her he loved her all the time, always kissing on her, then one day he leaves, and takes money from the bank account, goes to casino and gambles it all away, then his wife finds out he had been gambling online, and lost a lot of money, and this was why he left, well now the guy is telling me he don`t love his wife and thats why he left, but i seen how he treated her, do you think he is really over her, and should i trust him, he tells me he loves me now, or does he love her, what do you think?
2006-10-04 13:44:08 · 13 answers · asked by theladylooking 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Him and his wife were together for 13 years, and he acted like they just married, and after only a month, he says he loves me, I have been friends with them for 12 of those years.
2006-10-04 14:08:08 · update #1
he probably loves his wife but he knows that he killed their relationship.
love isnt something that you can turn off and on like a water faucet. after 13 years, and still acting like honeymooners, i cant see him turning that love off.
he knows that he isnt going to get her back and he knows that he has to do something to keep you for a while.
if you have been friends with both of them for years, what in the world are you doing with him now. some friend you are. with friends like you, who needs enemies.
wake up and smell the coffee. you are a replacement and you will figure that out before too long and realize what you have done. you have managed to make yourself out to be the kind of friend that does nothing but hurt the ones that care about you.
2006-10-04 14:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you've seen how he treated her financially, then I would not dive into a relationship with him. I can almost guarantee you that the money is all gone and that's why he is leaving her. I wouldn't let him have any kind of access to my money if I were you. I don't believe for one minute that he loved her. He probably gained her trust and then used her for her money and now that it's gone, it's time to move on to the next one! Don't let yourself be a victim and he may be good looking and very charming but don't fall for it.....trust your gut instincts, you'll be better off in the long run!
2006-10-04 14:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by Bill B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man has a gambling problem! It doesn't matter if he still loves her, or if he loves you - do you really WANT to put yourself in the position SHE is in now? Seriously, think about it. Gambling is a disease, like a drug addiction, he is not going to stop! The deal is - of course he's going to tell you he left her because he doesn't love her - because if he tells you what REALLY happened - it would make it more difficult to move on into your life! He's looking for another sap to support his habit. DO NOT FALL FOR IT! No matter what he says. Remember, addicts (which is what he is) can sell ice cubes to eskimo's to get what they want - he's a con man, STAY AWAY!
2006-10-04 13:51:22 · answer #3 · answered by Kristen G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is trying to get a piece of you no what so of course he's gonna say he loves you to keep that door open but deep down he loves his wife they might even get back together but he will always have an excuse to tell you as to why he needs you like he'll say i don't love her the feeling just isn't there anymore you and me have a connection that i can't let go of oh yeah he will tell you these things to keep you in his corner i would say call it of now before this happens and in answer to your question he still loves her who can leave 13 years and feel nothing
2006-10-04 15:11:43 · answer #4 · answered by sweetie1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he is screwed up with a destructive gambling problem. I wouldn't trust him with my heart or my money. I would have to say you are both better off without him because he sounds like a liar as well.
2006-10-04 13:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should get involved with someone who has a gambling problem. If he lied and wasted he and his wife's money, what makes you think he won't do the same to you. Besides I doubt he's really over her.
2006-10-04 13:49:58 · answer #6 · answered by Chicklet 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You MUST be CRAZY to believe anything he tells you!
He treated her with lovey dove attention in front of others then used her and threw her away and you HONESTLY think he is going to be different with you???
I don't think he has a clue 1 about what love is and if you are dumb enough to trust him then you deserve what he will end up doing to you and YOUR money not to mention heart!
2006-10-04 14:03:51 · answer #7 · answered by mommakaye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are playing long shot odds. You pretty much wrote the answer in your description. He hides the money, lies, gambles, lies, and wants to cheat with you. Someone is not holding a full deck and baby, it's him. What he did once, he'll do again. They call them hustlers.
2006-10-04 13:51:13 · answer #8 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This man probably wants into YOUR bank account! Remember the old saying if it's too good to be true it probably is..If you even have to ask id this guy for real he probably isn't..
2006-10-04 13:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by *bossy* 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have a suspicion that he was wanting some of your money. Good luck!!
2006-10-04 13:51:43 · answer #10 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋