she is married to this guy he lives miles away from her and people keep calling him to tell him things about her and he is calling her all the time telling her what they are saying and some of it is not true she asked me if i was in her shoes what would i do and i do not have the answer and he said that he will kill his self and she will be to blame. So what advice should i give her.
2006-10-04 10:31:02 · 30 answers · asked by sunshine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She should call some family or friends close to him, let them know he's upset and threatened his life and move on. Staying with someone out of guilt is never the answer.
2006-10-04 10:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by girlnextdoor409 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is basically a trut issue. If you love your partner and you trust him or her then you should know what the other people are telling you is no true unless proven otherwise. I would tell your friend to tell her husband that when he can prove to her what they are saying its true then he can say something back, other wise not to call back until he is done with those issues.
Also, telling her that he will kill himself because of her is childish... I would tell him to do whatever he wants and I would just move end and find someone that would trust me and love me 100% without any trust issues.
2006-10-04 10:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, if they are married then why are they living so far apart? Secondly, if he is threatning to commit suicide and stating she will be to blame then I would suggest a quick divorce! This man seems like he has a psychological problem and should get counseling immediately! Your friend should call the National Suicide Prevention hotline at #1-800-273-8255 and check out their website as well! Let them handle it and leave it to trained professionals. Best of luck!
2006-10-04 10:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by Bill B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one, if he kills himself, he has deeper problems than her!! Guys tend to say stuff like that, not because they really have any intention of doing that, but because the girl will feel bad and stay with them and it is a way of controlling them.
Why in the world is she not living with her husband? I mean, besides the fact it sounds like possibly an abusive situation......maybe that's the reason.....I have no advice to give since I don't know why they aren't living together or what is being said. Sorry!
2006-10-04 10:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their married but don't live together? It sounds like they have a bigger problem than people calling him and telling him things about her. I can't tell you what to do because i'm not really understanding the whole deal. As for killing himself he may need professional help.
2006-10-04 10:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married people should live together, that is the point of marriage is it not? She is not to blame if he kills himself. He is a mess and should seek professional help.
2006-10-04 10:33:47 · answer #6 · answered by nik named mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you marry someone and not live with them. Tell her to tell him that if he keeps bugging her about other peoples BS that she is gonna divorce him, and by the way, people who threaten to kill themselves are not the ones who usually do it.
2006-10-04 10:36:54 · answer #7 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not doing anything wrong, she should tell him to grow up. Stop believing other people's lies. As for the suicide thing-she is not responsible for his emotional instability. If she is doing something wrong she needs to behave like a married woman, or get a divorce.
2006-10-04 10:34:40 · answer #8 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, she needs to tell him that people aren't happy unless they are causing problems for others. In her case, it sounds like that's exactly what's happening. Now, for his killing himself. I think she needs to tell him that he needs to seek treatment. If they aren't living together, then why be married? Unless he's in the military or something like that. Seriously, if he thinks about killing himself what's to stop him from taking her with him?
2006-10-04 10:37:18 · answer #9 · answered by missfinley2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it would be best for them to not live apart, or maybe counciling would help. Sounds like he is a little unstable and maybe she needs to ask herself if she wants to stay married. Either way he needs to get help if he would kill himself over a woman, no one is worth dieing for.
2006-10-04 10:34:28 · answer #10 · answered by preshus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋