my man always talks about how he is gangsta or a thug but honestly,a real gangsta stays on top of his game and never disrespects others unless being disrespected. I am his wife, yet he still acts as if he is stilll single!
2006-10-04 11:14:18 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not fake just conceited
2006-10-04 11:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by aliciarox 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont allow him to disrespect you. Its funny cause I was kind of in the same situation. Well I strongly believe that people will treat you the way that you allow them to. And thugs and gansta boys are still young at heart and always want it to be about them there is a fine line figure out what that is. There are different views on what being disrespected is and figure out what his way maybe he doesnt feel like he is disrespecting you. Then make sure do you do things that make you crazy to him only then will anyone ever know how it feels but remember communication is key in a marriage.
2006-10-04 11:22:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I spent 9 days in a jaul pod for drunk driving once. There were a bunch of idiots who shot off their mouths all the time, bragging about how tough they were. Then there were these really quiet, respectful 300 pound gorrilla type guys who just minded their own business. I hung out with them because the other guys were obnoxious.
After a while one of the quiet guys opened up to me. Turns out he and his buddy were being transfered to State prison to serve out life sentences for Murder. Gang murder.
I thought these guys were pretty cool, even for real ganstas and killers. I thought the guys who bragged a lot were very insecure and basically pansies. Sorry you got the fake tough guy. The problem is that one day somebody will call him on his bluff and then you will probably have some holes in your boyfriend.
So why are you hanging out with this loser?
2006-10-04 11:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you married a person that is at the most, a "studio gangsta". True gangstas game speak for them, they don't promote themselves and thugs ain't got time for all that chitter chatter. If he doing single things, then he is REALLY out of touch with reality before someone snatches him for being out of pocket.
Tell him to stop trying to be DMX and accept the Carlton Banks inside...lol. Hey, I speak the truth in love, not with harmful intent.
2006-10-04 11:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh brother. A real gangster...excuse me.."gangsta". No...a real gangster is involved in petty crimes and thuggery to significant narcotics rackets that always..ALWAYS...catch up to them. That is of course unless they're smoked in a drive-by or way-laid and ambushed. Or shot over who took one too many swings off the liquor bottle or pipe.
Get ready for any of the above. I mean...who wants a sh*tload of cops storming through the front and back door at 2 in the morning? Especially when...1..you know WHY they chose your place to visit...and 2...where's Al Capone? Oh...yah...that's right...acting like he's still single.
Are you getting the message lady-jane? You do want you want. Advice is free. But...you can never say without lying to someone...that you weren't told.
2006-10-04 11:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he's fake, or he's completey insecure. He's trying to convince you, or whoever he's talking to, that he is what he's claiming to be. If he's disprespecting you now, he's going to disrespect you forever. Guys like him don't change - I can promise you that. I am 36 and in my second (and final) marriage - the first guy was a loser, couldn't hold a job, wasn't a real man. He was italian and acted like he was mafia. But I found a GENIUNELY good man, who treats me like I'm the best woman that ever lived. That's what you need girl! Don't waste your life - or you'll be 40 and bitter!
2006-10-04 11:20:41 · answer #6 · answered by Kristen G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I'm married too and my husband and I love each other but sometimes I have felt that he felt that he was still young and good looking so he could get attention from other ladies. He seemed to like attention from other girls. I have had to discuss how some of the comments he's made really hurt me and make me worry or question his actions. He is starting to work on it now. I'd suggest that you just discuss with him how it makes you feel while continuing to show love and attention to him.
2006-10-04 11:19:27 · answer #7 · answered by eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they are fake. I think they want attention. If they talk too much and exaggerate about themselves they want to impress.
If they are using someone's car or clothes, or they are doing things they normally do not do then they are fake. If they carry a pool stick and do not know how to play pool then I call them fake. If they wear a business suit and carry a brief case and their auto is beat up and have no lunch money and no executive position they are fake.
2006-10-04 11:25:44 · answer #8 · answered by maria r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He definitely sounds self-centered. Maybe he is actually insecure and talks a big game to make himself feel bigger. If he acts single, he feels single in his mind. You want to stay married to that? Better have a talk with the bum and set a few rules for him to follow. If he won't adhere...walk.
2006-10-04 11:31:12 · answer #9 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My crew leader is like that, he loves to hear himself talk. Over half the stuff he says you know is lies. The best one I heard is.... the day he was deer hunting and seen a herd of three legged deer, I, I, I , me, me, me. It gets old, learn to tell the truth. This guy has 2 kids, a boy and a girl and all he talks about is the boy. That tells he's one hell of a guy. Your boy wouldn't last a minute in my home. He would be out on his butt and I truly mean that.
2006-10-04 11:24:15 · answer #10 · answered by shambo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His talk = trying to overcompensate for his insecurity.
Him acting single = he likes getting female attention, because it is an ego boost.
Also, he is being selfish and self-centered. He needs to respect you and respect your feelings! Try to talk to him about it (without starting out w/ an accusation, because then he would just get defensive and tune you out).
Good luck, and don't be afraid to stand up for yourself! He shouldn't still be acting like he's single when he is in a committed relationship with you.
2006-10-04 11:17:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋