I find it annoying if you don't ask. My sister and I are not close at all, on my birthday she just walked up to me lifted my shirt and was touching my belly. I sort of got an attitude and said I thought it was rude. I told her if she wanted to see my belly, she should ask. She claims that since she's my sister she should be allowed without asking permission. When I told her she should still ask she got more of an attitude and offended. I explained that everyone seems to be man handling me, and that I'm not a buddah! I told her I gained 10 pounds in 4 weeks I don't feel cute and attractive and I don't want my belly exposed, and that I'm gonna just start swatting people when they attempt to touch me without permission. So she declares "I don't give a f*ck wether you're pregnant or not, I'll beat your ***!" I couldn't believe my ears. I told her go ahead and I'll have you arrested and I haven't spoken to her since. It really pissed my husband off and my mom witnessed it too.
2006-10-04 12:22:22 · 16 answers · asked by **hope/faith**1744 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No one said anything! My husband of course vented when we got into the car to leave and all the way home. Here's my problem: This isn't the first totally rude or offensive thing shes done since I've been pregnant. Anytime I see her it's something new. When we found out it was a boy, her response was Oh I'm glad because I can't handle little girls. And I hope you don't have a ginger baby because I can't handle that. (ginger baby- red hair and frekles) It's like shes jealous or p*ssed off that my mom spends more time with me now that I'm pregnant or something. I feel as if I can't handle anymore of her crap and I think I'm gonna cut her out completely. She doesn't even think that what she says and does is wrong! should I keep taking her abuse or just say enough is enough?
2006-10-04 12:25:54 · update #1
She sounds like she's insanely jealous to me. Is she single right now? Or, even worse, is she older than you and still single?
And yes, I hated that too. Especially when they didn't even say anything at all to me, just walked up and did it. And I don't mean that they didn't ask permission first, I mean the totally acted like I wasn't even there! Just like...My belly was on a pedestal with a sign that said "touch me please!"
It's really irritating, and quite rude.
Next time she does it, ask if you can rub her belly, cause it looks like she's put on a few 'baby pounds' too. She'll probably stop.
2006-10-04 13:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh, that is rude? I have to stop doing that then. Anyway, you and your sister need to sit down and have a heart to heart. I know it's hard to deal with immature adults. Believe me, I work in a prison and I know. But, you have to try to get along with your sister for your mothers sake. You are both her children. Now that you are having a blessing of your own, put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel if the two most important people in your life were at odds? One of you have to be the bigger person here (not poking fun at your weight gain). While your sister shouldn't have touched your belly without asking, especially in front of ppl), there was probably a nicer way to tell her that it bothered you. Make it a point to include your sister. She may be feeling left out. Again, I know she is an adult, but she is still one of God's children just as you are. God bless you and your family. Congrats on the baby.
2006-10-04 12:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know what you mean my belly pop about 4 weeks ago and people on the damn bus in the store at the doctors officeand even people in the apartment building where I live all touch my belly and I really don't find it cute at all. I think it is the motherly instinct coming out or the fear that they are tiring to hurt my baby I hate that feeling why do strange people feel the need to touch us I know how you feel and I don't blame you for being upset about it. good luck to you and your family and congrats
2006-10-04 12:37:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, belly touchers irritate me. It is one thing (for me) if they are close, like my mom or sister or hubby, but no one else. It is like everyone is entitled to touch a pregnant belly, stranger or not. Very irritating. As far as your sister is concerned, that way VERY innappropriate of her. My brother kept making coat hanger and "falling down the stairs" jokes when I got pregnant. It was an interntional pregnancy, we had been trying. I told him over and over to stop, so instead, everytime he saw me, he would act like he was going to punch me in the belly. He wouldn't cut it out, so I let my husband (a 6"2, 250lb police officer) "discuss things" with him. Solved the problem right there!
2006-10-04 12:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one has a right to touch you without asking your permission in that kind of way.
It sounds like this relationship with your sister is pretty strained regardless of the belly rubbing. You two need to have a long talk- or just stay away from each other.
2006-10-04 12:31:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I don't think its rude for someone to touch your belly if your really close, but in this situation your sister was really rude and sounds like she is angry because she wishes she was you. I think you should try talking to her and if she keeps acting the way she does then cut her out of the whole thing you don't need that kind of stress during this wonderful time in your life you and your husband should enjoy it and forget about your sister.
2006-10-04 12:40:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
it certainly relies upon on the type you look at it, or how "inner maximum" a guy or woman is, i assume. I have been provided that lots while i replaced into pregnant too ... yet, i did no longer thoughts. i myself took it as a compliment ... they had to "touch" my toddler. i think of it quite is a component of human nature. they like to ... no longer in basic terms experience, yet to guard a woman, while she's pregnant. Has everybody ever observed this? They open doors for you lots extra, once you're pregnant or they take specific secure practices measures, once you're of their presence. while you're status and that they are sitting ... they furnish their seat to you. they certainly tend to provide up and assist you pass the line ... yet once you're actually not pregnant, you may anticipate particularly a jointly as. i've got had human beings furnish to hold my groceries for me ... or maybe furnish to assist me around the line, while the line replaced into replaced into truly icy. it quite is all basically human nature ... IMO.
2016-10-15 12:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!! It drives me f**king crazy! I see it this way....you woudn't got up to someone's baby and start rubbing your hands on the baby's face so why the f**k are you touching my stomach and you don't even know me!?!? I'm with u girl! Just start beating the crap outta people who touch your belly!
2006-10-04 17:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by Kristi L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fortunately for me, that never happened. I couldn't imagine it. You are still a person. If you weren't pregnant, would they lift up your shirt and touch you?? Just because there's a baby, doesn't make it okay. NOBODY should be touching you without your permission PERIOD!
2006-10-04 12:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by momathomewith2boys 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
people used to do that to me all the time... unless they have been prego they wouldnt know that it is cute at first ( like the first 10 times it happens) then it is so f***ing annoying. You wouldnt walk up to a not pregnant person and rub up on thier belly....
2006-10-04 12:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋