cause I was reading something and this guy that was in college was always in a bad mood and stuff at home cause he wasn't out to his parents yet but when he went back to school he had like a whole different life and he was a totally different person...i was just wondering if thats true for everyone and why?
oh and if you're one of those people that are gonna talk about god or how u dont approve of gays...put your address down too so I can come over and break your face cause I didn't ask for your opinion
2006-10-04 09:42:41 · 17 answers · asked by b 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
HEEY EINTESTEIN!!! WTF DID I SAY UGLY ******* PIECE OF ****?!?!?! DID U NOT READ WHAT I WROTE!!! ARE U ******* THAT STUPIDDD!!! ON TOP OF BREAKING UR UGLY FACE I WILL RIP OFF UR TINY *** PENCIL DICK AND PUT IT IN A BLENDER!!! ***** I WISH I COULD FIGHT ALL U BITCHES WHO MAKE FUN OF GAYS...MY BEST FRIEND IS GAY AND IF ANYONE...ANYONE I DON"T CARE WHO YOU ARE WOULD EVER SAY **** TO HIM I WOULD ******* CHOP THEM UP IN A THOUSAND ******* PIECES AND FEED YOU TO SHARKS
2006-10-04 10:09:32 · update #1
Hey,
I know, cuz i am one of those people.
It is just hard... no one ever understands what u really feel inside. But I pretend to be happy outside, whether at home or in school. Somtimes I just get sick and tired of those fake smile...
Sometimes it just make me feel depressed to pretend something I am not. Since I am not "out" yet, I havent been with a guy, and sometimes I got too depressed because I just want to have a guy.
2006-10-04 14:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by Travis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a case of Dr. Jeckle and Lil' Miss Hiding-in-the-Closet. [Said with best Paul Lynn impersonation]
Oppression takes many forms and its mostly the fault of the oppressor, not the oppressed. Most people who choose to remain 'in-the-closet' have rational reasons for doing so, especially at a young age when they are not fully self-supportive.
This almost always leads to resentment, anger and depression. It doesn't really matter what the reasons are for the oppression. It could be anything, really. The most difficult situations are when you can't control the factors keeping you oppressed and those factors are NOT obvious to everyone.
A good example is racial hatred between whites and blacks. That kind of oppression is based on a very obvious difference. No closet necessary.
With 'being gay' the oppressive criteria can be not-at-all obvious to the parties involved, because people don't generally wear gay symbols around with time to signify the contrast. Thus the metaphor 'in-the-closet' is used.
This leads to the aforementioned anger, resentment and dual-personality you've described. It can be very common.
2006-10-04 10:12:31 · answer #2 · answered by Todd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see how some would feel that way being in the closet. I'm out at school but not at home...that'll all change next weekend, after coming out week. I do feel awkward around my parents and talking to them...I feel like I'm lying to them whenever I speak with them on the phone...It sucks, but I keep in mind coming out will feel like such a relief to say to them, it won't matter after they know.
2006-10-04 13:43:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, but some are very afraid and uncomfortable depending on where they life and who they're raised with. the religious parents who're hateful makes closet gays unhappy,. true. but some who are closet are just uncertain if they should come out or not yet.
to your additional detail, wow, i can understand how fustrating it is for some who refuses to read and pay some respect.
2006-10-04 11:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by mystic_lonewolf22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of them are like that. Having to hide from your loved ones is a burden I would wish on no one.
Of course then you have people like Einstein, craven little cowards who talk big on the net simply because they know the won't ever have to back up their talk. Don't let them bother you, 99% of them wouldn't have the nerve to say anything to someone in public.
2006-10-04 10:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was very unhappy being in the closet then I open the closet door and walked out...lol But really I'm happy being out now. It was hell being gay and couldn't date a guy cuz afraid of being seen with him or being caught kissing.. Now its all cool..
2006-10-04 13:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very strong in your opinion of this topic. You are indeed supportive of your friend. Just remember the same way you are entitled to an opinion and get mad at others who do not share your views, they too are entitled to their own opinions. If you are so open-minded to accept and encourage gays, be open and accept everyone opinion for what it is, their opinion.
2006-10-04 10:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by DownAndOut 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
one would definitely be unhappy, when nobody understands him/her. And when this turns to involve all your life and it never leaves you, that depresses you. It's acting somebody else from what u really are. even actors and actresses don't play a role throughout all their lives..It's a torture..
by the way i liked that warning at the end your question very much:)
2006-10-04 09:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by ddyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been my experiance that most people in the closet are unhappy, depressed, anxious, moody and no fun to be around. I know I kinda was.
2006-10-04 13:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to have such a big secret on your heart, and to have people make you feel ashamed. I know I felt a lot freer and less fearful after I came out.
2006-10-04 09:50:50 · answer #10 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋