hey.. are you asian..?
cos I'm asian too.. I need your advice...
well.. the case is.. We just moved in... Like.. last May... I'm currently studying in the US as a 10th grader... I'm having problem making friends.. well.. I have some friends.. but you can count them.. Maybe because I'm shy... I dont speak unless spoken to.. But I can speak english very fluently... and they can understand me easily... (I came from an english speaking country)
1 of my problem is I get so shy during conversations... Or.. I'm not even that confident to say "hi"... I mean... back from my homeland... I'm super confident.. I have tons and tons of friends... I dont know what happened to me... or is it just natural in the first months?? and.. another thing, I'm super shy in our class participation... We already had like... 3 weeks of class and I have recited only 5 times.. I'm shy.. because I dont want to see people laughing at me specially when times like I make mistakes with my speech..
I would just like to know.. are asians viewed as... like...
"under" the whites or something...? well.. tnx for your advices!!! GODBLESS!!
2006-10-04 10:57:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Just keep on trying, most American kids are in the same situation as you.
2006-10-04 11:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
(sighs) I can relate...
In some parts of the U.S., a lot of people hate and make fun of Asian people and the diversity differs in different places. For example, San Francisco, CA is FILLED with Asians and it would be odd NOT to see at least one walking down the street, but in some parts of Texas, the main ones are either white, black, or Mexican and not much Asian people.
You can't just say, "Asians are "under" the whites..." because that would be being racist and that would also be a big generlization...! Basically, if there aren't a lot of Asians where you live at the moment, then it's most likely that they MIGHT not think very highly about them... IF you're in a place with LOADS of Asians, then probably not everyone hates them...
...but really, you're nationality or heritage doesn't matter when making friends. I have friends of all sorts of nationalities!
Yeah, having just moved and all, it's natural to be shy around others. I was, too! I just moved about 2 months ago and at first, I didn't know anyone and didn't have friends, but as time went by, people will either eventually come to you, or you will come to them. Maybe the teachers are nice to you...! Maybe they might want to introduce you to someone! :) That's one way that happened to me.
If your problem with being shy and keeping to yourself persists, then I suggest talking to your parents/guardians about it. You can talk to other family, or get advice from your old friends from the place you used to live. You can talk to counselors and/or teachers at school about it, too...
Sorry, if I didn't help you. Hope all ends well! :)
2006-10-04 18:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by B K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married to a Japanese American. I haven't noticed people with that attitude and we live in the deep south. Being the new person though it takes time to blend in. I am shy myself (and was very shy at your age). Pick some friendly faces and go up and talk to them. It was always hard for me to make friends too cause I always waited for people to come up to me. I realize now that's not really fair.
My husband, by the way, can talk to anybody (and usually does). Still stays in touch with a lot of his school friends even after 25 yrs and a lot of miles.
2006-10-04 18:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by lucy02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes, it is normal to feel out of place when you're in a different country. You aren't used to it here, yet. There's a different culture and different ways of acting that are still new to you after only a few months.
Try not to worry about it. You have friends; you don't need to have some pre-determined number of friends.
Over time you will probably feel more and more comfortable, and so will feel less shy.
2006-10-04 20:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be proud of your heritage! There's nothing to be ashamed of being asian. Asians are obviously not viewed as inferior to white people. I think you just need time adjusting to the new environment. You are not alone--many kids have this problem--not just asians! Don't be afraid of people laughing at you. Those who do are just ignorant. Besides, most American kids have pretty bad grammar anyways!
2006-10-04 18:08:14 · answer #5 · answered by Ellie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
haha. wow. my best friend is asian!! and were both in the 10 grade. you should trying opening up, talking up and don be shy, people just think your stuck up or something if you hide in your corner. raise your hand for questions..be alert, talk to people around you!! if you start talking, chances are, people would all start talking back to you!!
if you have aim, im me!!
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or my chinese friend, lol cuz shes proly jus as bored as me
her sns kissmeyoufoox3
2006-10-04 18:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chill out !
2006-10-04 18:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by sam (joe thornton) pro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you will make a good American and we need more like you .!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-04 18:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
me tooo
2006-10-04 18:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by jojo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋