since I have known him he has had a drinking problem. when our daughter was born he stopped and Had been sober for 11 yrs. He has an addictive personality but I've always stood by him and helped him. since we've been seperated he started to drink again and he has been at bars and doing who knows what. Anyway he was driving home and flipped the car and got a dui. Reality is setting in for him and he says he needs time. also he has a problem cause I was friends with this guy that I worked with and me him and another girl talked like everyday and he feels that I betryed him. I didn't. the guy I was friends with was like my brother no interest what so ever and Yes i did tell him alot but He was easy to talk to. I have since not talked to him cause given the choice I choose my husband and If my friendship was causing I problem I don't want that. I would like to tell my husband all this but he hardly returns my calls or he says he needs time. Please help me. I want my family
2006-10-04 08:32:06 · 6 answers · asked by djc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would give him the space that he is asking for even though it is painful to do. Sometimes people need to stop and think what is important in their lives and in order to do so they need to isolate themselves. Yea he is back to his old habits but also sometimes people need to hit the bottom to see clearly. Give it time it just might work out in the end even though it hurts right now.
2006-10-04 08:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by chrissy20us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah sure...see? Any excuse. You see how he has all these issues...all this baggage...but it's because YOU talked to a co-worker every day.
Look....lemme ask you this. You like being ground under someone's heel? You like being belittle and made the reason as to why other people screwed up their lives? I guess so because this is what I'm getting here. Again...you just keep enabling him. Nothing better for an alcoholic than to blame his wife for his problems that he/she gets themselves into.
You seem like an intellegent and articulate woman. Quit acting otherwise. You don't want a "family" for Chrissakes so knock it off. What you want is him!
Another thing. If he really had any intention of getting together with you and if he cared about the kids, he would return your calls and not say "I need time". know what he needs time for? Drinking and screwing around. Yeah! With you 1100 miles away. It's a drunken husband's wet dream for Pete's sake!
Baby...wake up. You keep trying to mend this and let's be honest...whatever comes down the pike 9and I assure you it won't be to your liking) you deserve. In spades.
2006-10-04 08:40:23 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him the time he needs. Maybe time away from his family will help him understand what he is missing and help him want to get better.
2006-10-04 08:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by OrianasMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's drinking + he needs time + hes not comunicating =he loves the bottle more than you. the friend was just a way to change the blame game.you dont need him and your kids dont need an alco. in the house.
2006-10-04 08:56:49 · answer #4 · answered by crank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ud o loove this man i see that. give him soom time but let him no that his drinking is not going to get his family back he may need to go to aaa or something. your marrage sounds like one to fight for.
2006-10-04 08:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for what you want don't give it up.
2006-10-04 08:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by Donald M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋