what do you think made you fall in love and fall out?
2006-10-04 13:07:14 · 22 answers · asked by super girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I was married and divorced - (9 yr marriage) and I really really thought I loved him when I married him and I think he felt that way too about me - but with my 20/20 hind sight I think we were both 23 we were ready to get married and settle down - we both wanted that and we got along pretty good at the time - so we got married. We were honestly - both in love with the idea of getting married and mistakenly thought we were in love with each other... Now, I can see it because I am with my soul mate now - and we are truely in love with each other - we don't even feel like we need to get married we know we will be together forever. But, we are going to get married next year so our children will be in a legitimate family. We plan on trying for one on our honeymoon!
But, do I think I fell in love and then fell out of love with my ex? No, I don't think I ever truely deep down loved him and the same for him too. When you truely love some one you have their best interest at heart - and would do anything to make them happy. If I were to be completely honest with myself I didn't really feel that way about him ever. And yes, we did look like a happy couple on the outside. We knew how to put on a good show out in public.
2006-10-04 13:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it means you were never inlove, I think that it just means you grew apart and both started moving in opposite directions emotionally and then physically. I know that you can fall out of love with someone if your own needs are not being met, but if people in general just relaized that it's not up to other to fulfil our needs there would be less falling out of love and less divorce and more working through differences and happier families.
2006-10-04 13:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by Linda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because u get a divorce doesnt mean u were never in love.. My x husband and i have been divorced for over 10 years and theres still a part of me that loves him.. not in a romantic way, but I truely loved him and true love never goes away may fade, u may find a way of copeing with that love, but it never fully goes away..
I think that my x loved me.. when we got married.. but i think circumstances that occurred in our marriage, made him fall out of love, fear, youth, responsibility..ect.. i think he had a immature kind of love and outlook on marriage and family, where even though i was younger then him i knew what i was getting into even at a young age, and i was raised to believe in marriage vows and how to own up to them every day not just when its convient.. unfortunately my x husband had really poor role models in parents that didnt stress that enough, he thought it would be a fairy tale...that it would be easy... and when reality hit him, it was like he ran into a brick wall.. sometimes i refer to my x husband as being invaded by body snatchers, because the man i married.. was nothing absolutely nothing like the man that divorced me.. he changed that much , he lost who he once was and fell into peer pressures, and hung around with people that instead of influencing him to do possitive things they influenced him to do negative things..
To me my x husband is dead, the person i love is dead, its as if im a widow mourning for her late husband, because the man i married 15 years ago no longer exsists on the face of this planet...
2006-10-04 13:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage and relationships are hard....getting a divorce doesnt mean you were never in love just that you allowed yourselves to fall out of love.
2006-10-04 13:21:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce has come out of circumstances, Many times couples do not discuss and sort out issues before jumping the gun. I think couples should go back to the time they got married and look at what brought them together
2006-10-04 13:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by suresh k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it means that you've fell out of love and that happens often. Two of the most common problems that make a person fall out of love from a marriage is when they become abused by their spouse (any type of abuse; physical, mental, emotional) and infidelity.
2006-10-04 13:11:00 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy....people change...some for the good and some for the bad, or maybe they were trying to be someone that they just weren't! That seems to happen a lot. That doesn't mean that they were never in love, that just means that the feeling is gone, and in that case it is better for them to separate, because they will only be miserable.....trust me.
2006-10-04 15:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by josiedickelman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of things can cause divorce and because two people are no longer together, doesn't mean they were never in love and it doesn't mean they no longer love each other in one way or another.
2006-10-04 13:09:33 · answer #8 · answered by Dusty P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it may mean that you didn't know that love meant staying past the "feelings of love" and that loving someone is a daily - moment to moment decision - not just based on emotion/feelings - which is sadly a common misunderstanding.
2006-10-04 13:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that it means you were never in love. Its just that people can make you love them and make the love die. Its how you treat others that can do it. It could be just one thing, and its gone. Ever heard there's a thin line between love and hate? I believe its true!!
2006-10-04 13:13:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋