today I walked in on 3 work colleagues bitchin/complaining about me. I have never experienced this before, not even in school, let alone as a 30+ proffessional!!! I am not one to back away from a fight and wanted to confront it there and then but just did not have the time...........any suggestions as to what to say when I return to work???
2006-10-04 08:41:17 · 37 answers · asked by rain 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell them you think htey are very unprofessional. But talking about you keeps their mouths shut about someone else!!!!!!!!! Be the strong one!!!
2006-10-04 08:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by -------- 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them because nothing annoys a person more than being ignored when they are trying to get attention.
It'll look like all there bitchin was for nothing. They are just trying to get you to say something and so spoil your image and since there are two of them, they might succeed.
If you confront them, then you might lose your reputation with the other people working with you and they might even think that you being in a superior position to them, is the one starting it.
But if they go too far, then just ask them what there problem is.
2006-10-04 08:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say that you were walking in the area and that you overheard their conversation about them having some complaints about you. Now mind you, when you do this you have to be little ms. perkie. Make sure that you have all 3 co-workers there. Kill them with kindness and feed them with a long handle spoon. It will erk them more to see that what you overheard didn't upset you. Don't show anger, act as though you are willing to be a part of the team. Because jobs are hard to find now and you don't want them ganging up on you to the wrong people and getting you fired. Girrrrrrrl I wish you could call me so that I could explain in details just how you should handle this. If you really want to talk by telephone, just click on my name and let me know and I'll have you call me tomorrow at work. I'm on Eastern Standard Time. Let me know because if anyone can have them eating out of the palm of your hands, it's me!
2006-10-04 08:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting one of them aside and just say that you over heard what was said and you'd like to hear where it all came from. If it was a complaint about you then they may have picked up something wrong and you can put them right.If they are complaining cos you are good at your job and doing better than them then they are not worth bothering about. You can rise above such childish behaviour and know whatever their problem is is nothing more than their problem! Once you know what was said you can go to the other 2 and say you know all about it if that's how they feel then it's too bad and wallk off. If you only have to deal with them back and forth then just enjoy your job and do your best.
2006-10-04 08:47:57 · answer #4 · answered by wee stoater 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, in life, everyone ***** about each other. Trust me, there is not one person which have not been bitched before, regardless of how nice the person is.
Some people just can't keep their mouth shut because there could be a few reasons. One of it could be because of jealousy. Another could be that they just have nothing much better to do than to talk about other people's affairs. I feel that the best you can do is to ignore them, and don't give a damn about what they say. I know it is gonna be hard as i can see that you're really pissed. And just like you said, you're a professional. Do what a professional do best - not letting other personal stuff interfere with your job. If they wanna *****, let them. I know it's gonna be hard, but hey, if they ***** about you again, give them a smile and prove to them that you are much better off than them. Prove them that you can do your thang and succeed. So chill, and all the best!
2006-10-04 08:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this is common office procedure in most places. Confront them one at a time so they don't gang up on you. You'll be surprised how easy they'll turn on each other. Basically, these people have very little else going on in their sad little lives and find the need to fill the void by making themselve feel better by putting someone else (usually someone with more intelligence or integrity) down. A very sad, but very true fact of life.
2006-10-04 08:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by paula c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would walk up to one or all of them and ask what the problem is. The best thing you can do is confront them and take care of the problem. Do not pretend it did not happen. Make sure you do not do this infront of others that are not involved. Good luck and do not back down if you are in the right. Be able to admit if you are wrong and if it is true what they are saying, then change.
2006-10-04 08:45:48 · answer #7 · answered by dr's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally?e-mail the office and ask them if they have got something to say you'll be in the playground at milk time, if not tell them you'll resign if they all hate you so much. Have you been an absolute cow to work with?? If so..good for you. you're there to work not play. I've got my own friends I don't go to work to make friends. One day you'll probably be the boss and have to fire one of them. Harder to do if they're your mates. Screw them. They'll probably be doing the same job in 20 years, then again, so will you if you let this bother you. Smile at them they'll feel terrible. This advice has been completely free!!!!
2006-10-04 08:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront the three of them individually. That way they can not "gang up" on you. I would be honest about it. If you just dont like people talking trash about you then tell them that.
Tell them that you are deeply offended by the fact that they had to gossip about you behind your back. They are 30+ and need to approach these kinds of situations head on. They should have come to you and discussed their problems with you.
Be honest, but most importantly STAY CALM!
2006-10-04 08:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by newfound strength 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask them what all that was about and if they have a problem with you or something about they should tell you. Tell them they don't have to go behind your back snickering about what ever it is they are adults and they need to act like it personally don't worry about cuz if it was something serious you would already know what it was that they were exactly talking about but good luck and i hope my advice could be of some help to you.
2006-10-04 08:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happens all the time in my office it is just like being in school except the note passing at the back of the classroom has now been exchanged for e-mails. However, confron them like all bullies it should make them back down. Just don't lose you rag with them do it assertivly with a steady voice and plenty of eye contact. Otherwise you'll only be adding fuel to their fire.
2006-10-04 08:47:15 · answer #11 · answered by Andy C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋