My so called bestfriend who I trusted & would have given my right arm to took my friendship & used it to get closer to my wife. He tried to persuade her to have an affair with him. All I did was try to be a friend to him & he took my kindness as a weakness. Now I am still in shock that he would do that to me. He would come around me & act like nothnig happened. But my wife & his girl told me already what happened. He is a known liar & I know I will never get the truth out of him. Now I am filled in my head with what ifs & I am lashing out at my wife in a negative way. I am causing so much pain to her & torturing myself that I am pushing her away because I wonder if she is not telling me the whole truth. It feels like my world is crashing down. It happened over a 1 year ago. I was a happy guy before all this happened. I feel betrayed, embarrased, & emothinally stressed. I have nightmares every night about what could have happened the seconds I wasn't around them. I love her dearly.
2006-10-04 12:16:48 · 6 answers · asked by scorpio 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Try to think of something other than the "painful", but if and when it comes in waves, go for a walk, take in the sights and breathe deep...it will be good for your soul and your body, and most of all for your heart...time does heal, but only in small incriments, day by day..there will be the time when you go a whole day without thinking of your pain, then another and yet another...but don't be fooled, it will always come back, even years later, so be prepared for that, but not hurt....
2006-10-04 12:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by basport_2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough ..listen if something would of happened between your firend and your wife he would of told you..if she had something to hide then your wife wouldnt have told you and kept shut..your so called best friend is an ****** to the fullest extent and you should erase him from your memory and move on becasue maybe this is what he wanted in the first place..to mess up your relationship so that he can try and take your wife away..so dont let him get the best of you..and stay strong..and talk things out with your wife if you have doubts..talking is good..good luck and remeber it might seem endless now but time heals everything..
2006-10-04 12:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if your wife told you this was happening, chances are that nothing happened between them. She was probably bugged by the fact that your buddy was doing that to her. Now, you're angry about it and taking it out on your wife. Help her understand that you do love her immensely and that you are sorry for taking out your anger on her. Instead, take it out the a**hole that tried to steal your wife. And be glad that you do have a woman that is loyal. Especially these days. Instead of punishing her you should reward her for being so good to you. Tell the other jerk to screw off and get his own wife.
2006-10-04 12:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by sexy lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro,
You have got to move on.The guy was not a friend.He is in the rear view window of your life.Your wife is with you because she loves you.The world has scummy people in it this is a fact.Let it go,move on,it isnt worth all this energy.
2006-10-04 12:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stop writing things like this about your past and decide to take control of your thoughts. You decide that the moment you think about it, you say STOP and think about something else. You can even write yourself a note to read each time you want to think of him "Think about ____ instead"
You can snap a rubber band on your wrist when you start to think about it.
Change your own thoughts.
Get busy with other things.
Get a hobby
Volunteer
Remodel the house.
Help babies with cancer
STOP indulging yourself with these thoughts.
2006-10-04 12:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sooooo sorry for you! But maybe you should try hard to get over it. Take a nice long vacation alone with your wife, have fun!
2006-10-04 12:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋