Work problems?

Question

Im just looking for advice - my boss doesnt seem to like me much. Im hardworking but ever since coming back to work from maternity leave, my boss treats me different. I have explained that I feel they are always picking on me, but part of this might be me, I just am so fed up trying to please people, when all I want to do is work for myself doing something I enjoy. Its a well paid job and this is what is stopping me leaving to do something else. I really am so low about this, its starting to affect my relationship with my hubby and young child. Please, any advice?

Answer 1

Look mate, it isn't only about money, sometimes it is better to do something that you enjoy for less money than do something you hate just for the money. If you stay in a job you hate and get treated unfairly, you might become bitter. You are obiously no happy there at all, so you kno what you have to do.

Answer 2

Bad bosses are terrible. If you feel that they are treating you differently because you left for maternity leave then you should talk to his superior. That is unfair. Or if it is you, could it be because you just had a baby. Maybe you could talk to a doctor or a therapist about adjusting to motherhood and hormonal imbalances. Since it is a well paying job and you have a new baby, you don't want to quit your job and lose your income. That is not fair to you. But life is too short to work a job that you hate. So maybe you should do everything that you can to make the job bearable for the time being. Then, if push comes to shove, find something else. But don't quit before you have another job unless you can lose the income. You'll find something else even if it doesn't pay as much and don't try to please people at your job. I am certain that that is not part of your job description. Also stand up for yourself when your coworkers are out of line. Good luck.

Answer 3

In my experience, most people who feel themselves to be in this position do little about the situation and actually make the situation worse by actually becoming much worse at doing their job.
Speak to your boss about this. Explain to him how you feel. If you get no joy. Document times and dates plus details of all the times you feel you are being picked on. You can then take this information to your boss's superior. You should also be very careful about doing this. You have just had a child and hormonal imbalances can affect judgement. You may simply be feeling that you have too much to do trying to balance being a mother and a career woman. Blaming people at work is an easy way to mentally solve this problem. It may actually be the case that you are no longer putting as much effort into your job as you did before you gave birth and that this is quite noticible to your boss. It is a fact of life that well paid jobs come with a fair amount of pressure. Perhaps you are no longer the person to live with this.

Answer 4

No-one here can answer the question if you are being picked on or not. Best thing is to speak to your boss, but not in a confrontational manner. If he is a prick then you will soon find out. If not, it might just be people in the office picking on you in jest, which is a little annoying but part and parcel of life.

Don't let this affect your relationship with hubby and the little one. Because better or worse they are the ones that will love and support you.

Answer 5

you said "doesn't seem to like you much". People's reaction is a result of your showmanship.There is the thing called you respond to an stimulus in psychology. Try a more open attitude. Share more of you personally, so that your boss will pick more vibes without actually asking.Also, do unto others what you like them to do to you.Look at your life outside your job. You might find out you are doing that same attitude of your boss to others. Lastly, you can ask your boss in aprofessional level if she has suggestions regarding your attitude and performance.

Answer 6

My advice: find another job. Your boss is probably pissed at you because you had a kid. Bosses who are a**holes are usually like that. They think that from now on you are going to be less energetic, less free, you won't work late anymore, your kid is going to come first (which it should, by the way), and he is going to be in second place. If your boss is such an a**hole, you won't ever be able to change him. Leave before it really brings your relationship, your health and the well-being of your baby down!

Answer 7

well, what do you think?
if the pay is not buying back the pain to be there, well, you need to sit down and review your options
as a working mum, sorry to say, most places will make your life a bit harder than if you were a man
that's life
but don't lose your sanity
if you are starting to see how all this affects the rest of your life, you are on a good track to get this sorted
they are various ways to address the issue, I trust you'll find the most suitable for you
contact me direct if you want more help
good luck to you

Answer 8

make a journal of all the incidents for a couple of weeks then take it to citizens advice. Think about what your hubby and child mean to you - money isn't everything and sometimes sacrifices have to be made

Answer 9

Not really advice here, but just to let you know your not on your own, I CAN'T STAND MY JOB!!! OR MOST OF THE COMPLETE BRAIN DEAD IDIOTS I WORK WITH!! And yes i'm paid well over the average hourly rate , What does one do??? I'm so frustrated that my abilities and creativity's are just wasted!!!

Answer 10

hi simple but straight anwser if you are not happy then don't do it.find something you do enjoy and you should find that the rest of your life picks up for the better as well.take care.