Pray
2006-10-04 08:58:33
·
answer #1
·
answered by Lindsay 4
·
0⤊
0⤋
Cheating is a symptom. If life were perfect, no one wouldld have an emotional void or need that would compel them to cheat. It's not about Ron, it's about you and your relationship.
Not in all cases, but many, cheating is a symptom not an end to itself. If one, or both, of the the people in a relationship are not getting what they need from the relationship, the will be trouble to follow. The trouble may be depression, substance abuse, gambling, cheating, or some other form of needful behavior.
Sure, there are a small percentage of people who cheat just to cheat. We all know one or two of those. The bigger picture of adultery is something more complicated where everyone is a victim. No. it does not excuse the behavior, but it helps to better understand it. In a perfect world if someone is not getting what they need emotionally, they talk with their partner and all is well. Since the world, and people, are not perfect this sometimes does not happen. Sometimes the cheater can't even process that they are missing something, but still feel the buried emotions.
So a cheater is a cheater? Sometimes, but sometimes the cheater is also a person reaching out and reaches to the wrong place for what they are missing. So address the root problem. It may take some honesty and soul searching, but you can do it. Take it from a reformed cheater. I spent good money figuring it out and will never forget the lessons i have learned.
2006-10-04 16:01:41
·
answer #2
·
answered by Thomas 4
·
1⤊
0⤋
1. First off : You need to get this (so called) Ron off of your mind. Maybe if you cheat again...your husband & family you will surely lose! At least if i were on the other end of your marriage .... (There is no why I would give someone a second chance). First chance maybe.....
2. Maybe you have too much time on your hands and need to find other things to do. That way you will be preoccupied with somethng else.
3. Try to talk to your husband about how you feel. Be open and honest about it too. If he loved you enough to give you another chance before,maybe he will understand.
COMMUNICATION is the MAIN INGREDIANT IN A MARRIAGE !!
Otherwise I feel you wiill lose your family as you stated !
Hope you decide NOT TO CHEAT, and out more effort in your marriage.
Good Luck !
2006-10-04 16:14:27
·
answer #3
·
answered by tbrat2u 2
·
0⤊
0⤋
You need to do yourself and your boyfriend a favor and break up. You obviously aren't reformed considering that you last cheated in February and want to do it again only 8 months down the road. You have deeper seated issues than just wanting to have sex with "Ron" and just wanting to be friends with him. If you are serious about being "reformed" then you should know that you've already made a decision. You said you wouldn't do it again, but here you are trying to go back on that decision. Make a decision once and stick with it.
2006-10-04 16:00:38
·
answer #4
·
answered by Please use other door 2
·
2⤊
0⤋
I know what you mean there was this goat I was really attracted to and I feel she felt the same way about me but as you know over time we slipped away from each other and well just recently I saw her at the restaurant all done up with mint jelly mmmm was she good well now I want to go back but I'm married and feel it would be cheating I feel your pain
2006-10-04 16:02:55
·
answer #5
·
answered by Wondering If ? 1
·
1⤊
0⤋
I think you have been cheating in a different kind of way. The reason you can't stop thinking about him is because you are still in contact with him through e-mail .. and maybe a phone call or two ?? If you want your marriage to work out .. you have to have the personal strengh to STOP contacting him at all. ZERO CONTACT. Good Luck! :)
2006-10-04 16:01:35
·
answer #6
·
answered by tysavage2001 6
·
0⤊
0⤋
Why? You looking for some type of go-ahead because you know that it's morally wrong and you want some half-a*s lame excuse you may get here to give you the green light?
just do it. You're going to anyway. Your weak. You said so yourself. No moral fiber, no fortitude, no deceny of character. Men love women like you. Well...not ALL men....just a certain breed that have the same moral outlook...or lower...than you.
Hey...you asked. That's MY answer. So as i know what you want to hear isn't within my answer...good luck looking for the one you want.
2006-10-04 16:02:49
·
answer #7
·
answered by Quasimodo 7
·
0⤊
0⤋
once a cheat, always a cheat. Something tells me you will find a way around all of this and be back at square 1, even if this means losing your family.
2006-10-04 16:08:45
·
answer #8
·
answered by Anonymous
·
2⤊
0⤋
The only way to stop yourself from doing anything with him to stop thinking about him, seeing him, emailing him etc. You have to get him off your mind, and it might be hard, but if you really want to save your family, like you say, then it should be worth the effort. You really just have to cut it off cold turkey.
2006-10-04 15:58:41
·
answer #9
·
answered by accent_01 2
·
2⤊
0⤋
You got your just desserts for cheating. Now you know what it feels like. You know how to behave; you just don't want to. I would think that you learned your lesson the first time.
2006-10-04 16:14:15
·
answer #10
·
answered by Anonymous
·
1⤊
0⤋