My husband and I decided last night to call our marriage quits (on very peaceful terms). We have two young children (2 and 3 wks). My chest literally hurts, like I can feel my heart breaking. I just want to cry all the time. Will I ever not hurt anymore?
2006-10-04 08:30:03 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, as hard as it is to think about now, there will be a time where you can look back on this with out so much pain, this is a fresh wound, this will talk time to heal. Time will soften your feelings and the pain, Take time to see the good in the decision that you and your mate has made, be thankful that you are doing this on good terms, for the children will benefit from this immensely. You could use a hug and I wish I could give it to you. Find a friend to talk to, a shoulder to lean and cry on. It will get better, that is a promise.
2006-10-04 08:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you came to that decision because it was for the best. It's never easy when a relationship ends especially when there are children involved. Get busy with reorganizing your new life. It hurts like hell now but tell yourself "one day at a time" and you will be better. It may take a year or two but think about yourself and your kids who need you, focus on them and yourself and what you need and it will get better. In time. ONLY IN TIME. As for the physical pain if it is really intense see a doctor. It will get easier. Look forward to that day. Dont look back.
2006-10-04 15:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful honey. It sounds like you just had a child. So you are feeling very vulnerable, very emotional. This is adding to the feelings. You have children you need to be there for. So when you start feeling really really down and out call on a friend, call a babysitter and go get ice cream, go to a cafe, go to a restaurant. Just go somewhere where there are people out and about and you feel happy or peaceful. It will help.
Ok enough of that. I feel so bad for you. Things will get better I promise. You need to get back on your feet right now. ((hugs)) I do promise it will get better.
2006-10-04 15:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by bellelayne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it takes time but I know that feeling. It will take some time, but eventually it will stop. For the first 6 months after I broke up with my man of 5 years- I had that pain. and to tell you the truth, it's been almost two years since we broke up and when i think of him I still have that feeling. I'm really sorry to hear you are hurt- but maybe after all is said and done, you will be better off- after all there has to be reasons why you guys are calling it quits right??
If you need to talk to someone you can email me!! I wish you the best!
2006-10-04 15:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by nat_00420 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure this is what you want? Your chest is probably hurting because of anxiety. You have a million things going through your mind right now. You have 2 children you need to take care of. I went through this 4 years ago myself so I know how you are feeling. If you just want someone to talk to you can email me at mare122870@yahoo.com. I wish you all the best. I wish that I could tell you that things will get easier but they will get a lot worse before they get better. I'm not going to lie or sugar coat it cause you need to know. You have my email if you want to talk. Take care! It does get easier just not right away.
2006-10-04 15:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by mare122870 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard but at least everything is peaceful. Your hormones are still crazy from the pregnancy.. maybe that is some of the reason for you crying alot. I know it is very hard but you have to be happy and do what is best for the kids at this point. Your happiness will come.... mine did... Good luck and find a good friend to talk to .. you will need it...
2006-10-04 15:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by kdbnsc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one is expecting you to feel normal so soon after you decided to call it quits....it is painful it will be painful for awhile but then after you went through the 7 stages , it will get better.
As a life coach i deal a lot with people that go through rough moments in their life...such as this moment in your life.
I am not trying to market myself here but in all honesty if you feel the need for some support feel free to contact me.
I will give you some free advice and support should you decide you want it.
I wish you wisdom and good health..the rest will follow.
Best of luck,
Alex
2006-10-04 15:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by ilfecoach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know it seems like the pain will never go away but trust me it does. I went through this myself and it was the most painful time in my life. I to had a small child at the time, and it is hard to bear. I wouldn't wish this pain on even my worst enemy. Time heals all wounds, corny but true.. in a year u will be better, refreshed, and doing something totally different and new and realizing how much better your life is now compared to then I promise u, u will be just fine in time....
2006-10-04 15:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by just me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well usually after any break up or divorce it will be hard as hell to get over the other but that is just part of the process but you will heal and once again be happy you and your ex might even become to be best friends after all he is a permanet part of your life now with kids and who knows maybe someone new and wonderful will sweep you off your feet more then your present man has done....so keep you head up
2006-10-04 15:34:58 · answer #9 · answered by whitetigereyes8485 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes even thought you still love him at sometime it will stop hurting and you will change to helping your kids thought it. It is OK to cry even if it is for a week any breakup is hard, but its harder when you have children that bond you. Be strong
2006-10-04 15:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by Christine R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋