I have been with my girl for some time now and we have already talked about marriage. We are not stupid young kids in a hurry or anything, this is just a serious question:
I want to ask her to marry me, but i am debating on asking for her parents consent first. Her dad likes me but her mother does not. So im afraid if i do ask they'll say no, cause the mom wears the pants in the family. But either way I'll still ask her, just wanted to know what u ppl think.
2006-10-04 11:40:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It isnt really customary to ask the parents for consent anymore. Atleast not in the USA.
2006-10-04 16:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask just her father. If he says no (because of the mother or not), oh well. The girlfriend's answer is the one that matters most! Also, I'd try to get the girlfriend to talk about you with her parents because it does seem like this relationship is pretty serious and her parents should be warming up to you. Good luck!
2006-10-04 18:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jemma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would NOT ask the parents, I would ask HER. Then, it's between you and her, and her and her parents. The real truth is, her parents have very little final say in whom she marries. They've had their shot at raising her and teaching her how to make good choices, it is the time she makes her own decisions. If she makes a choice that is different from what they would have made - well, so be it.
2006-10-04 18:52:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to ask for the parents permission. But if you would like to be traditional (and romantic and to win some brownie points) I would fill the parents in first. Ask to meet with them and tell them your intentions and then let them know how much she means to you and how happy you want to make her. Maybe even get them to be apart of the proposal itself?
2006-10-04 20:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by sxysparkler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to the father and ask his permission. And make sure he knows that you aren't going to be getting married really quick, that you plan on waiting for a while. And also make sure you tell him how much you love and respect his daughter!!!
Congratulations!!!
2006-10-04 18:57:00 · answer #5 · answered by polarbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the girl is over 18, she doesn't need her parent's consent to marry you. I'd ask the girl first, then I'd ask her parents for their "blessing." (note...as adults you won't ask for permission, you do want their blessing and you want them to wish you happiness).
2006-10-04 18:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
asking the parents is really sweet of you but if she is that intent on not being happy ask her how she would feel about the two of you getting married. go from there.
2006-10-04 18:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It"s old fashioned thinking nice but not these days, you are asking her to marry you not her parents, it would be nice if they liked you but that might never happen go for it ,
2006-10-04 18:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by a1_friend64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to takes risks when it comes to love. I think you should ask anyway and if her mother say no then tell her how much you love her daughter. I know whe doesn't want her daughter to be unhappy.
2006-10-04 18:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would discuss this man to man with her father. If he suggests you include the mother, tell him your feelings. Maybe he's not as much of a wimp as you think!
2006-10-04 18:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by Cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋