you cook, clean, have sex as often as he wants, support his schedules, take care of his kids what am I doing wrong?
2006-10-04 11:28:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it is not you - if you do all of that - i do all that for my husband and we have been married for 12 years and have 5 children - i am not even 30 yet but we have had our share of problems. After 6 years into our marriage we had a problem and he cheated, even though he didn't consider it cheating because he asked for space first (2 hours later he was in her bed) he told me he did not want the divorce and he would be back. so i waited 4 months for him while he was with another woman, during that time i moved, got someone new, new job, life everything and then we started talking and well we wound up back together and he has appreciated everything i do - everyday there is a compliment and plenty more than that. He has always gotten everything he wanted from before we split and even after -except after he got no trust but he has made up for it and I realize that his cheating was not my fault but extreme faulty judgement of his. But talking and sometimes drastic measures can bring a couple close and back to reality - get a life of your own - with the kids and without the kids- do Not include him. Pretend you are divorced and free (within your own moral standards of course, I do not condone cheating for any reason) - that will Knock the lights right back into to him. You are Not His anymore and he will want to know what is going on - when he does - you tell him why (make him wait on the answer awhile) but tell him, then work it out, if he loves you then it will work out and let me tell you relationships can be better the 2nd time around.Maybe you have lost who you really are and in a way - if all you do is live for him and the kids - THEN WHO ARE YOU -and if you cannot answer that then maybe he has somehow lost you too.Good luck
2006-10-04 12:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by lovette20012000 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh sweetie you sound like the greatest thing... The dream girl right!?! And right you are.
But the answer to your question is this... You cook, you clean, you have sex as often as he wants, you support his scedule and take care of his kids. Confusing I know but when a man has everything he wants what more is there.........?
He misses the chace. He wants to be challenged, you need to keep him guessing. He might even be a little bored. I know it is a s s backwards but that is the reason. don't nesecerrally stop what you are doing for him but don't hand everything to him on a silver platter. You weren't put on this earth to serve him. You need to have some fun too.
2006-10-04 11:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U give it up too much, hold out on him, make him beg for it. For example, you eat fish every day for a whole month. What do you want now, something new. If he cheats alot, have a three-some. Wouldn't you rather him sex another woman with your knowing rather than behind your back. All men cheat or want to. It's hard to deal with. Take him to a strip-club to get a professional lap dance,he'll love it. Keep the relationship fresh. Are you married because if you dealing with all that and he ain't marry you yet, chances are, you aren't getting married to him. Have you ever heard the expression "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free." Think about it........................
2006-10-04 11:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by lolly679 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
His own insecurities. Being a former cheater I must admit that even though my marriage was good I felt that by chasing other women I was proving to myself that I was still desirable sexually. I did this with no regard to how it made my wife feel because it was all about "Me" Unfortuatley She grew tired of it and we are no longer together. I had to lose everything to come to terms with this, and I hope these words can help someone else not to make the same mistakes. If I could change it I would but like they say " Too little too late"
2006-10-04 11:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can always trust a cheater to cheat. How can you marry a cheater, and then expect him to not cheat?
I have a friend who will cheat on a new girlfriend he is infatuated with. I can't even begin to cheat on a girlfriend I want to split up with.
Personally I think being a cheater is kind of like being gay. They are born that way and should just come out of the closet and admit who they are. Perhaps they should only marry each other and then swing to their hearts desire.
2006-10-04 12:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A relationships takes two sounds like your doing your half. If he can't take care of his part, you can stay there and get used like a mat ,or go find someone new.
Cook, clean, have sex as often as he wants, support his schedules, take care of his kids,sounds like you'll find someone fast. Hell Give me a call !PLEASE
2006-10-04 11:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by Ben 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not your fault at all, you are doing nothing wrong. i think some men will cheat regardless, and some people won't know how good they have it till they lose it. i think many guy will be happy to find a women that does half of what you do. you should find someone that will appreciate you. good luck.
2006-10-04 11:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by rt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it so hard to leave him? You would rather get an STD? Trust me, no STD is worth any man!
I know its easier said than done, but you are just hurting yourself and your kids... show him you can do it without him, and he will see he can't do it without you... especially if you do all that for him!
2006-10-04 11:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by precious1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not doing anything wrong... he's either over-sexed (hormones raging out of control... has no self-control)... or... he wants to know if he's still "got it."
Got it... meaning>>> looks, charm, whatever attracts the opposite sex to a man.
He's only caring whether he's still got it or not... he's not caring about his wife.
2006-10-04 11:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not your fault my dear lady, but its just what the nature gave men, to be with as many females as possible, but only when he doesn't care about what u do for hem. Its not your fault
2006-10-04 11:36:39 · answer #10 · answered by khaldooni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋