Ok, so here is the low down. I have been with my b/f 10 months and I brought the subject of marriage up, b/c he had said something about it, and I thought well let me ask to see whats up. We have talk extremely breifly about it b4. So I said that I believe if your with somebody and you love them, you just know, u know? I said: well say we have been together 2 yrs (a year and a half long distance and 6 months living together), then you should know by then if you wanna be with that person or not. And let me just say, I have already lived with him 3 -4 months over the summer. If its meant to be, its meant to be.right? He totally disagreed, he was saying well I was thinking more like being with someone 3 yrs! Now, for some people it great for them, but not for me, I made it clear form the beggining that if he drags me on for more then 2 yrs, i'm prob. gonna leave. I believe that he should know a little by now. So I was seeing what you all thought about this. My family agrees, do you guys?
2006-10-04 10:58:21 · 18 answers · asked by waterchick1822 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I asked him which way he was leaning toward and he said not any time soon, but he wouldn't be with me if he didn't have intentions of evetually asking me. He says he doesn't think it will take him anymore than 2 years to figure out whether he feels right about amrring me or not. what do u guys think?
2006-10-04 10:59:54 · update #1
You guys sound really young... If you are, then there's no harm in waiting another year or so. But if you're older (say, early 30s), I'd say there's not that much time to wait. I dunno, it kinda depends on a situation and on the two of you... I think, after a certain time period you will kinda know if it's ever gonna happen or not. Give it more time, and see how relationship develops. It sounds like he may be sincere in his intentions, perhaps he will ask you himself when he's ready.
2006-10-04 11:13:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living under the same roof for a year or more gives you both an idea what it is like to be together for long periods of time and what bothers you both about each other.If he is really wanting to wait I think it best if you do also or get out of the relationship.It is hard for a couple to make it now days so pushing the subject would only make things worse.I can sympathize with your feelings to.
2006-10-04 11:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been married 11 years. We discussed marriage right in the beginning of our relationship. We knew we wanted to be together but decided to live together first. He refused to be pushed into proposing so we just kind of went w/it & he finally did. We were together a total of 5 years before we got married. We put all of our ducks in a row first, engaged, then bought the house & planned the wedding. Maybe he is getting his priorities in order, which is a good thing. What's the rush, be happy.
2006-10-04 11:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by pattysez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depend on the situation i been with my girl for 6ys b4 we got married. but we where high school sweet hearts. it took me 6ys because i wanted to go to school and find a good job. i told her once i find a good job is on and cracking. your dude might fill like he cant support a fam right now. "if he can i dint no whats up" he is prob not ready to get married. and the last thing u want to do is harp on the fact that your not married. it will put a strain in your relationship. coming from dude 10 Mo's is a short time but depending on age im 25 and got married last mo. if i was in his situation at 25 then ill say 2Y's is just right to know if your going to marry somebody. after that your playing the waiting game good luck PS the longer u live with him and give up the ("P" kit kat if u know what i mean") the longer its going to take to get that ring dont play house
2006-10-04 11:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with waiting two years. My ex waited 5 1/2 years (although we're not together anymore) But still, how can you put a time limit on when you get engaged? You can't give him a limit or an ultimatum because then he'll be doing it just because he has to. Don't you want him to ask you because he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you? You can't put a time limit on it. Sounds like to me that you just want to get married so bad that you don't care to who. If you love him, you'll wait. Don't put a time frame on it. You haven't even been with him a year yet. Give it time. Jeez
2006-10-04 11:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by texas y'all! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The truth is maybe he's just not ready to get married. And if you've been together for 2 years he should know by now if he wants to marry you. My opion is don't pressure him because then he might feel obligated to marry you instead of wanting to.
2006-10-04 11:05:40 · answer #6 · answered by lalinda1682 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time without any pressure. You never know what's going to happen between now and 2 years from now.
2006-10-04 11:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him then decide. Is he worth the wait. If you really love him and want to be with him than show him that tell him you will be there when he decides and that you love him. Who knows maybe if you dont pressure him he will realize how much he loves you and commit. God Bless
2006-10-04 11:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by LEAH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 months isnt that long darling. TOO SOON! Give him some space of else you are going to scare him away
2006-10-04 11:58:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok u need to tell him that u love him and want to marrie him soon and if he sayd that he is not ready to marrie u then u need to find a diffret guy coz its not guna work
2006-10-04 11:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by hotchick_8587 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋