how do i get over losing my wife,when i want her back,but she dont want me.?

Answer 1

I will tell you the best thing to do but you have to do it for yourself. Keep yourself busy so you do not think about her all the time. Keep yourself as distant as you can from her. Women would rather have some time alone to think and that is probably what she needs. Do things for yourself and find some things that you liked to do before you met her. Start asking other women out and have fun. If you were not abusing her in any way and your marriage just came to an end, then I bet when she sees that you are moving on, then she might just become interested again. Good luck.

Answer 2

As with all things in life, when we loose one thing we must replace it with another. With the affairs of the heart only time will heal. But the less you think about her by throwing yourself into something else the better off you will be.

It's all about acceptance. You have not accepted the fact you are no longer wanted by the woman you love. Until you do accept that and move on you will always have the feeling you do now.

I lost my wife of 37 years to someone else. I was devastated. But the more I thought about it I realized I really would not want to be with someone who doesn't love me back. It is a one way street to nowhere.

So I found a dating site on the Internet. Lot's more of them now than when I first looked. I put my profile out to see what would happen. I made contact with a lot of woman. And the more I talked with them the less pain I had. One of them I ended up marrying. So but letting go and moving on I am so very happy I did.

I am now just friends with my first wife and we e-mail now and then.

You can do this. Hard as it is you can. Just look at it as though it's a new start and this time you will work hard to get it right.

Answer 3

You have to stop being occupied with her and become occupied with yourself.
Now that you're no longer part of a unit, it is time to pamper yourself and do things for you. You can now enjoy every aspect of life without worrying about upsetting a partner.
First, you should spend time with your friends and go out. Enjoy the single scene by going to clubs, bars, and treating yourself to the things you enjoy like football games and other activities.
Another thing is pampering. Yes, you're a man, but men need to be pampered in order to take care of themselves too. When you're feeling down, take a soothing bubble bath to help relax the stress in your life.
Make a list of some of the things that annoyed you about your wife. Seeing flaws and imperfections will draw your attention away from being so depressed about losing her. You'll start to realize not everything about her was positive.
Moving on is a huge step, it takes a lot of personal care and behavioral reflection.
Like I said, what is best for you at the moment, is caring about yourself and living your life. Occupying yourself with activities and duties will help ease your mind.
Jumping into a relationship or net dating isn't something you will want to do right now. Your heart needs time to heal before it can open up to someone else.

Answer 4

Well i no the feeling and when they leave u and say they don't want 2 be there "DO just one thing LET them go,some people where never serpose 2 be there at all we just put them in our life and fall for them like rain from the sky ,its hard, but feel me on this,u will get over them it just takes time and alot of prayers for a healing heart, u can move on ,TRUE LOVE comes only a few time in out life and we miss it sometimes,but just hold on to Gods Love and everything will fall into place in time,his love is the only true love there is,never lie or walk out on u always there...be blessed and no that help is on the way...2 god be the glory.Just Pray

Answer 5

Michael J:
I see this situation many times, and there is really only one solution. The moving finger writes, and having written, moves on. You are fixated on the relationship because you have not grieved for love lost. This process is absolutely critical for the health of your heart and mind. If your wife loved you, she could not bear to be away from you for a single day. I am afraid you are perpetuating a fantasy, and it will take a deadly toll on your soul, if you do not move quickly to remedy the situation.

Do you know what I am referring to, this grieving business? Let the tears fall like rain, curse, shout, punch, kick, yell....but by all means, expell that bitterness from your heart. Soon, you will notice a calm, like a gentle breeze after a storm. Sadness may never leave you; but your heart, thus purified and cleansed by your tears, will regenerate and be prepared to greet love when it comes to your door.

Never underestimate the power of love!

Answer 6

Sorry to hear this Michael. I guess that best thing you can do is to just be with you family and friends and get some help and support from them at this time. Marriages break up for various reasons and it might be worth your while looking at your part, your emotional wants and needs and the part that you own and played in the marriage. You just have to keep putting one foot infront of the other each day and in time, things will get better, but I know this seems along way off. I hope you'll be alright. :)

Answer 7

I don't want to make any judgements or sound overly harsh here, but I'm guessing that if she doesn't want to see you again, you did something pretty bad. In which case, I'd say the only chance of ever getting her back would be to show her you respect her wishes and leave her alone. If she wants to get back with you, she can make that move, but that's now her decision.

Answer 8

EASY !!!
Go to Thailand or somewhere like that for a few weeks, the country is full of guys trying to get over break ups and has a 100% success rate.
Its the Dogs Bo**ocks...
Go for it son !!!

Answer 9

Just move on. You cant do or say anything to make that person come back to you. I know its heart breaking, but I would move on the best I could... one day at a time. Good luck!!

Answer 10

Acceptance of the fact that it's over and she has chosen to move on? I know it's easier said than done but acceptance is usually the first step they recommend.