She's been giving me a bunch of grief about my "behavior" and whatnot, how can I convince her to just shut up & deal with me the way I am?
2006-10-04 09:10:24 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I keep reminding her about how her ex boyfriend was abusive, I've only pushed her a few times, not even hit her or left any marks.
2006-10-04 09:15:28 · update #1
Leaving her is not a good idea, since the apartment is in her name & she pays for my car & cell phone
2006-10-04 09:18:11 · update #2
Obviously no one here believes in "For better or for worse", well I'll tell you she has put on ALOT of weight since I married her & I deal with that!
2006-10-04 09:28:41 · update #3
I expect you are. Based on personal experience, the woman is tip top when you marry one and then it's a fast slide downhill from there. Men, on the other hand improve with age. Proof? Just look at the comments from "THEM" (women) and that ***** guy. So, what to do? I think we all know. At least the real men out there. Lie, lie, lie lie. It makes her feel good and it lets you get out of the house to visit your girlfriends.
2006-10-04 11:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 5⤋
Well I can tell your a real head case, who died and left you king of the insults?.
What the hell do you mean your the best she can do? how would you know ?has she tried to get other men? and even if she spent the rest of her life alone my god it's got to be better than living with your egotistical self, who gives a **** if she put on weight? that can be lost but you who are cruel and insensitive goes to the bone and you can't lose that. I would tell you exactly what I told my ex-husband, he said I would be back no one would want me I was fat and ugly I looked him right in the eye and said if you value your life don't hold your breath CZ this fat ugly ***** wont ever be back. I never looked back and 6 months later He went to Georgia state penitentiary for robbing a drug store and while he was serving time for that he killed a man inside the prison now he is locked up for life. So now who had the last laugh? at least I lost weight moved on with my life and have the freedom to do what the hell I want. You better think twice before you speak I'm a country girl and you know what we call idiots like you that speak stupid ****??? We say " DON'T LET YOUR ALLIGATOR MOUTH OVER LOAD YOUR HUMMING BIRD *** ".
Just remember for every action is a reaction. I hope she reads this!!!!!!!
2006-10-04 13:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by SANCY 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, what a man. Only pushed her a few times and was careful not to leave marks. What a prince. A women would have to be crazy not to want to support a super dude like that. Can't imagine what's she's thinking. Oh, maybe it's this! How about finding a guy with an IQ above room temperature, who treats her well and pays his own way. Now, there's an idea !!!!!
2006-10-04 09:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let me just start by saying you can not and should not be trying to convince her that you are the best she can do. If she is supporting you then believe me she can do better and I don't care how much she weighs. Just because she was abused in the past and you do not "hit" her does not automatically entitle you to "best" status. What I got from your question is that since you don't treat her as bad as the previous guy she should be grateful ..... WRONG .... you need to treat her with respect and admiration. When that happens believe me she will treat you like you are the best she can do. :-)
2006-10-04 09:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you "deal" with her weight gain by reminding her that you deal with it?? I think you should do this poor woman a favor and get out. and grow up and pay your own f uckin bills. I really hope she sees this question posted on here and realizes that the only reason you stay with her is because she pay your bills, you ungrateful b astard. It sounds to me that you are also abusive just in a different way (mentally) and by the way, pushing is still physical abuse. I hate guys like you that turn everything around on the woman to make them feel like everything is their fault.
2006-10-04 09:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by krystal s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to listen to her gripe you have 2 choices.... leave her and you wont have to listen again OR work on the behaviours.
Judging from the way you worded your question I am going to guess shes got a legitimate complaint. As for you're "the best that she can do"... no ego problems that is for sure. As for shutting up and dealing with you the way you are.... we all make choices to accept the bad and good in our partners... she obviously already has accepted yours if she married you, trouble is you have some pet peeves that bother her. So tell her that you don't appreciate her nagging you about the pet peeves. Be sincere, not sassy. In future I recommend keeping hands off her (PUSHING is even considered assault in many states)
You're leeching off of her and complaining that she doesnt like youre behaviours??!!??
2006-10-04 09:16:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
The best that she can do? Wow.. Step back and think about the way you use your words. I'm almost positive that you are a verbally abusive person. Hopefully, your poor wife has enough self esteem to leave you and find someone she deserves!
2006-10-04 09:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by Maddy's Mom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about this? You LISTEN to your wife. Respect her a little more. Try to treat her better. Maybe your behavior is not quite as good as it could be. By the way, you are probably not the best she can do. But she loves you anyway. Think about that.
2006-10-04 09:30:53 · answer #8 · answered by Lotus 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU need counseling! You are so full of yourself! If the apartment is in HER
name and SHE pays for your phone, you should be thanking her for not putting your' lazy a** on the street! By the way, pushing her IS abuse. YOU don't deserve her! I hope she does find someone better SOON! It wouldn't be hard!
2006-10-04 09:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say...there is always someone better out there. You should analyze the situation. Maybe you are doing something wrong and she wants you to change. You should talk to her...Really talk to her and hear her out. Then let her know how you feel. If your goal is to just shut her up; you might find yourself alone a few years down the road.
2006-10-04 09:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by Cali Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God... are you serious? Can you really be that much of an a**hole? Sounds like you are the problem. Why don't you try getting a job & paying for your own stuff? She needs to curb your behind & find a real man. You are sad & pathetic. Seek therepy.
2006-10-04 09:42:10 · answer #11 · answered by sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋