I just got married, and I love every minute of it.....?

Question

But the jealousy I was trying so hard to control in the beginning is slowing creeping up on me.......... and I find myself questioning my husband on every little thing he does- and I can't stand it! I know I trust him, and I know he is honest with me.....But I can't help it! I don't want to make him miserable, I just want to make sure he's still in love with me, just as much as I am with him.

Answer 1

Then sweetie you have nothing to worry about. Sometimes being women our neurosis gets the best of us. The best way to ensure that your husband is going to love you forever is to be the secure woman that he fell in love with and you have to trust him. You can't walk around doubting him and asking questions that eventually will either drive him away or he might just go cheat because you constantly question him. If you can't trust him then what do you have together... it seems from your tone that you're happy... don't turn into one of those naggy women... guys hate that.. just greet him with enthusiasm and a huge hug and kisses .. and make plans together and meet friends together and go on date nights to get some Quality time together maybe that will help... You're spending a life time with this man and no one likes to feel trapped. Good luck and congratulations ... I'm getting married in May 2007 and i can't wait.

Answer 2

1. Chill out. I don't know how long you've been together, what your prior histories were, etc., but you just got married. Some anxiety or jealousy isn't unusual. If you still feel this way in 6 months, something else is going on.

2. Have you always been this jealous about him? Did you feel this way in past relationships? Might be that something's going on in your mind that's making you feel insecure or threatened. If he seems distant towards you, don't panic just yet. Could be that he's adjusting to things being different (and married is different,no matter how long you live together).

3. Has he given you any basis (objectively) for jealousy? You say that you question him - why? Has he done or said anything that struck you as false?

4. You can't keep hounding someone to make sure that they're in love with you-they'll say whatever gets you off their back. If you just need a little reassurance, be affectionate and relaxed. If he reciprocates, he's into you,no worries.

5. Who are you jealous of? Specific people,or the world at large? Try to understand what it is that you're jealous OF,exactly.

6. Don't keep pressing this subject to him-it'll make him avoid you and make it worse. Talk to your best friends, or family that you trust.

I've been on both ends of this, and I know how it makes you feel psycho, but I also know that there's nothing worse than loving someone but they won't believe you, and being grilled about it until you can't stand them.

Give it time, and whenever you're thinking of questioning him, ask yourself why you're doing it, first. Then try to think of how he feels (not how you would feel in his place,but literally- how does this affect him when you question him?) and ask yourself if it's really worth what it's going to cost both of you.

Answer 3

I do understand how you feel. Most likely since you just got married then you're just being insecure. I can say this because I've "been there, done that". I've been married for over a year now and we're both in our early 20s and hes in college so hes near girls our age all the time. I have to make two issues most important. #1 For myself, I try to maitain my physical appearance for his sake everyday and also my home and job and everything is for him and I want him to be happy with me about these issues. #2 I discuss these "trust" issues with him and we have an understanding about how close we get with people of the opposite sex. A polite "hi" or a short conversation is okay but intimate (close details about your life) discussions are never appropriate between you or your husband and another individual. You just have to discuss what the two of you feel is appropriate and inappropriate together so you know how to act when the other is not around. Eventually you will learn to really trust in his actions when you are not around.

Answer 4

Is he doing something to make you jealous? Or do you feel that he is hot and you are not? I too get jealous and often have to come to terms with it. Remember this he married you so he must love you. If there is spark missing in your relationship the try to create a new one. be sexy for your man and, bring the attention back to you. But most of all trust him and remember if he is going to stray then it wasn't meant to be. just never give him a reason to stray. You will drive him away if you get crazy with jealousy. Just be a warm loving sweet woman that you are and be sexy and understanding and he'll be more jealous of you.

try this: Start dressing sexy and lets say you put on a skirt heels and sexy lingerie, maybe a garterbelt and nylons, show him then tell him your going grocery shopping. See if he wants to tag along with out asking him to.
Chances are he'll be askinh you 90 questions

Answer 5

You have alike a million answeres here, so Idont know if you will even bother reading mine, but here it goes anyways:

No one is born jealous. It grows within you and its ussualy caused by past experiences, like insecurity, fear of rejection or the worse one: you have been chated so many time its impossible to believe it wont happen again.

But ask yourself: Do you have a reason to be jaelous? Has he done anything to make you feel concerned? You just got married, you shouldnt be concerned about whether he loves you or not. he married you didnt he?

My ex was unbelievable jaelous. I couldn't talk with anyone and anytime I stepped out of the house I was "screwing around" my phone, my emails, my mail my friends, everything was "monitored"

I lost my friends, my social life and any bit of fun I ever had and eventually I lost her too, because no matter how hard I tried, it was never enough.

Dont let this happen to you. Adknowleging that you are jaelous its a big step. Try overcoming it by facing it. Hang out with him and another female friend of yours or his. Talk with him about other girls, about what he thinks of this or that girl. His honest opinion may not be what you want to hear but it will allow you to see how he thinks and will make you understand that he loves you very much.

Good luck!

Answer 6

You are suppose to trust a person until they give you a reason not to.. Are you holding on to some old hurt?.. Why are you so suspicious? Live and be happy... Don't waste so much time being negative.. Trust at this rate in due time.. You will be on here asking, how do I get my husband to love me again?

Enjoy what you got it doesn't seem like anything is wrong except you.....

You can't have a future, living in the pass...........

Answer 7

I just got married also, so I am in the same place as you. You have to realize that your husband married YOU, and therefor he loves you, and most likely wouldn't do anything to hurt you. Talk to your husband about these feelings, and explain to him that you might need a little encouragement from him, because you don't want to harbor these feelings of jealousy. It takes a while to feel completely comfortable with someone, but once you are, it feels great!

Answer 8

I feel the same way I am going on almost 2 years of marriage and we are really young. I trust my husband and know that he is a wonderful man but there will always be questions and there will always be doubts in your mind. just have an open honest and respectful relationship and you will be fine. ask him if he still loves you the same there is no harm in that. just add up all the small stuff he does for you and add the big to. and you will feel way more confident in how he feels for you.

Answer 9

Something must have tipped you off that he isn't trustworthy. Even if you feel you are acting totally off the wall, give him and his behavior one more glance. If he still seems like a loyal husband, leave it alone. Do not worry about him cheating on you unless there is some hardcore evidence to support his. Being new in a marriage brings our feelings and thoughts you never knew you would have. handle them reasonably and you will do well. Making issues out of non-issues can only bring disaster. Good luck.

Answer 10

then keep him in love with you...and quit that jealousy sh- it. because that will push him so far away it isn't funny. and it is the biggest turn off there really is. I know because I too used to put my old man through it too. No reason for it at all , even if he looks. I stopped being jealous when I realized he is home in my bed every night. Jealousy will ruin you if you let it. It will completely take over your life. You will loose in the long run.