what is the definition of love?

Question

I know this is a cliche and commonly asked question but I'm bored, just downed a bottle of wine and can't stop thinking about a certain someone. I just can't help questioning if this is due to love for this person or something else. I can safely say I've never been in love before (even tho I have 2 kids and spent nearly eight unhappy years with their father). I have been single for 4 years, love my independance but finally feel ready for real love. So why did I have to fall for someone in a position that could prove extremely difficult to form a romantic relationship with? Is this just me craving something I cannot have or what????

Answer 1

okay this isn't a text book version .. but to me the definition of love is ... the over whelming urge to be with that someone, to want them, to trust them completely, to feel that tingling sensation when ever they are close to you, to want to share your thoughts and feeling with them, to want to share your whole being with them, and not being able to imagine being without them.

Answer 2

I can see your dilemma. You're trying to be truthful to yourself which is good, so many people jump on the 'love' bandwagon, without taking the meaning of the word seriously. Don't you find it funny how many people believe that true love is all about how 'you' feel. True love isn't about how the other person makes you feel.. we can all feel that by being 'in-love' or infatuated with someone. This can last days, months, years... but it does eventually fade or end. What is left.. once the spark has gone and if there is still a relationship.. is true love. It's all about our own self sacrifice... care, respect, friendship etc all the giving values we associate with love.

Humans can be selfish, which isn't a bad thing..... so if you want to know if you truly love this person ask yourself this..... am i willing to compromise myself, my comforts, happiness, dreams etc. It's like the love you have for your own children but obviously with extras thrown in. This works both ways by the way.. is he willing to do the same for you... whats the point in giving true love if it's not reciprocated?

However, nothing stops you from enjoying yourself, you're an adult and entitled to happiness as long as you realise the consequences! This person may not be the right one, but if you're prepared for it all to end one day, then have fun! Hope it helps and good luck with whatever you decide....

Answer 3

So the wine was good, huh? Made you start wondering about the true origin of love....so it must have been decent. (smile) Love is what shows us that God does exist. It's a word that tries to capture the essence of what is best about humanity. You don't need a good definition of "love" though. You need to have someone to tell you that it is okay to follow your desires and have some fun in life for a change. If he's married, just DON'T do it, though. It may feel right, but it is not worth the pain you are going to have to face. Make yourself available to find and to feel love and you will be amazed at what will happen. Good luck...now, don't forget to drink a big glass of water and take two aspirin before you go to bed.

Answer 4

I say what u r really scared of is a real relationship and therefore got yourself hooked up with an unavailable person. You want companionship with no real strings. Personally, I don't blame u. Stop looking and someone will come along when u least expect it . Concentrate on your children and your life with them[ u don't sat how old they r, that makes a difference], so just do your thing and don't worry about the big picture. They say there is someone for everyone, u just have to b able to recognize him when he shows up, but it's not gonna happen if u r hooked up with an unavailable person. good luck.

Answer 5

Love is harmony with anything you come in contact, life,persons,things etc. Love is art of living.Can be learned. It does not mean only that you are going to get a person which will attract you and get an equal response but to squeeze out of your life the best you can (including preparation for love between two persons).The rest is up to Heavens.Maybe A Manual for Living (A Little Book of Wisdom) by Epictetus can reveals you more.

Answer 6

There is no 'definition of Love,' because there are many ...and many that are internalised and all but impossible to put into words.

'Sacrifice,' is a good word that might help towards a definition. It's where you sacrifice your self, your feelings and needs in favour of Other, because the feeling of Love you feel is greater than you are.

'Integrity' is another word. Where you 'stand up for exactly what you feel,' even at the risk of seeming (or being) foolish or mad in the eyes of those who do not see or feel what you do.

Sometimes, those people we 'fall for' are not 'ideal' in relation to what we need, and sometimes there is a pattern to this in us (ie 'falling for those with alcohol problems') which we may know nothing of at the start, but 'we picked yet another.'

There is no 'Definition' just as there is no 'Answer.' What there are, are DefinitionS and AnswerS.

You chose or come to your own, and own it as your experience.

Good Luck

Sash.

Answer 7

love (lÅ­v) pronunciation
n.

1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
2. A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.
3.
1. Sexual passion.
2. Sexual intercourse.
3. A love affair.
4. An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.
5. A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment.
6. An expression of one's affection: Send him my love.
7.
1. A strong predilection or enthusiasm: a love of language.
2. The object of such an enthusiasm: The outdoors is her greatest love.
8. Love Mythology. Eros or Cupid.
9. often Love Christianity. Charity.
10. Sports. A zero score in tennis.

Answer 8

Love cannot be described in words because it is a selfless thing and has no end or beginning. Words are only a means to distinguish one thing from another. One can only negate that which is selfless(Love). You cannot say it’s a feeling either because the mind can only recognise that which it knows i.e. it can only deal with knowledge which is always seen with the eyes of the past… Love only exits in the now, which is living. Knowledge is the past and is therefore dead, finished with, over and can only be used for reference. Therefore the mind can never touch it.

Answer 9

I can assure you well, when you least expect it, life will turn around and give you what you want - just let it. I fell for the wrong man and we are together now ten unbelievable years later and still happy. Don't have to have a ring to enjoy men you know - no disrespect - have some fun now. Good luck

Answer 10

is it love or just a need for a male companion let it go take things as they come one day at a time and time will tell if it is love try being Friends first and always remember the difference between love and lust don't spill the heart out Hun be care full real love is always apparent be care full Dave

Answer 11

i always seemed to ask myself this question. is it love, or am i in love with this other person. love is like, loving fridays cause you have the weekend, but being in love with someone special, well to explain is hard to do because the feelings that are conjured, there are no real human words that could possibly explain suchness.