i love my girlfriend to bits but i also still got massive fellings for my ex.
my ex wants me back. ive told her that i love my girlfriend and i cant go back but truth is i just dont know what to do.
my girlfriend moved back to america 4 months ago. im going to see her next month and i cant wait.
she wants to come back to be with me after chrismas.
problem is i started thinking about my ex from time to time and its getting more and more. i know i shouldnt but cant help it.
i hate myself for this but i think i want my ex back but at same time i love my baby girl (girlfriend) to bits i and i dont want to hurt her.
i promised my girlfriend i be there for her and i want to be.
i really hate myself for feeling like this and i dont know what to do.
please note i would NEVER cheat on my girlfriend.
im so confused and im trying to sort myself out but its hard.
anyone else going or been tho this?? and what did u do???
i dont want to hurt anyone what can i do????
it tearing me apart!!
2006-10-04 09:11:09 · 29 answers · asked by alan h 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you are just missing your g/f. When you see her next you will realise all over again why you love her so much.
Keep your ex as your ex. Your girlfriend will be back soon.
2006-10-04 09:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea you're missin your girlfriend. The girl you love (gfriend) is away, a girl you maybe once loved is around (ex), the ex wants you, you want company, you obviously have things in commom with your ex (as you must as you used to date) etc etc - very easy to feel like you do. BUT...
You are just missing you gfriend. When shes home, you'll know better how you feel. Dont make any decision till then at least And...
There was a reason yourself and your ex broke up in the first place! It might seem great thinking back and remembering all the good times you had, but all you gotta do is think to why you broke up! Those reasons are bound to crop up again if you get back with her!!
Stick to your current girl!
2006-10-04 10:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by Peadar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you hurt someone or yourself, ask yourself a few questions:
1) What do you miss about your ex? Are you thinking about her because you really love her or just because she is "comfortable"?
2) Why did you break up with your ex? Whatever the circumstances were for you and your ex to breakup, don't expect anything to be different now. People do change, but we also have a tendency to fall into patterns.
3) If you had to choose one to live without for the rest of your life, which would it be?
Something as simple as a chart with good qualities and bad qualities for each girl may help.
I have found that the best thing to do is to distance yourself from both of them for a little while to get your thoughs in order.
2006-10-04 09:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by jenna29072 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well do you see yourself being with either long-term? If not get out of both relationships. If you are in love with one go with that one. Ex's are Ex's for a reason. Personally I would never go back with one because there was obviously a reason you guys didn't work out the first time. Things happen for a reason. You may think in your head you want your ex back but know in your heart its the wrong thing to do which is what you are sounding like. Go with your heart. I however would not put myself in the place where something could happen with your ex if you want to stay with your current gf. Good luck man.
2006-10-04 09:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by ecofriendlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you think that your ex may be trying to wreck what you have with your girlfriend and then you will end up with no one tell your ex to leave you alone and make a life of her own why don't you get away from her and move to America with your girlfriend instead of her coming here to you that way you can make a life away from your ex just think about why you split from her in the first place if i was you i would get rite away put your ex at the back of your mind and start a new life in america with your girlfriendand baby girl go for it mate what have you got to lose nothing only an ex that is what she is your ex dont go back it never works
2006-10-04 09:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An ex is an ex is an ex....try and remember why. If you ended it, it should be easy to remember what made you stop loving her. If she ended it, think about how that made you feel and get to grips with the fact that it is likely to happen again.
There is no point looking and going back. The grass is never greener, it only looks that way. Especially now that you are on your own and missing your girlfriend.
Don't give up on her, she is obviously very committed to you and the relationship as she's willing to move to you.
2006-10-04 09:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by CarG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard choice you have to make--I admire that you will not cheat on your girlfriend. If this other girl is your ex, something obviously didn't work out, do you really want to go back to her--look at the girl you have now if you truely feel more strongly about your ex then go back to her, if you stay with your girlfriend make it clear that you are not interested in your ex to her(your ex) then hopefully you can focus on your girlfriend.
2006-10-04 09:16:14 · answer #7 · answered by I'm here for now 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You yourself said you would never cheat on your girlfriend. SO what's the problem? If you have a girlfriend, you aren't going to cheat on her, right? So you are stuck.
Maybe you're just horny and lusting after your ex, and don't really want to be with her. You should remember the circumstances that caused you to break up with your ex. Then again, maybe you should get with your ex and see if that' s what you really want. You have until Christmas, so you better get started now.
2006-10-04 09:15:40 · answer #8 · answered by noir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is an EX; you have a girlfriend that you love and don't want to hurt her BUT you have feelings for the ex. Your thoughts are cheating thoughts. Your not in a pickle; your in a committed relationship. STOP talking to the ex before you do something thee 3 of you will regret. Be strong MAN!!!!
2006-10-04 09:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your ex your ex? you have to remember that. You need to be frank with your ex and tell her that you want to cut off all communication with her as you want to be with your girlfriend but long distance relationships are hard and you will be tempted even though you say you will not cheat on her you can never say never but I think you are being honest. Your ex needs to be out of your life so that you can move on.
2006-10-04 09:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋