My husband and Ihave beenhaving problems. He is depressed and finally realized it is serious enough that he is going to go fo rhelp. We fight endlessly when he is here and when he goes away it is less stresfull here.
BUT I get angry that I have two small children to look after and our family busines while he takes off visiting friends and basically going on vacation while i handle everything.
He starts with the psychiatrist tomorrow. Should i tell him to go and sort things out or let him stay home?
2006-10-04 08:44:51 · 16 answers · asked by Sandra C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I mean, should I have him leave while he is trying to sort things out or let him stay at home while he does this? Both are hard on me and the kids.
2006-10-04 08:50:18 · update #1
Let him go sort things out, this way when he's making progress, he'll be able to start helping you and wont resent you for "forcing" him to do stuff, instead of getting help. It's much better in the long run. I think it's called 'delayed satisfaction." By being the positive aspect in his life ans supporting him through this difficulty, will make him more willing and it's better for his psychie to have as many positive experiences as possible, especially when they come from you. You'll give him reason for wanting to get better. You can even go to some of his counseling sessions a little later on. GOOD LUCK and GOD BLESS!!!
2006-10-04 08:55:05 · answer #1 · answered by afafae25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and me also have a family business. He has also been depressed because of his age (he is 65 and I am 51) and our lack off money.At this age is very difficult to start a business but we had to do this because we had lost everything. It very difficult when he does not want to wake up every morning or when he feels his opinion is no more required by our son or our daughter and when they pay for the bills and so on. Fortunately things started to go better with our business and he is also better himself. I would suggest you leave him to go to the therapist and perhaps sometimes you could go together or you alone so you could learn how to cope with this situation. But I am sure he will improve after a few visits to the psychiatrist. Meanwhile try to be patient and do not get angry and yell at him because this wont take you anywhere. Good luck.
2006-10-04 09:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by AMAYI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is going to therapy. That would indicate he recognizes a problem and is working on it. Did he make you leave when you were recovering from childbirth? Do you get my point?
Or on the other hand, you can send him away and he figures out he likes life so much better without the wife and kids. No responsibility or arguments. If could be a great find for him. Is this what you want?
2006-10-04 09:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the fact that you two are married, have two small children, and is running a business is stressful for the both of you. Maybe both of you need to go see the psychiatrist, work this thing out. Being stressed out with married life and the things that come with it can lead to divorces. You two can get through this together. Take Care.
2006-10-04 08:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him see the Psychiatrist, remember that Depression is serious and if you had it you probably would be like that to. Remember he is feeling awful and hopeless YOU HAVE TO LOVE AND SUPPORT HIM, so a vacation might be of help to him. A psychiatrist should really assist him and i hope you will begin to support him as well as continue to take good care of your children. Try some depression sites.
2006-10-08 04:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by Golden Ivy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by "let" him stay home? You can't force a man out of his own home! Making him leave is not an option, so wrap your mind around that. I would also say that it's very cruel of you to be so negative and unsupportive; depression can be a terminal illness, so have some compassion!
2006-10-04 08:54:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take your husbands depression too lightly. Marriage is for better for worst, sickness & health. It wouldn't hurt you to visit a therapist, there is alot to learn about mental health. Your husband's depression effects your entire family.
He needs your love & support now more than you may realize.
If he chooses an inpatient clinic, maybe you could get help on an out-patient basis.
Best wishes to your family. Don't give up. Anything worth having is worth fighting for.
2006-10-04 08:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by Doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 03:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me that you have full control of the household and you are not offering or giving him any room to take on some of the house duties.
Sounds like you have made up the ultimate choice.
Sounds like youre the only one that make any decisions there.
Let him direct himself! Let him decide! Don't do it for him! Stop treating him like a baby!
I would just let go and let God direct him, instead of me.
2006-10-04 08:53:42 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a trip to the headshrinker is in order in my opinion.
That is unless you really enjoy running the business and watching the kiddies while he's out having a ball.
2006-10-04 08:49:08 · answer #10 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋