This is in reference to my N husband from earlier question. He is over 50. I always was fine with his music until he made that his priority above his family and home. He does not help around the house,never fixes anything, sleeps late, has breakfast about 1pm and stays on the computer all day. Yes I agree what is wrong with me. I believe in commitment so I guess that is why I have hung on. I am ready to give up. He turns his nose up at counseling.
2006-10-04 09:09:26 · 9 answers · asked by waitingtoexhale 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The question is why are you still with him? Hope that he may change or fear that someone (he) is better then no one? They are the reasons that most women stay in degrading relationships. You should think about the future, if you get rid of him what are the benefits and possibilities for you and children versus the benefits of you 'keeping' him. You must feel like some kind of slave to this man who is taking everything from you. Think, make a decision and do it!!!
2006-10-04 09:16:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been going thru the same thing for about 2 years however he is not into music he just doesn't do anything. But i love him and my kids are beginning to understand the only thing I can say is that prayer changes things.
2006-10-04 09:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by candycane 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need someone like that in ur life.... The question is... would u be happier without him? If he doesn't want to commit to counselling then I don't think it's worth staying.... Maybe once he realizes he might lose u then maybe he might change..... Miracles can happen...
2006-10-04 09:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by Maggz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since your daughters are not his he doesn't NEED to contribute financially to them, THEIR father(s) are supposed to be doing so. Maybe you should have thought the entire marriage over before you entered into it.
2006-10-04 09:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have allowed him to become what he is. You need to ditch that loser and find a real man! Shame on you for having him around your kids... what a horrible role model for them.
2006-10-04 09:11:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You, my Lady, are being taken for a ride.. Find a way to end his music in your life. You can do better for yourself.
2006-10-04 09:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by wallcritter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU believe in commitment? Even when its one-sided? This tells me that you are committed to making yourself miserable. You should have BEEN gone!!!!
2006-10-04 09:11:57 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say but he is a leach ditch him!
2006-10-04 09:11:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk about your problems with him calmly,evade conflict.if he is reasonable,he will understand. if that is not helping, divorce him
2006-10-04 09:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Vlad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋