I am bisexual and not ashamed of it. I have been with my girlfriend for almost 9 months now. If we ever broke up i would probably end up with another female. This by far is the best relationship I have ever been in. I know were bisexual, but I wouldn't put a gay sticker on my car or join a gay club. Straight people don't have stickers or rallys for straight people. I just classify me as me and all my friends don't care that I have a girlfriend and nobody ever wants to fight me or anything like that. The most bashing I have seen is on the internet and on this site. I am not taking up for bashers and I have nothing against people who are in clubs or whatever. I just think that people take things too far sometimes. Like I would go to gay clubs and stuff,but I wouldn't put a gay pride sticker on my car-nothing against it,but Were all just people,why advertise. And really people see me and my girl out all the time and no one has ever said anything out of the way.I am just me.bisexual me
2006-10-04 13:45:29 · 17 answers · asked by sexygal8321 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I know I can't be the only one who feels like this. I have some friends that are bi-sexual,they are also girlfriends and they feel the same way.Do you tkink I am a hippocrite?
2006-10-04 13:51:53 · update #1
Indy, how would you know? I have lived in more than 30 places since I was 5 years old thank you. All in SC, but more than just around my friends!
2006-10-04 13:54:14 · update #2
MY comfort zone? UM I also have a job and haven't lived with mommy &daddy since I was 15,so don't assume just because i am comfortable that I'm not a part of the real world!
2006-10-04 14:41:47 · update #3
I completely understand what you are saying and i completely agree. I do not go around on a band waggon with YMCA playing with me dancing and screaming i am gay on top of it. My friends all know my preference and are all fine with it, some even come to gay clubs with me. Its not that i am ashamed of it (I am dam well proud of it in fact) i just don't highlight the situation and ask for special considerations... I am not your "stereotypical" gay so maybe that makes it easier for people i guess?? When i was with my ex people wouldn't come up and gives us the bible they would say Two beautiful girls are wasting their potential (which i think is a complement in itself), or people would complement us and wish us well once we told them were not best friends we are partners lol... I am all for gay rights and try to stay up to date with everything but sometimes people brandish it to much and it actually turns into a bit of an overkill... So there is nothing wrong with you, people make their stance in different ways : )
2006-10-04 14:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by *Aus*Surfer*Girl* 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not advertising as you put could also be viewed as being in DENIAL. I don't feel the need to go to gay bars or clubs or spots where lesbians hang out, but I WOULD put a sticker on my car. I see nothing wrong with ADVERTISING for an organization or a club you belong to. Straight people do have bumper stickers: I'm straight, not Narrow, is one example. I mean I consider it the same as putting a sticker up that says: My kid is an Honor Roll student - thats advertisement that you are a mom, or My Kid goes to SIU, along with all my money - thats advertisement that their kid is in college. I think this form of advertisement is their way of meeting others in their social groups. Especially if you are not an socializer, such as at parties and things like that. Personally I would prefer to meet some nice girl at a gas station cause I have a rainbow sticker up, than have to go get dressed up, drive downtown in heels, buy a drink and walk into an all gay establishment to talk to a fellow lesbian. First of all I don't drink so I'd be extremely bored in the Lesbian Club, so I say to each his own. But personally I love the attention I get from being bisexual and I love to advertise that I am bisexual, I meet others who are similar to me this way. And furthermore, I am not embarrased or ashamed, or in the closet about who I am and what I stand for, if it is offensive to others then they can just look away or choose noto to deal with me all together.
2006-10-05 05:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by Fairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am bisexual, have been open all my adult life, and am 50/50 in my attractions.
When I was with a man, I saw how easy it was to be open, to say "I went to the movies with him this weekend" or hold his hand without people getting mad. (If they stared, it was because he was a very striking man with long curly hair and lots of tattoos and piercings.) It made us both think the world was really messed-up, because we weren't treated that way with same-gender partners.
Straight people don't have rallies or stickers because everyone is assumed straight until proven otherwise.
I'm an activist because I have gay and lesbian friends, I love a lesbian woman, and as a woman who loves a woman, I get the same trouble any all-the-way-gay person does. I have been fired from jobs for being bi. Gay people gave me my first places where I got published. I am discriminated against in marriage law just as much as any lesbian woman. Why wouldn't I work for gay rights?
Since I live in NYC, people are more or less blase about me and my wife holding hands, but I still hear things like, "Oh, it's so *brave* of you to have her meet you in the office!" (I come back with, "Oh, no, you're the brave one. Your boyfriend came and picked you up!") Our relatives have made things difficult for us, even though she's got a really sweet uncle and some of my relatives are coming around now. She was bashed; I almost was.
I'm glad you have had only good experiences so far, and that's how it should be. But it's no guarantee. I "take it far" because nobody else is going to fight for my happiness.
2006-10-04 14:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I personally don't hang a label hang round my neck saying "Hi, I'm a bisexual male with gender issues". But on the other if I'm challenged I don't hide it. Everybody I know, knows what I am. I don't think I'd go to a gay pride march or something like that, because it would embarrass my kids and spouse, unless of course they all came with me. The thing is is that I live in a city and a society which is largely tolerant of these sort of issues, and I don't need to fight for these rights. Okay, if there was some piece of major anti-gay legislation being discussed in parliament I'd probably march, but just to annoy the straights, na! Live and let live.
2006-10-04 14:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My current relationship is the best one i have ever been in too! I can really say i am in love it's so weird~and i often wonder what i would do if we split up! But i don't label myself as anything other than the fact i am a woman and i just happen to love another woman! I think alot that goes on in the gay world is just crazy! People out there putting on shows in the streets,and making everyone look bad! I am not like all of them!
2006-10-04 14:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Atheist. do no longer thoughts the label. i'm truly militant about it, and would't take any non secular human beings in any recognize heavily in words of recommendations or beliefs. as well the reality that i do no longer argue with non secular human beings (diverse than at the same time as delivered about), I in hassle-free words attempt to evade them.
2016-11-26 03:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am bisexual and g0y and I am not out to the whole world so I do not lable myself as far as my car is concerned or anything. But My partner and I will be starting our life together in a few years and when we do we plan to do it as out g0y men. We will live out publicly as paramours and pairbonded men. I do not think we will be putting rainbow flags on our things but we will not hide it either. I personally do not like stickers on my vehicles. I think they look rather tacky.
2006-10-04 14:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am me just me, a spirit/soul having a human experience upon a sphere call Earth. No better than another nor lower than another. Just another spirit/soul in a temporary learning experience.
Who tries not to judge others, but some make it most grieving and difficult
2006-10-04 13:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, i don't lable myself and don't like it when others do it. i feel that when they refer to me they are appling everything they think they know about lesbians and lableing me. its grand that you feel this way. i can really appreciate it. its great that you haven't had to experience things as most has. however, i think its the experiences that people go through and suffer at the hand of honest pure love is what makes those people express their feelings through bumper stickers and other gay paraphernalia. And i can appreciate that also.
2006-10-04 14:05:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if it is necessary to put a label on me to clarify somethings, that's the only time that i allow myself to be labeled. nobody can put a label on anybody because each of us have different personalities and preference. labels are usually used by bigots. but, label or not, i don't let it affect me. i am too happy with who i am to bother with it. i guess that's what the label 'gay' means: happy!
2006-10-04 14:16:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋