My BF is asking for me to pay part of the rent which I have no problem doing as I am living there. I pay the cable bill, both cell phone bills, pay for my own gas in my car and 3 -4 times a week buy the odds and ends at the grocery store IE something for dinner, dog food/cat food, laundry detergent. This I don't mind. The thing that's bothering me now is that he wants receipts for everything I buy down to coffee in the morning on the way to work etc. So he can see where my money is going. I'm a grown woman and I don't think I should have to do this. Is he trying to control me?
2006-10-04 08:54:03 · 16 answers · asked by MCS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He said he thinks I have a BF on the side is why he wants to know. PFFT! This is from a man who recently went through $700 dollars in 3 days with no explanation as to where it went. He also thinks I am secretly saving money on the side so I can leave him. If I were going to leave I don't need extra money to do it.
2006-10-04 09:29:45 · update #1
No, he is trying to control your personal finances. You don't owe him any explanation as to where your money goes as long as you can pay your share of the rent and incoming bills. Tell him to back off or you move out.
2006-10-04 09:07:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose this guy....he's a deadbeat. There's plenty of us guys out there who can actually pay our fair share of the bills and not ask for proof of where your money is going. It's YOUR money, not his. If you give in to this you are opening the door to things a lot worse. For example, controlling what you do at all times, having you check in with him every hour on the hour, you will become like a pet to him. You don't need that. Find a better man!!
2006-10-04 09:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by Ken 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he's trying to act like your husband, yet treat you like a roommate. You seem to be paying for your own way- why live with him? I think I'd want to see receipts for what he spends- doesn't look like he's contributing much, and by demanding your receipts, is trying to cover up how little he's putting in.
So much for "equal rights".
Curious-do you ever feel used? Do you do the laundry and cooking and cleaning and all that, and pay the bills and have sex with him too?
2006-10-04 09:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does he care what you do with your money?
I would do this.
I'd lay out all the bills on the table.. add them all up... then divide by half. THAT is the ammount of money you give him every month for bills.
Then... estimate the ammount of money spent on food each month. Divide THAT by half. That is the ammount of money you spend on food for the house.
Then.. add those two things together and subtract it from your paycheks.. hopefully you have some left over...
That money is YOURs to do with as you please.
If he can't handle that .. then you need to keep ALL your money, pack your things and head out the door!!!
It sounds like he has a trust issue with you in that he doesn't trust that you will have enough money to pay for things he thinks you should be paying for. so.. if you have been "late" getting him money for the house or other bills then he may have a reason to check up on you - after all most of this stuff is in his name and its his credit.
The bottom line is.. you two need to talk about all of this and resolve it or split up.
2006-10-04 09:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he need reciepts for stuff you paid for with your money? Sounds crazy. I do ask my wife for reciepts of things she buys BUT, it's for things I'm paying for. The stuff she buys with her money I could care less about.
The problem with my wife is she blows every dime she has then expects me to let her blow mine too!
As far as your boyfriend is concerned, you may consider leaving him. He sounds like the type that will turn abusive and maybe even physically violent. Your money is your business.
If he thinks you're having some type of hook up with someone he should be a bit more tactful about it or just leave.
Sounds like a problem waiting to happen to me. I'd bail.
2006-10-04 10:00:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like it, but first ask him why he needs the receipts for? Is he going to give you half of the money you spend on groceries? find out the reason first before assuming that he's trying to be controlling...
2006-10-04 08:56:41 · answer #6 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no need for him to ask for receipts unless:
1) He's concerned about your spending habits. (addicted to shopping)
2) He wants you to handle your money better. (Saving for future, retirement)
Try asking him what's the need of asking for receipts.
2006-10-04 09:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by locamiami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think so, ask him why he needs the receipts?
I think u should re-evaluate ur livin conditions. Paying all that expense and he still has some nerve asking to see receipts.... Gosh that's gross!!!!
2006-10-04 09:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by Miss-Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pay for all that ! Not only is he controlling .. he is using you for your money. Get rid of the bum and find yourself a good partner. Good Luck to you! :)
2006-10-04 08:56:44 · answer #9 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you,I would want to know if he thinks he is a ring master,or your boyfriend?Tell him you want his receipts in return,or no go!!I hate control freaks so much!!
2006-10-04 09:01:14 · answer #10 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋