hey.. are you asian..?
cos I'm asian too.. I need your advice...
well.. the case is.. We just moved in... Like.. last May... I'm currently studying in the US as a 10th grader... I'm having problem making friends.. well.. I have some friends.. but you can count them.. Maybe because I'm shy... I dont speak unless spoken to.. But I can speak english very fluently... and they can understand me easily... (I came from an english speaking country)
1 of my problem is I get so shy during conversations... Or.. I'm not even that confident to say "hi"... I mean... back from my homeland... I'm super confident.. I have tons and tons of friends... I dont know what happened to me... or is it just natural in the first months?? and.. another thing, I'm super shy in our class participation... We already had like... 3 weeks of class and I have recited only 5 times.. I'm shy.. because I dont want to see people laughing at me specially when times like I make mistakes with my speech..
I would just like to know.. are asians viewed as... like...
"under" the whites or something...? well.. tnx for your advices!!! GODBLESS!!
2006-10-04 10:39:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
well i'am asian too....I came here at US I think last april.... Which country are you from????? I think you are little bit ajusting right!!!! me too...well by the way it's ok to be shy. GOD BLESS YOU TOO.....
2006-10-04 10:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by @@@@@@@ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, i'm asian too!! I got a really good friend who just moved from Indonesia and she spoke NO english. you're pretty lucky, you know how to speak it. almost coincidentally, we bumped into each other and i help translate english to indo for her. she's a senior so she's got it worse because all of the seniors already got their "groups" so she's left out. she's awfully shy and paranoid about everything she says. but even when she says things wrong, people don't care because they understand. she's made a bunch of english speaking friends. sometimes she's sad because she doesn't feel belonged but all she needed and what you need is more time. Be patient.
maybe you feel shy because things are different here. well, a lot of people cuss, that's for sure....
People won't make fun of you....Asians are NOT viewed as under the whites....well, it kinda depends on where you're going to school. In Cali, half of the school population was asian so we dominated. Since I moved, everything's different. It's natural the first few months. America is very...hmm, DIFFERENT.
And it's ok to be shy. usually, when you're shy, you meet the friendliest people. Everyone knows asians are smart. we carry "genius" on our foreheads. so they have some respect.
Hey, have fun in America!! But don't forget your traditions!! Which country are you from? God bless you too!!
2006-10-04 18:47:21 · answer #2 · answered by heyheyhey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...
I'm asian too, and I can probably say that I know how you feel. I'm in 8th grade and I'm also really shy but I also do have friends. We're alike in quite a few ways because for one, I also feel more comfortable talking to people from my homeland and two, I also don't want to recite because I'm scared that I'm just going to be embarassed if I get it wrong and they all know it because they're from this country.
I don't think that they would think of us asians as "under" them, though.
What's happening to you is really natural. I was just like that too. I just moved here 5 months ago and I swear I was dreading the 1st day of school.
It's alright if you still get shy during conversations, because you're still trying to adjust. But you'll soon get used to it day by day.
The only advices that I can give you are:
1. Act yourself. You do sound like you're very nice and I'm pretty sure that once you get used to the life here, you're going to get tons of friends here! :) So just be nice and stay yourself.
2. Recite in class. Build up confidence. If you think you're right then go for it! It's okay if you get something wrong. It's not the end of the world. You may be a bit embarassed, but that's okay.
3. Choose your friends wisely. ^^
4. Try to interact more with the people around you. Not like, go talk to everyone in your table during lunch, but try and talk more with your other classmates. You never know, but you may get to know some people well and they could be your best friend.
5. Stay cool. Study hard and don't try to stress yourself too much.
You're going to get used to everything around you little by little, and pretty soon you're going to think that everything seems back to normal again. It's only different people and a different place, but it's still your life.
Live the best of it and Good Luck to you! I hope you make lots of friends.
Take Care and God Bless!
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2006-10-05 20:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ ^Someone^ ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an Asian person myself when I was in school, I didn't make that much friends because I didn't want to be friends with other asians and the whites would look at me like I am some kind of weirdo. So I had the few friends I had and couldn't wait to get out of school. We can't be popular.
2006-10-04 17:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on you, if you want friends just make friends, it is kind of tought because kids can be cruel at times but be introduced to your friends' friends and so on.
there is a cultural shock when you come to a new country but be yourself and be proud of whom you are and what you are. Asian people are one of the smartest i know, so cheer up and be yourself, dont try to follow others.
and no.... asians are just looked as a diferent race and we have so many now in US. No one should be less here in US. enjoy!
2006-10-04 18:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by chik_nice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughters best friend is Asian, she is VERY popular and well liked, she plays softball, and is a cheerleader, I havent noticed any of the white kids, making her feel under them,. or even treating her that way, granted she grew up here.. Maybe you should put yourself out there more, be more involved,, find something a sport or school group that intersts you and get into it//
2006-10-04 17:51:15 · answer #6 · answered by imalwaysright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i can tell you're shy - because you write a lot! it's ok, it's pretty much normal the first few months. why don't you try saying "Hi," or even talk instead of waiting for someone to talk to you. it shows you have some sort of initiative....everyone else is probably wondering what you're all about, and they won't know unless you say something!
2006-10-04 17:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by invisigoth208 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you got to give it some time...moving is kinda hard sometimes..try opening up to people...Hope that helps..
2006-10-04 18:41:37 · answer #8 · answered by Xo sUmMeR kIsSeSz Xo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno know
2006-10-04 17:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by Chelsie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋