I've already posted my problem. now let me make it more clear.I was in love with this girl for more than 1.5 years. We used talk lot n lot. We met in chat. Became friends. then lovers. She is located in a different state. Everything was fine. Suddenly i felt a drastic change in her behavior. She started avoiding me. I thought it was because of some misunderstanding. Later only i understood that She fell in love with her ex for the second time. They were talking like husband and wife for 20days. Later she ditched him. She has made him believe that she's not in love and we were jus friends. after 20days God knows what made her avoid him totally.initially she was lieing to me that it was his mistake and she never loved him.only after one month only she accepted that she fell in love and it was just an infactuatoin. Now she says she needs me at any cost. at times she also blackmails me that she'll suicide. im ready to forgive but really cant forget those 20days. im confused......
2006-10-04 12:23:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She liked you, she then liked him, then she didn't like you, then she likes you and is threatening to hurt herself if you don't do what she wants.
Face it, this "love" is all about her. Forget her.
Next time she threatens to kill herself, call her bluff. Call the police in her area and tell them she has said she will harm herself. if she really is serious, they'll get her to safety. If she isn't serious, she's going to get the wake-up call of her life. Cops and ambulances don't like to be called out for idjits.
Find yourself a better woman.
2006-10-04 12:47:46 · answer #1 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who love each other don`t abuse each other. She has and is psychologically abusing you. She is telling you that her needs, at any given moment, are the most important thing and she will do anything to get what she wants including killing herself. Sounds like a borderline personality...run before you feel emotionally trapped, you cannot help her...and she will always attempt this sort of blatant emotional manipulation when she feels desperate.Forgive her and give her the name of a good psychologist or psychiatrist....then walk away.
2006-10-04 12:32:18 · answer #2 · answered by Therapist King 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You wont be able to forget those 20 days ever. Do you think shes trustworthy or no. I dont think she knows what she wants and that could be damaging to you. either way becaause a blackmailing with suicide is something you dont wanna be involved with. Try it if you feel the same about her but if you do your treading on thin ice
2006-10-04 12:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by Tom R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably afraid to be without a man in her life. She is very insecure with a low self esteem. Ask her to go to relationship counseling with you. If she really loves you she will be willing to go. If she refuses drop her as a girlfriend. You may want to keep her as a friend but let it go no further. She was probably shown by her parents that her kind of behavior is OK. She really needs help to let her know what she is doing is wrong.
2006-10-04 12:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think of you will desire to fully be friends with him and choose what your coronary heart is attempting to assist you comprehend. in case you're afriad of being rejected then pass sluggish. He may be into you to. i comprehend there are various web pages that would extra effective cater to those that dont comprehend in the event that they're bi or gay or right this moment or besides the fact that and that they have got issues like messages boards the place people going throught the comparable concern can communicate jointly approximately it. you will desire to Google it i think of it could make it easier to lots!! good success!
2016-10-01 22:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by regula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my suggetion is tht u should not trust her..if she can leave u after 1.5years..or her ex...with in 20days u should not trust her or give her any kind of chance,,,,with the time being she will understand ,,and cancle the idea of suicide....suicide is not tht easy to do..she can't...do this...in the last i want to conclude that plz dun give her a chance and dun marry her ,,shez totally a flirt..!!
2006-10-04 12:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by maheen a 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you know that you can never live with the 20 days then stay out of it and move on. Other wise jump on and be happy :]
2006-10-04 12:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh hell no she got issues dont fall for her bull shes not being honest at this stage she doesnt really know what she wants........shes one drama queen just wants attention trust me i know how most girls are u dont need to be in that kinda relationship get out while u can....becuz if u dont ur going to be one unhappy guy never knowning whats going on in her head or if shes going to end up cheating on u ect....my advice get over her let her go move on thers more interesting girls that are actually worth it ;)
2006-10-04 12:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend, she has lied to you, she has cheated on you and she has threatened her own life - this is NOT someone you EVER want to be with - end your relationship with her and find a an honest, mentally stable woman - there are plenty of them.
2006-10-04 12:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by RT 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the b*tch! She doesn't deserve you! She lies threw her teeth. Let her lie to someone else. And if she wants to threaten suicide, tell her to call someone else. Anyone who does so never goes threw with it or really means it, they only want your reaction!
2006-10-04 12:29:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋