My boyfriend use to spend all of his free time with me. Now he never spends time with me. We live together... So, he just comes home, goes to sleep, goes to school, and then chill with his friends. I asked him to spend more time with me and he keeps saying he will but he doesnt. Hes never home. Im always at home by myself. I feel like we are growing apart because he is not making time for me. I miss him all the time. We never really talk or do anything together anymore. Hes always gone what should I do???
2006-10-04 11:26:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
leave him, and get new boyfriend that is willing to spend time with you.
2006-10-04 11:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is don't stay at home, you need to go out and have your own life as well. You can't depend on a boyfriend to fulfill ALL of your social needs - its simply not balanced and healthy.
The next step is to organize dates for yourself and your man. It's not the quantity of the togetherness but the quality that is most important. Do something new and extra special together atleast once a month.
Thirdly, make your home a great place to be. Light some candles, use the fireplace if you have one, cook a great dinner... fill your house with positive vibes and I'm sure he'll be more interested in hanging out more at home.
In conclusion, look for ways to make the relationship stronger and see how he responds. And try to stay away from the blame game (i.e. we're growing apart because he doesn't make time for me), because we all know how that game usually ends. Chances are there are a lot more reasons that you're growing apart. The most you can hope is that you're atleast doing your part. If he doesn't respond to your changes, then that's it, you know you deserve better.
2006-10-04 18:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by nutty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is to seriously sit him down and have a one on one chat with him, don't allow him to leave until the situation is resolved, tell him to be honest with you and if there is anything that he would like to tell you. If he still resists then share with him your feelings and tell him how it is affecting you. Pray about the matter for prayer really helps. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-04 18:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by Ashanofy Frederick Dixon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's where you went wrong, by moving in with him... now what you need to do, is sit down and have a serious talk with him. Don't just tell him you want to spend time with him... have a serious talk with him.
2006-10-04 18:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by precious1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him. have u ever heard that song "Unapreciated" fom Cherish? he isnt showing apreciation towards u so just leave him and move on. even if u luv him ur gonna have to try to get over him cuz stay with someone that doesnt notice u isnt very much of a relationship is it?
2006-10-04 18:32:31 · answer #5 · answered by lothargrl_4_life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to tell you this, sweetie.......but you are his live in maid and sex partner!!! You need to take control of your life and stop whining and playing the victim role! You need to move on and have your own life. Either you need to find another place to live or he needs to. This is what happens when immature people "play house"........you made your bed, now lay in it!
2006-10-04 18:33:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the guy. He has dumped you already.
He is spending time with someone else.
2006-10-04 18:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by lofolulu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-04 18:40:38 · answer #8 · answered by cainejenny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋