How do you handle people when you are trying to right but they always have a attitude no matter what?

Question

I have roomates that do not never like to clean behind themselves and I have went to them woman to woman to tell them that I do not appreciate it and it seems like they still do what they want to do

my question is not retatred and it do make sense see I am a B**** but i am trying to change my ways and not be so mean to other people and if you can not understand that that is you and first of all I never cry or be nagging because I will not do a d**** thing but I have children and my children is not going to live in filth

Answer 1

Find new roommates or live by yourself. Don't even think about changing them for your convenience, sweetie....it is just the way it is. Just stop whining and complaing and take action.

Answer 2

You are all adults I'll assume. They have their upbringing and habits. YOU will not change THEM into responsible, tidy adults no matter how much you nag or complain. (I'm sure their moms already tried that and were glad to get them out of the house)

If they already know how you feel about keeping things neat and being responsible for their own mess, but continue to be unkempt, then, they DO NOT CARE about YOUR feelings.

As I see it you have only a few choices.:
1. Continue to nag and complain. (even when done nicely, if it's more than a few times it's nagging and fruitless as you may have discovered) Maybe eventually they'll get the idea and change their slobby ways......(doubtful)
2. Lower your standard of living, keep your own private space clean, practice your broadjumps over the laundry mounds.
3. Sit them down. Don't bother to tell them woman to woman how you don't appreciate being their maid or their mother. Tell them that by such and such a date, you will be moving somewhere else if things don't change. Maybe they don't care if they have a 3rd roomate or maybe they'd rather have one who's just as much a slob as they are so they don't have to feel guilty for being lazy slobs......THEN.......and here's the most important part.............FOLLOW THROUGH!!!! If it bothers you that much, start looking around for other living arrangements, don't just threaten and talk about it. You're young and single and free to go anywhere you want. You are not trapped unless you think you are.
We DO teach people how to treat us.
If you put up with unacceptable behavior long enough from ANYONE, they assume that regardless of what you SAY it must be O.K. or you'd DO something.......
Look at it this way. If you approach this thing by thinking, "What can I do about this situation, then the ball is in your court, not theirs...Don't WAIT for THEM to do something..It's obvious by now they're not going to...Make YOUR decision....Plan YOUR course of action......and .........JUST DO IT.!!!
Sure beats waiting around for everyone else to change. Think of it as experience for later when you have a husband and kids.....LOL

Answer 3

ok, you are NOT their mother, you are simply their roomate. They more than likely moved out of their own house (with parents) so they could feel free to do what ever they wanted. IM SURE they didnt choose to live with you jus so you could nag as much as their own mom. If it bothers you so much, leave. If you cant leave, then move their stuff to their side of the room or where ever they keep MOST of their things and leave it at that. AND INSTEAD OF COMING ON HERE TO ASK A RETARDED QUESTION...talk to them once more ..not that it will do any good..but it makes you look like less of an idiot. Have a good day neat freak.

Answer 4

Jiucy, If I were you I would find people who were trained ..at home to be neat and live with these kind of people. Your room mates are slobs and there isn't much you can do to undo the bad training the recieved growing up(if they did) . Look elswhere for relief or they will keep trashing you.
Ammo

Answer 5

Life is too short to live with all that....people form their habits early in life,. do you think you can change them>? Move to another place, start looking for someone more like you to choose as a room mate.....

Answer 6

Don't clean their mess. Do your part and clean after yourself, and let them clean up their own dirt. When they start complaining about how nasty the place is getting, then tell them, "I don't know what you are talking about because I clean up my mess". All they can do is start cleaning.

Answer 7

The way you have worded your question does not make any since.