So why do people do this, is it because you feel a natural closeness to a person similar to you or do you have a game plan like "Im looking for this kind of person to hang with because I feel thier better for me than you, even if you are being nice to me"?
what gives people?
It's funny. I recently join a club at my college ( concert committee) and we help set up concerts. I just started realizing how people "size you up". I try talking to everyone and being open, only to find this "bird of a feather" mentality. Party chicks will only talk to me until other party chicks come around. Same with jocks, goths, band heads, minorities, etc. I never got this before, I always felt that if your open, kind and willing to "be a friend to have a friend" then they should come. Well thats not how it works, silly me huh?
but Im still gonna talk to whomever I feel like.
anyone got any other realizations on people dynamics?
2006-10-04 10:31:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I'm black and have friends from all walks of life and all races. At a bar where I shoot pool at alot, I have buddies who are white guys in their 50s, conservatives, atheists, etc. I have one friend (who knows where he disappeared to) who reminded me of Rob Zombie. This guy was a nutcase but for some reason, he took to me. I think because i'm really genuine (*tooting my own horn*). I have friends that are ghetto by definition and friends who come from very rich families. I used to be in a rock band so i'm very comfortable around musicians and stranger folk.
It all boils down to how people treat you. I'm very kind but i'm also very cynical, yet i'm willing to give everyone a shot. The cynicism allows me to not be disappointed if someone turns out to be fake.
My best friend is a white republican girl. We have very interesting conversations since i'm democrat. But, when its all said and done, I trust her above all others.
You just have to go into it without assumptions. It's hard to do, though.
2006-10-05 03:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I look for people that I have things in common with. I have many interests, so I have an eclectic group of friends. Its important to remind yourself that while on the surface you might not have much in common with someone, you have to get to know them a bit before you can figure out if you can be friends.
2006-10-04 14:58:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ophelia193 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young. Follow your feelings. I have many friends from many different races, religions, etc. Find your own way. You'll know when people are "real". (Don't let people use you. I had to find that one out the hard way.)
2006-10-04 10:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps this is the environment you are in. my college and hs had cliques, etc., but I could find ppl who were willing to branch out as I was.
good luck to you. break the mold! think outside the box!
2006-10-04 12:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's the good positive attitude
2006-10-04 10:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋