My boyfriend use to spend all of his free time with me. Now he never spends time with me. We live together... So, he just comes home, goes to sleep, goes to school, and then chill with his friends. I asked him to spend more time with me and he keeps saying he will but he doesnt. Hes never home. Im always at home by myself. I feel like we are growing apart because he is not making time for me. I miss him all the time. We never really talk or do anything together anymore. Hes always gone what should I do???
2006-10-04 11:26:05 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make yourself scarce. What I mean is - get busy, make plans, be out a lot. I'm not saying you should cheat, or meet other guys - I am saying you should hang out with your friends, go shopping, find a hobby - but don't do it at home! WHen he comes in and realizes your out, at first, it wont have much impact. But when he sees that your out A LOT, he's going to start asking why. You simply tell him, because I'm bored and I'm lonely - you don't want to make time for me! Honey, life is way too short to waste. And guys like that don't always change for the better. LIVE for yourself, do what makes YOU happy - because if he walks out that door, who do you have? YOU! Be your own best friend! If he comes around, great - if not, then you need to decide what your next step will be. Good luck.
PS: Remember, if you have to beg someone to spend time with you, then their not worth YOUR time!
2006-10-04 11:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by Kristen G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH MY, I have the same problem. That's why I am answering all these questions on Yahoo! Hahaha.. I complained and cried to my boyfriend about this all the time. YOu know what? I can see that our boyfriends are thinking less about us and slowly stop liking us. Have you ever read the book called "He's just not that into you"??? If our boyfriends really like us, they would spend all their free time with us. I guess they are not into us anymore. It's time to break it off and start something new. I know it's hard, but it's better than being angry and upset all the time, right???
2006-10-04 11:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by Your Wife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time to have a serious conversation with your boyfriend to find out if this relationship is one the two of you should continue with because he's behaving like you're nothing more than a comfortable old habit that he doesn't know how to break. Life is too short for you to remain in a miserable situation. If this train isn't taking you where you want to go then it's time to get off.
2006-10-04 14:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is the truth if you really want it. He runs over you because you let him. You should have never moved in together until you married him. He has his cake and pie. He comes home long enough to get some booty and then goes out with the guys trying to get some stray.Kick him out ASAP. Get you a real man who treats you like a queen instead of a slave.
2006-10-04 11:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there....understand where your at right now. Unfortunately you are not his priority...that's obvious. I am not trying to be harsh but you should flip it up on him. Join a gym, or some group, get a part time job to fill in your "lonely" time. Once you create a life for yourself you just might realize that you don't need him. If he is not "adding" to the quality of your life, you need to do it on your own...as you should be anyways. Keep your chin up and make it happen. Only you can do it! Don't let him determine your happiness.
2006-10-04 11:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Amy22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't have to. This is one of the serious reasons for not moving in together before marriage. "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free". It's true isn't it? So many couples doing this and the woman gets the short end of the stick. Time to move out, get your own place and find another man. Good luck.
2006-10-04 11:29:55 · answer #6 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly how you feel. It's possible he is not even aware you feel this way. Men don't get "the clues" , or things you are trying to tell them. You must be clear and completly verbal , otherwise they will never understand your needs. And you should aslo find some sort of activity for you to enjoy. Anything, but just get out, it might help you see things more clearly.
2006-10-04 11:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by oscar g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this is a raltionship of convience.He is not commited to you. Try schedualling a date with him, married people have to do that.set him down and tell him just what you said here.don't be b****y about it, but be understanding and listen to what he has to say. Go from there. Be open to the fact that this relationship may be over.Sorry. Grandma
2006-10-04 11:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and smell the coffee. Does this sound like a relationship? I don't think so. It sounds like you are being taken for granted and you need to set some clear limits or else look for someone who is more interested in you than in anything else but you.
2006-10-04 11:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Be thankful you're not married to him or it's a tougher situation to deal with. Either way, he's not interested in you anymore if you're asking him to spend time but he's not putting you as priority. You're his girlfriend. He should think of you before his friends. good luck.
2006-10-04 11:34:14 · answer #10 · answered by Culito sanchez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋