my girl has 2 kids and am a jelous guy and she always in contac with their father ,,i hate it and i told her but i love her and i dont know what to do if i leave her ama feel bad and destroyed if i stay with her i ll feel the same *** right now always mad...
2006-10-04 08:32:44 · 6 answers · asked by tatan1984 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Here are some truths for you:
One of the worst choices in life a young man can make, is to involve himself in a relationship with a woman who already has children of her own.
Secondly, If you truly loved her, you would not become jealous of her former relationship with the children's father.
True love is based on trust.
She will always have a bond with the father of her children, and as the children grow, they too will look to their natural fathers for affection.
If you were to have a child with this woman, you will further resent the intrusion of not only the men of her past, but your anger will spill over to her children as well.
Unless you deal with your emotions now, I forsee a grim future for all of you.
I would bow out now, Hurt feelings will be better that a violent relationship.
Move on, and begin your own family.
2006-10-04 13:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seek counseling, that much jealousy would destroy any relationship you get in to.
You need to understand that he is the father, and therefore it's a Good Thing that he be in contact with the family; that people having good relations with their ex's is healthy (at some point, they liked each other enough to have kids -- why should all human feeling and liking have to go away just because they aren't romantically involved any more?).
There's no reason to see him as a threat, but your jealousy is very likely to drive her away.
I repeat, you need to deal with your jealousy -- it's your problem, not anything wrong with her. In fact, it would be wrong for her to give in to you on this.
2006-10-04 18:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In response to bishopdon7 - that's a cruel and horrible thing to say.Women with children can offer just as much if not more to a relationship.To the person asking the question-have more confidence in yourself, if she loves you, she will not want anything to do with their father on a romantic level...in relationships like this the other party needs to be mature and self-confident.
2006-10-05 18:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by Female O ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fact the dude is the father of two kids, shes the mom. For the kids sake she needs to keep a 'civil' relationship with him for their sake. You need to get over the fact that she has contact with him, but wants to be with you. If you can't handle the truth, you need to get gone from the picture.
2006-10-04 17:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by Charles B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may not want to hear this, but he is the father of those children, and she is the mother. That bond will never disappear, nor should it, for the sake of the children.
Quite honestly you should respect that.
Jealousy is out of place here.
2006-10-04 15:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should trust your girl. if you love her as much as you say you do and if she loves you too then you would know in your heart that she would never do anything to hurt you. also sit down and talk to her and tell her how you feel. u never know!
2006-10-04 16:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by laven_99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋