Didn't finish the question and I wanted to know what I could do to rectify this problem
It's been about 3 years now and I'm just not feeling it/SEX
2006-10-04 11:00:14 · 20 answers · asked by littlebit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know I'm just answering to let you know that you are NOT abnormal. I think even in the majority. Most don't want to admit it, but please don't beat yourself up. I love my husband and he loves me very much, and when we DO have sex, its really great. So WHY don't I want to more often. I just dont. I feel sometimes that I could never have sex again and be perfectly happy. Its hard for him to understand, and for him not to feel there is something wrong with him. But there isnt, its me. I have tried to get help. but alas, nothing seems to be a great fix. I go through stages. I know that the better I feel about myself, the more sexual I am. So working out, etc. definitely kicks up the drive. Talk to him, talk to your doc. There is help, and you are normal.
2006-10-04 11:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by Coco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has medications that affect his sex drive. I have a high sex drive, which makes things more challenging. We have been married for 3 years and I'm 27 and he's 25 years old. He has tried Viagra, but the interactions with his other meds were not good! We are both working with medical professionals on finding a way to resolve this issue. In the mean time, we are patient and try to be intimate on occasion. I have no reason to "let my appearance" go because I work in a professional office and I don't change who I am because of a man. Also I will not cheat on my man either.
2016-03-18 04:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
little bit I know from experience that you are not a lone in your plight My wife said that sex is nothing to her and its not just me its all the guys she was with in the past , its just not that big a thing to her , but the problem isn't her lack of desire its my almost compulsion for sex. The problem is also that your husband is feeling like he is not adequately servicing your needs in the bedroom so as time goes on he is thinking he is less of a man than the guys that brag about what a great love life they have . and that makes every knock back from you like a steak through his male ego . Have you though of perhaps modifying you sexual practice with each other , perhaps just oral sex or dressing up and roll playing but let him know how far these things will go if home plate is no where in sight. Talk to him ask him about his kinks and tell him if you have something you had once liked to try . after all, VARIETY IS THE SPICE OF LIFE .
2006-10-04 11:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if in the beginning u were sexual and then after he said i love u and i do u became non sexual u are a liar and have cheated this man. usually a non sexual woman will find a good man, use her skills to get him to fall in love with her and say i do then the i don'ts start, but thats ok eventually your stupid motions will cause your husband to cheat and u can divorce him, get lots of child support/alimony and the find someother poor sucker. If u are not aliar then get some help before its to late. if u cannot afford help, try a few glasses of wine, some strwawberries with whipped cream along with a porn movie with your hubby that should do the trick. iif it doesn't be decent and let your hubby have some fun else where
2006-10-04 11:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a paradox. You seem to want to FEEL your way into ACTING. In other words you want to make sure you feel the connection so that the sex act will happen. This will never happen.
The opposite is true you have to ACT your way into FEELING. If you will truly give to your husband your EVERYTHING and fulfill him...really, really fulfill him sexually you will find the connection feeling come around.
2006-10-04 11:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by Doug C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good counceling!!
there is something not allowing you to be close to him sexually find the root of the problem and work it out... be open with your husband talk about things that have been "lost in the wind" probably still bothers you?
also try to pamper yourself get your nail done shave all areas!! buy little sexy things turn on candles, (there are aroma therapy candles for sex drive) go to your nearest sex store. wear lingerie ?
these things will MAKE you feel good and sexy!! turn up the heat in the house and surprise your hubby with "new P.J.s" your sex life wont change on its own, you hafto make changes soon before it gets boring, dull, and old.. you can do it just look for motivation! :) ALSO. READ SEX NOVELS?
***I WISH YOU THE BEST*** HAVE FUN WITH IT***
2006-10-04 11:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by Social 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal you don't feel it. no one could feel it after a lapse of 365 days multiplied by 3= over 1000 days. the rest is history or just details -- and i and obviously your husband can not help it. you need an honest professional in the field -- to give you advice and not "do" it instead. voila. good luck.
2006-10-04 11:05:54 · answer #7 · answered by s t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might like to try sex/relationship coaching or just talking to your husband about this 'problem'
All people have ups and downs.
2006-10-04 11:06:05 · answer #8 · answered by ilfecoach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think it could be a deeper problem? Do love him and are you IN love with him? Talk to him openly and honestly about the problem and perhaps see a therapist because there could be an underlying problem. Good luck.
2006-10-04 11:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by october g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad. It has been 4+ with my wife, but I do not have cancer or illness. I think she has something wrong with her, but she refuses to see a doctor.
I hope everything works out for you
2006-10-04 11:08:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋