOOD LUCK!! p.s. you've already proved your one of the real men or good guys finish it!!!

Answer 10

well your probably going to get caught, parents aren't stupid and they are going to realize that she has taken off with you, just stick with the truth, tell them your story and tell them that she is pregnant, and you have made up your minds. you are both old enough to make your own decision's but, just watch what you are doing, your both young and you will need your parents support. What happens if something goes wrong? just think of the consequences before you take your actions... good luck... just sick to the truth...