who do women do this?

Question

who do women in the beginning of a relationship screw like porn stars, u know no holds anything goes sex, then after the man commits the say that they were just doing this to show him a good time and that is not who she really is and if he loves her he will be willing to get an occasional screw and nothing else. i do all the romantic stuff like flowers, cards, dinners and i do help around the house. I enjoy going down on her and i will give her anything she wants. i am 46 she is 52 and has already went through the change. i workout of town and she works 9-5 m-f and we have no kids at home. is she a liar or just confused

i still do all the things i did in the beginning, like oral, back rubs, and i LOVE foreplay. so for anyone i am still trying not being lazy

Answer 1

you know your very right i have been reading many peoples notes they leave and im shock how many women actually have faked this before marriage or as you say all gun hoe then when there married they think its okay to change. It's like they were lying the whole time like a trap.

This is definatly wrong. I know cause I have been lied to in my marriage he did everything you think a man should do then once married he changed totally this is not right for sure.

You poor man. Only thing i can think up is why my ex did this I came out flat and asked him why the big change and he told me would you have married me if you know how i am now. I said no he said exactly all men do this. Your my wife now and deal with it.

so i think maybe your wife did this so you could marry her she got what she wanted your probably working to take care of her and maybe even have kids that she wanted so thats all she needs from you but your getting the raw end of the stick here.

Sorry to hear this for you. Good luck in trying to work this out. don't think she'll change.

Answer 2

I wouldn't be so hasty as to call her a liar no, When people first get together the sex is wonderful as both people want to please the other, anything goes and all that jazz, you are like a couple of energizer bunnies. then reality kicks in and the real world rears it ugly head, we very quickly fit in to the routine and the rut. love is something to be taken care of and people forget that, we are too busy working and in some cases looking after the kids and the house etc. just keep doing what you are doing and talk to her. explain how this is making you feel and try t set aside some times in the week that you and her can spend quality time together. one point to be taken into account here is that going through the change can affect her sex Drive so that may be something to be discussed with a dr or councilor to asses this and see if it can be solved.

Answer 3

she should be happy and grateful to get a younger man like your self.. I dont know why women do this as I am a woman too. I think it is a individual thing also. Not all woman act this way..

Maybe it is because she has gone through the change of life, or whatever you call it.. Sit down with her and ask her what you just asked all of us.. You will know better if you go to the soarce of the situation. see what she says.. If this doesnt help try a counsiling group..

Answer 4

How can you love her if she is faking who she is?
Stop all the romantic stuff like flowers, cards, dinners, going down on her and anything else she wants. Don't forget to tell her "If she really loves you, she will accept you doing nothing".

Fairs fair. She stopped you stop. You are equals in a relationship not her slave. Put the pants back on she fell in love with and stop wearing the skirt.

Answer 5

No she in not a liar.
This is kinda funny because, I am 52 & my husband is 46 .
As you stated, yout wife has already gone through the change of life, and that does change alot alot of things in women. Unfortunatly the sex drive is one of them.
You may see if she would go to her gyn., that way she can get hormone medication(if she doesn't already take them) sounds like to me she doesn't. The proper hormones for her will help her sex drive:)
Good Luck To You !

Answer 6

After a woman goes through menopause, her sex drive weekens.But there is no Viagra for women. Maybe you should try to be a little more patient. There may be something about you that is turning her off but she's not saying. Have a frank conversation...Good Luck!!!

Answer 7

She trapped wrapped and now you are in for an ugly breakup. Sorry get rid of her immediately, she doesn't deserve any one like you. I am a woman and she is an user abuser and do not accept this person. life is way to short to put up with this game player. She would not if the tables were turned

Answer 8

ask her to do something crazy to put her in the mood like do it outside or in a park or at a beach, if she is still wants no sex than i would start thinking she has something or someone on the side give her some time than i would get suspicious

Answer 9

you sound like the only thing you want out of a relashionship is sex and nothing else.you better go with a porn star than,they will give you wild sex and not give a damn about you.

Answer 10

I think it might have something to do with how she feels about herself. After I lost my weight I began feeling better about myself and started to feel pretty & sexy. That helped my husband get it every other night. Before when I was fat I hated to look at myself and was not comfortabel with me, and I did not understand what he could see in me. So don't just tell her she's beautiful and sexy but show her. Point specific things out that you think she might like to hear. Like I like to hear how pretty my eyes are or that shirt makes you look really thin. You smell amazing. She doesn't want to hear wow your sexy. Good Luck.