After I left my ex husband 3 years ago I have reoccurring dreams about him. I am now in a serious relationship for almost 2 years and I truly hate my ex. Am I missing something?
2006-10-04 09:29:34 · 9 answers · asked by Bchlvr 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
My dreams are usually just everyday life dreams and he is in them.
I left him b/c he was mentally abusive!
2006-10-04 09:39:03 · update #1
everyone is on a roll! Thank you for your great answers, they have all made me think a bit! I can honestly say I have no regrets in leaving! I am truly much happier but something still haunts me!
2006-10-04 13:24:56 · update #2
I was looking for the answer of why I am dreaming of my ex boyfriend and I found this: hope it will help you:
To dream about your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend or that you and your ex got back together again, suggests that something or someone in your current life that is bringing out similar feelings you felt during the relationship with your ex. The dream may be a way of alerting you to the same or similar behavior in a current relationship. What you learn from that previous relationship may need to be applied to the present one so that you do no repeat the same mistake. Alternatively, past lovers often highlight the positive experiences you had with that person. It could also signify aspects of yourself that you have x'd out or neglected.
To dream that you are making out with your ex, signifies your acceptance of certain characteristics of your ex. The dream does not necessarily mean that you want to get back together with him or her. Consider what were the things you liked and disliked about him. These are the same qualities that you are finally acknowledging within your own self.
2006-10-04 12:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by * 271805086182 * 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Dream About Ex Husband
2016-11-09 19:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although a breakup with a boyfriend or with a girlfriend can be really depressing, it does not need to mean that the relationship is over. Even if the breakup should suddenly leave you feeling confusion and loneliness, you may still feel really eager to heal the wounds and jump right back in to that relationship with your ex. If you are asking yourself "How can I get my ex back?", then there are some things you need to know. If you learn how to react following a break up, and you become aware of how not to strain the relationship even further, then getting ex back will be easier than ever.
If you're wondering, can I get my ex boy friend back by pretending to be this way or that way? Then you have to wonder why you want to be back with him anyway. You might be better off finding someone who doesn't make you need to pretend.
Well, there's no guarantee you'll get back together, but the odds tilt more and more in your favor when you do things right. Show her how much you miss her, and how sorry you are. Just pay attention to what she does. If your gestures of sorrow only make her angry-she throws away the roses or something dramatic like that, for example-change your tactics until you find that something she responds to.
If it appears she/he is moved on, still send her/him a card you wrote just wishing her/him a great week. But don't look as if you have any expectations. Your thoughtfulness might really impress them.
"What should I do to get my ex back?" Be on your best behavior and make your ex remember what drew them to you in the first place. They'll remember your good points and will miss them. Then you'll have a better chance of being able to get back together with your ex.
These are just the beginning steps in winning your Ex back. They are the initial steps I followed when I lost the love of my life. And frankly these aren't my original ideas. I turned when I had no idea of how to get my true love back.
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There IS a hope - and a good chance of reconciliation for you, so act on it - or you lost them forever!
2016-04-06 17:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 27⤊ 0⤋
You pointed out the answer. He was abusive to you. Dreams are our brains way of making sense of things. Senseless violence, like your ex- did is why your brain is still engaged in thinking about him. The strong emotional attachment (You hate him) also adds fuel to the fire. The true opposite of love is Apathy, not hate. So in some ways you still have feelings for him (hate is a feeling) and though you might never go back with him, you do need to find an outlet for these feelings. Talking with someone might be a good way to fix this problem. Good luck and I am glad your in a better relationship.
2006-10-04 10:25:07 · answer #4 · answered by Charles B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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They might realize they need you and come crawling back!
If you do get back together, don't let the same issues that destroyed your relationship crop up again. Have a good, long talk about how you're both going to make it right this time.
2015-02-10 18:53:06 · answer #5 · answered by Alexis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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This is probably the most important part. With texting, you can stop and think about what you want to say to your ex at each step of the way. Instead of reacting emotionally, you can take your time, figure out the right thing to say (I’ll give you most of it), and be strategic with your ex without saying something that you’ll regret.
2016-02-13 01:28:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The deep dark secrets of the mind are a funny thing....
There may be SOMETHING unresolved in your relationship with him that has come to surface recently in reality. Address that issue and you'll go back to dreams of lolliepops and figgy pudding!
2006-10-04 13:50:08 · answer #7 · answered by wandering_canuck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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You can be Remarry to another person, but that doesn't mean that inside of your heart, there is regret and pain, that things, never got resolved between you two! You, must of loved him enough to marry him, So there is deep concern within yourself, that when the two of you walked away from each other, there was no fixing the marriage! That was a commitment that you made too each other! You, made a promise unto God, to love each other, for better or for worse, for the rest of your life! It isn't something you keep repeating,your wedding vows! When you walk away from a marriage, you have alot of unresolved issues, and when you both didn't work it out with each other, it caused alot of hurt inside of you,despite the fact you get along. It still a broken relationship, that ended in a heart breaking way, that is why divorce is very painful! Unresolved hurt and pain whatever happened in your marriage, I think that unresolved issues and hurt in the marriage, has caused you to dream about him! There is alot that happens when you are divorce, I too am divorced, and there is alot of resentment and pain that a divorces will cause! I think, when you see your Ex, I take it you see him sometimes, So Maybe that is why you are dreaming about him, since "you said you and your ex are friendly and we don't fight or argue", it is just making you think of what could of been, if you and him would of worked it out! Usually, when we dream and from my experience, if you are dreaming about someone, in your life at one time that was important to you, it trying to tell you something! At this point, since you are married to someone else, there isn't much you can do, except don't hold unto unforgiveness and bitterness from the marriage! You, think you let things go, but if you have you wouldn't be dreaming about him, for your sub-conscience mind is letting you know something is wrong the fact you still dream about your ex-husband! When both of you decided not to work it out between you two, it is a very painful thing, you are breaking a holy bond! This isn't just a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, this was a marriage! Even, though you fought alot in your marriage, maybe you are holding unto "Regret", that it could of worked out but now both of you made the choice, to go your seperate ways! You, could say sorry to each other, for whatever happen, but you are Married to another person, So ask The Lord Jesus, for his Guidance and His Will about this, your past marriage! The Lord Jesus, is real and you can call His name out any time! I think, you even say Lord Jesus, if you are real, then send someone, who can answer this question for you! Any Marriage, that ends in divorce is very painful, no matter, how good of friends you are with him! That you are friendly with him! Seek God in prayer about it! I Hope, that I Answered your question about what has been going on! When you Married again, you still have unresolved issues and hurts from the previous marriage! It doesn't have to always show up right away, how you feel because you met your second husband! You hide your pain, and certain things can have away of showing up again in your life, from your past marriage! All, you can do is forgive, say sorry to him and him to you, if that is what needed.
2016-04-08 16:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 27⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say....you don't say what the dreams are about, or what role your ex-husband plays in them.
2006-10-04 09:37:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did that too, for a long while. I guess as time went on, I really got over him. When he had no more influence on me, I really let go.
I didn't miss him, I just had so many worries in the back of my mind that I guess he kept popping up.
As I built up my career, and stopped counting and depending on him, thoughts about him vanished.
2006-10-04 09:37:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋