Might be pregnant! I'm 22 and scared to take the test. How can i deal with this?

Question

Hey Everyone! I'm 22 yrs old and talked about getting married & having kids! Ive been engaged to my fiance for over 2 yrs and I've been with him for 6 yrs. He wants kids so bad. I DO TOO, but for some reason Im scared. I'm scared to know that my kid yrs will be over. I wont be able to do what I want when I want. I wont be able to sleep in late either. I love to spoil myself. DONT GET me wrong If I am pregnant, I'll be happy just REALLY SCARED. What can I do?

Answer 1

It is always scary when you first find out that you are pregnant or think you are. I was so scared that I thought I was pregnant and then I found out that I was. I was horrified I didn't know at the time whether my boyfriend at the time was going to stay at my side or run. I had to tell him though and I got lucky and he stayed. The relationship couldn't be better after our daughter was born. I was only 25 and still 25. I got pregnant 3 weeks after my 25th birthday and 1 week after I started to go out with my boyfriend. That's why I was so horrified about the whole deal. I was happy later on that I found out that I was pregnant, but it still scared me. No one is fully ready to become a mother I know I wasn't at the age of 25. The thing is, is that I might be pregnant again and I really don't want to find out right now but I am going to take a pregnancy test any way so I know for sure. Yea I'm scared to be a mother again but I did lay down and open my legs. My daughter is 2 months old and I couldn't be more happier then if I didn't have her.

Answer 2

You have to grow up sometime. I am 22 and pregnant with my first. It was not planned but I am so happy because I am having the first boy in my family fill of girls. Also, you will be scared and confused at the beginning but read a lot. Sign up at pregnancy websites, open your mind to know what is going on in your body. Don't worry about partying, you life isn't over but just beginning. Yes you may not be able to do some things for a while but when you have your child all of that will not matter when you look at the precious life that you helped created. Congratulations although it may not feel like it. It may take some time to get used to but when you do you will find happiness.

Answer 3

first of all don't be upset, this is a blessing. Everything happens for a reason, and God must feel your perfect to be a mother and that your ready. It is very scary at first and even when you're a mother. There will be alot of tears but most importantly there will be much more smiles and laughs. I felt the same way when i found out i was prego. I was scared and confused. After I had my daughter all those confusions went away. Don't get me wrong everyday is a new day with a new learning experience, but it's so fun and to see the look on my daughters smiling face is the best gift anyone could have gave me. You'll be fine and it's normal to feel scared, but keep your head up and imagine all the fun you're going to have.

Answer 4

Well take a test and find out for sure so you can start taking proper care of yourself.

I'm not trying to offend you or anything but I think at 22 you should be more adult and more mature than that. I'm 22 and having my second child and let me tell you there is nothing like it. I mean yea it's scary to know that you'll be responsible for another human being but to be worried about sleeping in? Do you work at all? If you really think that you're that "selfish" as some would put it then perhaps having kids isn't for you at all. I mean once you have a baby that baby is there for a long time. It's one thing to want one and be nervous about raising another person but it's another just want to beable to whatever whenever all the time. In the second instance I don't suggest kids at all because you may resent them for taking away your "me" time. Like I said I'm not trying to insult you or anything and I apologize if my wording was off...I know the thought of having a baby for the first time is scary for anyone but it is such a great experiance. But don't have one if you're one to want nothing to "tie you down" because a child will change your life.

Let me also just say that I had my first at 18 and I'm currently pregnant with my second and my husband and I are so glad that we had our first so young and will be having our second in a few months. Being a young parent is great we think. We can do a ton with our son that older couples seem to have problems with and our kids will be grown when we are still young enough to do a ton of things. I mean seriously my son will be 18 when I'm 36!

Try not to worry about it. Just go with the flow and if you are pregnant think of how great a baby can be. Try not to dwel on the fact that you won't beable to be so young and immature anymore (and I mean that in general terms) Good luck!

Answer 5

Pray and remember God has a reason and a time for everything.I had 2 kids at home(then ages 2 and & 7 1/2 months), Iwas also on birth control, when I found out I was pregnant. I was very upset at first, but with lots of prayer from family, friends, and my local MOPS group. I felt much better. I have a great 3 year old daughter & i wouldnt change that change for the world

Answer 6

1.) take a test and just get it over with. i went through the same thing a few months ago... the more you worry the worse it gets... its better to just take hte test and get it over with. I agnozed about it for days before i took a test. turned out to be negetive... and i was dissopointed to the point of tears... but at the same time i was scared i would be preggers, because i didnt think i was ready... now after that i really want to get pregnate...
2.) try and change how you think, you have a baby and you can't spoil your self any more? your 22, yes your kid years are over. They were over a few years ago, time to let go... Im almost 23 as i'm not one to judge you. I've grown up in the past few months my self. I love to sleep in.. but i want a baby, and if sacrificing late morning sleep is what i have to do to have a baby, then so be it! I would love it! because a baby means more to me than my sleep. having kids is a selfLESS thing... not selfish... think about a bit... :) good luck

Answer 7

I was 22 when I found out I was pregnant. It was scary but I promise you, its worth it. My daughter is now 9 months olds and I couldn't be happier. I miss going out and being able to do what I want on occasion. But believe me, that baby will become your life. And it will be worth everything you have to give up.
Just remind yourself that you will be a great mom, you will love your kid, and your life will definately change, but it will be worth it. And you can still do the stuff you want, some things you will just have to take the baby with you, and some you'll have to get a babysitter. But having a kid makes the times you do get out, that much more enjoyable!! Good luck! I hope this reasures you somewhat.

Answer 8

You are just scared of responsibility and you are being selfish! If you get pregnant then face the consequences, you did it,anyway! take a test now so you will know if you are really pregnant. That way you can take care of yourself and the baby. I'm sure once you've learned that you're pregnant, all you just wish is that you're baby will be healthy, once you deliver the baby, all you think is about the baby not yourself! Having a baby is a fulfillment to every woman.

Answer 9

I think every woman goes through this. Happy but sad thing. After you are a few months pregnant you will start to warm up to the idea even more. You can still have fun. I had my parents babysit once a month overnight so me and my sons father can go out and enjoy some us time together without a baby.

Answer 10

Well- you're not scared to take the test- you're scared of the outcome. Fortunately- it's still somewhat legal in this country to take care of these mistakes, so that you don't mess up the lives of yourself, your fiance', and your child to be.

Sounds like you're not ready for kids yet, but that's OK. You'll feel differently when you're 30+. Go ahead and live for yourself for a few years and get that out of your system, so that you then can live for your children.