I'm 6 1/2 weeks pregnant and I had an ultrasound, baby looks good but I can't get excited at all. My last pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 16 weeks with my son. We have three daughters and they're doing great. But I can't seem to work up any excitement over this one at all. I feel awful, I mean I'm a mother I should be happy about bringing another baby into our family, we planned it and everything, what's wrong with me? My miscarriage was on Jan. 16 of this year and I spent the next week in the ICU fighting for my own life, could it be I'm just scared? I feel more depressed than anything, but I shouldn't feel this way should I?
2006-10-04 08:55:54 · 13 answers · asked by justwondering 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It is OK not to be excited yet with all you have go through. It not unnatural to be depressed at the first of a pregnancy. It has to do with hormones. If you are still not getting excited by the sixth or seventh month then you should start to worry. right now you have other things to take care of such as your daughters and husband. Your body will take care of your baby.
2006-10-04 09:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by BUPPY'S MEME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are scare. You did experience a miscarriage and you spent time in the ICU. Try not to be afraid this time. Just because that happened before doesn't mean it will happen again. You are going to have a baby. You'll have a really big cute tummy and then you'll have the experience of bringing a life into the world that you and your partner created. You've been through it before. It should be the most exciting part of your life. You have to think positive. I'm sure you'll have a great healthy pregnancy. There are a lot of hormones running through your body right now so it's only normal that your are feeling different. Just try to be happy and relax. Good luck.
2006-10-04 09:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its just too early for you to be excited and you are worried about the baby, I feel the same way something maybe because I dont believe it finally happen, think about how far along you were in your last pregnancies when it kicked in and you were excited, or maybe you have been through it already 3 times and know whats going on and you are used to it, it doesnt mean you are a bad mom. I had a miscarriage too and my due date is jan. 16 and im having a boy. my family is more excited than im am, im just worry and scared to miscarry i guess we'll be excited soon dont worry and good luck
2006-10-04 09:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by audrey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible. My sister had one and when she got pregnant ofter her miscarriage she was still depressed. She had a hard pregnancy cause she didn't know how to deal. She is still to this day upset about the one she miscarried. You should seek out someone you trust to talk to and get some help. It's okay but if you can't get over it eventually you will have to seek professional help. My sister is doing that now. PS this christmas will be the two year marker for my sister miscarriage.
2006-10-04 09:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by Kimberly S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to not be excited right away, especially when you are not out of that danger zone yet. That's expected...you don't fall in love with a man right off the bat either, do you? It's the same kind of thing. Wait until you feel your baby move for the first time. And to that person who said it was "post-partum depression". Don't listen to her. That only happens to a few women AFTER they have already their baby.
2006-10-04 10:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by Chi1linVi1lain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very understandable that you're feeling depressed and less than excited. A miscarriage is a devastating thing. Depression is dangerous, though.... for your own health, your children's health, and for the health of the little one that's coming, you may want to consider seeing a doctor. If nothing else, tell your OB how you're feeling. He/she would be able to either help you or recommend someone that can. Good luck and God bless.
2006-10-04 09:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by JustMyOpinion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheer up, your most likely just scared.
We planned our pregnancy and when I found out I was pregnant I was actually HORRIFIED!!! I thought I was ready, but it all happened so fast, I was not happy at all.
I ended up quiting my job and I was really depressed. I don't think I was truly happy till my little one was born.
I don't think there is a "right" way to feel, especially after what you have been through.
Good luck to you, I hope all goes well for you and your new baby.
2006-10-04 09:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by someoneoutthere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say in your situation that it is normal to feel that way. Since the loss of your son you are still grieving with that, and now to be pregnant again you're going to feel overwhelmed and worried, scared, all the emotions you wouldn't expect when you're pregnant. But because of your situation, and what you went through medically after your loss, yes, you would be feeling this way. I think when you get passed 16 weeks with this baby, your feelings will change. I'm sorry for your loss, and I pray that this one will go perfectly for you!
2006-10-04 09:00:34 · answer #8 · answered by Island_Mommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you how you should feel. You have the right to feel anyway you feel. Did you give yourself time to grieve the other childs death? Did you get to talk to someone? You need to get some grief counseling to get back on track. Your loss is just as great as if the child had been born and was alive for months.
2006-10-04 09:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by jane d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a misscarriage August 4th with my third child. Me and my husband aren't using birth control, but we aren't setting our hearts on getting pregnant just yet. I felt so depressed after and I am still having very bad moodswings. I don't think you are wrong, I think you are just worried and afraid to let yourself get excited because somethings might go wrong.
2006-10-04 09:05:31 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Ford 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋