My little sister lives with my mom, other sister, and my step-dad. I love my mom and both my little sisters and I really want to see them but they live with my step-dad and he raped me from the time that I was 9 - 14 years old multipul times. I don't know what to do. Am I being selfish? Caring about myself more than my family? (I live with my grandparents and my mom and sisters live out of state. I'm 15 by the way.) Please give me any advice you have. Thank you.
2006-10-04 10:59:50 · 21 answers · asked by Sexy Bitch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should tell your mom. And then contact the police. Pedophiles should go to jail. If he did it to you, then he's 99% likely to do it to your sister. You wouldn't want that to happen would you?
So first things first, get his *** in jail and then hopefully your sister will be in an environment where you can visit her freely.
2006-10-04 11:05:27 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely not selfish... so don't listen to anyone who says you are. You are protecting yourself physically and emotionally by avoiding that man.
If your mother knew about him raping you though, why is she still with him? I am not a mother yet, but I could never be with a man if I knew he had raped anyone, especially if it were my own daughter. That part I don't really understand. She is also putting your other two sisters in danger by letting them be around him, because if he raped you he is more than likely going to do that to them, if he hasn't already.
My advice about that is to make sure your mom is well aware of what happened to you, but if she makes no changes you need to go to the authorities and tell them what happened so they can arrest your stepdad and get your sisters as far away from him as possible... because even though it would be hard for you to do, your sisters would be better off away from your mom then getting raped by your stepdad. I know that sounds harsh, but ultimately I'm sure you want your family to be safe.
As far as visiting your sister, my best advice would be to go when you know your stepdad won't be around, have her come to visit you, or meet somewhere in between the states where you live so it stays neutral.
Good luck with everything... and if I offended you in any way I'm truly sorry. Email me if you wanna talk about anything though :)
2006-10-04 11:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is true - please call the police. If your family doesn't already know, tell your grandma and your mom. If this man raped you, he WILL rape/molest/assault your sisters. It sounds like you really love your sisters...don't let them endure the same pain you have now. Do something RIGHT THIS MINUTE. Call the police and your sisters will be safe.
If you are worried about the relationship with your mom or even your sisters, don't be. It will work its self out the way it is supposed to over time. Right now, you just need to make the difficult and uneviable decision to do the right thing and protect your sisters. You can get through this. I wish you the best in doing so.
2006-10-04 11:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by Grá 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be more concerned with getting your sisters out of there instead of missing your mom. If she is aware of your situation then she is being complacent in regards to the other 2 girls. She doesn't deserve you as a daughter let alone desrving your love.... He will not change and if he hasn't already molested them...he will, given an opportunity.
Talk to your grandparents Now! You have an obligation to do everything possible to get your 2 lil sisters out of that house.
If mom knows...she's just as guilty
If she doesn't know...she needs to be told.
Contact the police, child welfare services or anyone else you can think of... just don't be complacent.
2006-10-04 11:13:58 · answer #4 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not being selfish. You have a right to protect yourself. What your stepdad did was a crime. There is no reason for you to be around him if you don't want to; it's a shame that you can't see the rest of your family because of it, but you could be in contact with them through letters or emails, or meet them in places where your stepdad is not there. You know, you can still take this person to court--talk to your school counselor, or to a church pastor about what to do. Stay where you are safe and happy. Don't do anything to upset yourself--it's not necessary. Your mother has chosen to stay with the person who raped you--you don't owe her any loyalty. It's a shame that you have to be separated from your sisters, but unfortunately, life is just sometimes that way. Take care of yourself. And good luck.
2006-10-04 11:04:47 · answer #5 · answered by KJC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, is he raping the other children? How was he allowed to stay at the house after that happened? Did you or someone report him?
I would ask my grandparent to find a way to allow you to see your family.
If you or your Mom did not report this behavior then do it now! Time is wasting. I do hope your sisters are okay.
2006-10-04 11:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your sisters, mom , and grandmother know about your step dad raping you? If so then why are they still living around this man, and how do you know he's not doing the same to your sisters? I would talk to somone about this and arrage to see your family without this man. I feel for you and my heart goes out to you, Take care GOD BLESS..
2006-10-04 11:17:44 · answer #7 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you or your mom called the police about this matter? If you haven't you need to because if your step dad raped you, there's a good chance he's doing the same thing to your siblings. Until something is done about the matter i don't think you should see them when your stepdad is around
2006-10-04 11:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should speak up.. And I pray that your sister's are not having to go through that same thing.. I wish you luck.. This should not be a secret for the sake of your younger sisters.. Sometimes when something like that is happening it continues for as long as it can be concealed..
I wish you luck sweet heart....
2006-10-04 11:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by The'Truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should seriously call the police. Even if it will cause caos in your family for a while, it is better to try to stop him from doing the same thing to your sister. If you dont tell anyone he will just hurt her plus you wont ever see your sis.
2006-10-04 11:03:03 · answer #10 · answered by Roger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋