hey.. are you asian..?
cos I'm asian too.. I need your advice...
well.. the case is.. We just moved in... Like.. last May... I'm currently studying in the US as a 10th grader... I'm having problem making friends.. well.. I have some friends.. but you can count them.. Maybe because I'm shy... I dont speak unless spoken to.. But I can speak english very fluently... and they can understand me easily... (I came from an english speaking country)
1 of my problem is I get so shy during conversations... Or.. I'm not even that confident to say "hi"... I mean... back from my homeland... I'm super confident.. I have tons and tons of friends... I dont know what happened to me... or is it just natural in the first months?? and.. another thing, I'm super shy in our class participation... We already had like... 3 weeks of class and I have recited only 5 times.. I'm shy.. because I dont want to see people laughing at me specially when times like I make mistakes with my speech..
I would just like to know.. are asians viewed as... like...
"under" the whites or something...? well.. tnx for your advices!!! GODBLESS!!
2006-10-04 10:40:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm white. I lived in Japan for 4 years. It's normal to feel shy around people that look different. You are in the dominant culture. You're unfamiliar with their ways, their slang, and their appearance. It takes time to get accustomed and to develop confidence in regard to who you are and who they are. You look different and they are unfamiliar with you. They need time to figure out who you are. They will be curious to know who you choose to hang out with. They'll observe what music you listen to, what sports or activities you choose to participate in, and what your opinion is with regard to a number of things and issues.
Be patient, be yourself, be friendly, say hi, smile, attend social or athletic events. Avail yourself to the opportunities to get acquainted and don't latch on to the first one that comes along. Be patient and choose your friends wisely.
Good Luck
2006-10-04 10:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by luperith 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey! I am Asian too and also a 10th grader! Actually, you don't have to worry so much la since it's only the first month that you have been there. I used to stay in America for a year, and the condition was the same. I believed that once you have gotten more acquainted with the new place, you would be "super confident" again, just like in your hometown.
Where are you from, BTW?
2006-10-04 11:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, as a white person, I'd like to say that Asians are viewed as really smart...maybe a little nerdier...but they're respected nonetheless.^^ My hubby's an Asian and he's having some trouble (just arrived to the US from his non-English speaking homeland) and he struggles with overcoming his shyness, too. Frankly speaking, I think Asians tend to be more 'save-face' than other cultures. Maybe that's because Asia is a 'group-think' culture as opposed to the US's individualism...know what I mean? I'd say, who cares what ppl think of you as long as you're friendly, considerate, intelligent (which I'm sure you are) and always nice. Ppl eventually come around when you get that "approachable" reputation...at least this is what works with most Americans.
2006-10-04 10:49:50 · answer #3 · answered by adrift feline 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself!! It could be because you are holding back that people pick up on it. So what if some people laugh at you! Laugh at yourself when you make a funny mistake! Yes some people would consider Asians "under whites" but not most of us! Just ignore the ones that do and have fun with the rest. You are probably smarter than most of the kids in your school! Hope thing get going better for you soon!
2006-10-04 10:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi, i'm asian.
well it's normal that you're shy because you're here... in a country and you might feel different. the majority are whites... and maybe that's why you're shy. back in you home, everyone was pretty much the same race. and maybe that was more comfortable for you.
i think i'm naturally a shy person... but not because i moved here. i was born in the US.
i think you should try making friends with other asians. most asians bond together with other asians. my closest friends are asians.
and about the people laughing at your speech... i don't thnk its because they view asians as "under" the whites.
well, good luck.
2006-10-04 10:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by spoof ♫♪ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi i am asian too im vietnamese and yeah you are going to be shy i moved around a lot and my first day at school i would always be shy but now i cuss alot and i yell and i do some pretty wild things you just need time to adjust and well say hi dont wait theres no reasson to wait
2006-10-04 11:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by chinoex123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am Asian
im kind of shy but not really i make friends very easily
but i was born here so i guess its kind of easier
but if u want my advice i would say u should probably get into an
activity at school where people communicate.
i live in a place with a lot of colored, rican and asian so i have lots of friends
2006-10-04 11:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im white and its not true that asians are considered under because its normal wen u come for a diff. country and people make fun or they think ur so different. I came from europe wen i was 8, well i had no problems making friends cuz i guess its easier wen ur younger, the difference for me was i didn;'t know more than two words in english!!! it was hard for me, so image how dif it is wen u make a mistake talkin a language ur just learning, i think its easier for u cuz at least u no english.......
P.S. im in high school too now!!
Q- r u a guy or girl?
2006-10-04 10:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm Asian too and don't worry man I felt the same way too at first. Once you get to know people you'll feel more comfortable and start talking and making friends. Just beware of the people who are always cocky and making fun of others. That happened to me and it was always the jocks who would make fun of me. Once I got friends and started to get to know them they backed off. I think they make fun of people because you're different or alone and think that you won't talk back but if you do talk back then they are the ones who back off.
2006-10-04 14:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by taker_of_souls 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only the stupid bigots think that anyone is any different from another. and if they laugh at you, that's OK, there probably just the people that have low confidence in themselves so they want to make you fell bad and themselves feel good. they just want to feel like they're better than you. they aren't. everyone is equal. remember that a lot people in the US are very shallow and only care about looks. they just need some time to grow up, and it usually takes all of their life.
2006-10-04 11:03:52 · answer #10 · answered by Rabidactyl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋