Do you think a father who doesnt pay child support should be allowed visitation...were not talking LATE on support or cant pay, but does everything in his power NOT to pay...he hasnt ever bought her a pair of shoes, or clothes, or offered to help pay for school fees, etc.....the state has now revoked all of his licenses, but he doesnt care..do u think he follows the law?
If he cared at all, he would support his child...he doesnt attend any school events, he never calls. The only time we hear from him is every other weekend (if he decides he wants to see her). I feel like I am sending my daughter off with a total stranger. I am contemplating telling him no when he wants to pick her up...maybe it will make him s*** or get off the pot.
2006-10-04 13:49:54 · 16 answers · asked by spoildrotn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. I would also contact you're attorney and the courts. Maybe they can make something official to stop his visitation until he pays back support. If he doesn't care about supporting the child through money, why should he support the child by visitation? It gives the child very mixed signals. He probably just wants to make you mad by visiting. It's like a slap in the fact to you.I would go through the legal channels though. Just to have record of it at least.
2006-10-04 13:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by lazycat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not act upon this with out legal advice... speak to your attorney and see if his visitation can be stop due to the reasons stated... unfortunately he is the father, but you say when he picks her up... is he driving? you said they revoked his license... do not allow her to go... you know he does not have a valid license and that would not be the best thing for your child to be in a vehicle with a non-licensed driver... let him call the police that you are not allowing your daughter to visit his father... they will most likely arrest him for diving on a revoked license... and in due time without paying support the courts will issue a warrant for his arrest... maybe that will open his eyes... good luck and remember to always keep the best interest of your child first
2006-10-04 20:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a legal visitation order from a court? If not, I wouldn't let him near your child. And if he tries to take you to court - then you take him for non-payment of child support. Actually - that's what you SHOULD do, no matter what - report him. Because he won't change, and it's your child that will suffer. If he was a good daddy in other ways, I'd say give them man a break if he's trying to be a positive role in the childs life. But he's useless! REPORT HIM - MAKE HIM PAY!
2006-10-04 20:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by Kristen G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello and i'm sorry you have a a$$ for a ex! first off if it was pa he would be in jail..and also in pa they frown on removing the fathers rights due to what you just said..it would encourage child abandonment..it falls under the best interest of the child theory..even though you are right don't give up and keep pursuing support..i hate a dead beat but i also hate the dudes that can see there child and don't take advantage of a wonderful thing..it would be different if he wasn't paying and actually had shared custody and spent half of the week with her..keep your head up and i wish you all the best!
2006-10-04 21:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time has come to get A LAWYER again. Take him to court and let him loose his driver license! He does have a right to see his child,but when he shows up have her dress in her under ware only. He will ask why. Tell him that he has not payed child support, and that's how he takes her or not at all.
2006-10-04 21:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself who is it hurting by not letting her see him? IS it hurting him? Yeah maybe it would but in the long run the only person that it really hurts is your daughter. That and if he has an order for visitation in some states you can be found in contempt of court for refusing visitation. I had a lawyer once tell me that visitation and child support are two separate issues.
2006-10-04 20:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by busy_mom_2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, this is a real bummer. Our state law is financial support is not a cause for denying parenting rights. Usually such low lifes get around liens by working for pay under the counter or by living w/ gf who is willing to support him. If he is earning the money, then get legal help to nail him.
If he has a legal right to visitation, be very careful about saying no as he can then take you to court and get more visitation.
Thank you for caring about your daughter. Please continue your good efforts and keeping her from paying the price.
2006-10-04 20:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does your daughter feel about her Dad. Does she enjoy spending time with him? Do they seem happy when together?
Does he ever disappoint her and not show up when he is supposed to? Does your child call him Dad? Is she excited when she comes home, or does she seem disappointed in the quality of the time they spend together.
I think the answer is in how your daughter feels about her Dad.
If cutting off their relationship which is sadly lacking in so many way, is going to hurt her badly, I would say let them continue share visitation. If he is just making her confused and feeling badly about herself, do consider cutting off the visitation.
I know this is hard to swallow (his no-support attitude) but I know that it could harm your daughter if she has strong feelings for her Dad and you cut off visitation. She might resent you for doing it.
I would really have to know more about the situation to make a clear judgment, but it seems like he doesn't deserve visitation - keep asking him to help out and he might disappear of his own free will.
2006-10-04 21:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by Lean on Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was faithfully paying child support and having regular visitation with his son when the mother upped and moved to Florida. There was nothing he could do to stop her. After 8 years, she gave him back to his Dad - told him she had raised the boy for the first 8 years, he could do the second. However, she contributes nothing to the boy's support. Strange world.
2006-10-04 21:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the children want to see him?
If he loves his children and in NO way miss treats them when he does have them...and the children WANT to see him...then I say yes they should have there time together. However I would tell him that he helped bring these children into the world so now step up to the plate and help raise them. Having said that....using the children to get him to pay up...is wrong. Kids have a hard enough time with divorce as it is....without the parents playing games. There are MANY other ways to get him to pull his weight...so us them...not the children.
Best of luck
2006-10-04 20:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋