My best friend and i can't hang out anymore because my parent's thought she was a "bad influence". We still hang out at school and talk secretly on the phone. But she got a bf since then and they've been going out for six monthes now. She used to be like my siamiese twin.. and now it feels like i mostly just stand around and watch them kiss. I thought that the lovey dovy touching each other phase would wear off.. but it hasn't!! I feel like i don't have a best frined anymore. I can't tell her anything any more.. i miss her NOT having a boyfriend!! I don't want to seem selfish and wierd by telling her that i can't even talk to her anymore.. and i did try once but she doesn't seem to notice or care. I hardly have any other friends because we where the type that we spent so much time together we never developed any other frinedships. I feel lonely and don't know what to do!
2006-10-04 10:53:08 · 10 answers · asked by belle du jour 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
try 2 get her back
2006-10-04 10:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by Nancy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has just got a new boyfriend and maybe she is too excited. I am not saying that she should forget her bestfriend but you should also understand her. She also has to find a guy and settle down in life and you can't expect her to always be with you.
The best thing for you to do is find a guy for yourself and be like her. Then you won't feel lonely and then you four can hang around and then you won't fell lonely when she is with her boyfriend because you will have yours.
Don't worry, if she was your bestfriend she will not forget you. Just let her be the way she is and then when she finds out you are not there, she will miss you and she will come after you.
I used to stop hanging out with my friends when I started a relationship with a girl and in the first few week of my marriage, I used to spend a lot of time with my wife that I only spoke to my friends on the phone.
2006-10-04 18:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not being selfish. It's perfectly natural to feel that way. Just try and tell her first, that you miss the old her. Maybe you could do something like, one day she hangs with only you, the next her boyfriend. It might work. If not that than just let her know. If she's a true friend she'll care and do something about it. Trust me, I've never had a boyfriend yet, but it's ust the beggining for her. She'll get tired of spending all her days with him and will wanna spend more time with friends. Spending too much time with someone gets tiring.
2006-10-04 18:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ashame but most females are like that...when men come into our life most of us change...but you must understand that she has every right to spend time with her boyfriend.... but for her to cut you off isnt cool either...she should be there for you the way she was there for you at first...because men come and go friends stay 4 ever...and the minute something goes wrong she'll be calling you...so she shouldnt sabotage your friendship...behind a guy but now as far as feeling lonely...you may even feel a lil jealous wich is normal...we feel that way when we think we are losing a friend it's normal...but how about meeting you someone special...or meet some new friends..so you can keep yourself busy you can't give up on yourself because of someone else's choice...good luck
2006-10-04 18:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be a reason why your parents don't want you hanging around this girl. She is not a very good friend anyway, sweetie.....look at her behavior towards you!!! Sounds like she is being permissive with the "boyfriend". You need to stop whining and find new friends......it is that plain and simple!!!
2006-10-04 17:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if having a boyfriend is so important to her that she cant even spend time with her friend then let her stay with him, make friends with people that wont dump you for a guy. when her boyfriend dumps or cheats on her and they end up raking up and she has no one to turn to then she will see how it feels.if you want, after if you think she has learned her lesson then give her another chance but dont ditch your new friends, if she does the same thing to you again, then loose her and enjoy your new friends. it may be tough at first but you will see, your better off.
2006-10-04 18:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by ♥sweethearrt♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably excited to have a boyfriend. Don't let it get to you. Hang out with other people for awhile. If it continues get another friend.
2006-10-04 17:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by teeka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe your parents are right, or maybe you should get a boyfriend too, then you two would have something to talk about.
2006-10-04 17:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel if she is a feel friend she'll listen
2006-10-04 18:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a new friend
2006-10-04 17:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋