she's been my best friend for 10 years we sleep together and everything i basically father her kids and cant bring myself to want to commit to her i mean shes my soul mate but i really gotta figure out what im doing before i lose her completely.
2006-10-04 09:13:23 · 10 answers · asked by the rock 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your selfish. What more do you want ??
2006-10-04 09:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A real man is honest with himself, and you seem to be. True courage may mean going to counseling and finding out why you have a hard time committing to someone you name your soul mate.
Marriage has many social agendas attached to it. It kicks up all sorts of stuff. But if you know in your true self that you want to spend you life with her, and something is stopping you from making that pledge in whatever way is right for both of you, and it causes you both pain, start working on it.
2006-10-04 16:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Max 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you are in love? If you love somone you never want to hurt them. You want to give them everything you possible can.
Ask yourself these questions:
Who would you most like to be stranded on an island with?
Who do you think of when you are alone?
When you think of the future who is with you?
When you are old and frail who is there helping you?
If your answer is anyone but her, you have your answer.
2006-10-04 16:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by Franklin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to want to have your cake and eat it to. But you can't continue to to make her beleive you want something else when you really don't. I suggest you decide now or cut it off because you could lose a good friend and potential mate.
2006-10-04 16:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by ALWAYS PRIORITY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're hurting her emotionally by not marrying her, but if you hurt her physically, you may need some evaluation. Make up your mind fast, 'cos ten years is not ten days. I already feel sorry for this lady.
2006-10-04 16:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by Bantree 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know what is hurting her, stop if you care about her. You will lose her if you keep hurting her, but only you know what that is. If you can't figure it out by now, I don't know what to tell you.
2006-10-04 16:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW IS YOUR NAME NATHAN? YOU SOUND LIKE MY MAN THAT WE HAVE 3 KIDS TOGETHER AND HE SWEARS UP AND DOWN HE LOVES US BUT ITS BEEN 8 YEARS.TOLD HIM EITHER HE WANTS US TO BE TOGETHER OR NOT I GAVE HIM UNTIL OCT 19TH TO DECIDE WHAT HE WANTS ,EITHER HE DOES OR DOESNT.WHATS UP WITH YOU GUYS ANYWAY?WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM? YOUR GONNA LOSE THE BEST . YOUR LOSS NOT OURS. TO YOUR GIRL---TIME TO THROW HIM TO THE CURB LIKE IM DOING.
2006-10-04 16:31:48 · answer #7 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you do...ten yrs is a long time. Figure it out quick and then do it.
2006-10-04 16:16:15 · answer #8 · answered by chicalolalin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what the hell is your problem? seek therapy before like you said...YOU LOSE HER!
2006-10-04 16:16:36 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to put it simply Pee or get off the pot
2006-10-04 16:16:19 · answer #10 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋