I'm 13, my relationship w/ my parents is destroyed, I hardly talk to them. They were too harsh several months ago, I got very resentful and I'm sure it's impossible to fix our relationship, though they tried. I'm respectful but only talk with them when necessary. I think I'm wise for my age, dont' get in troubles and I'm a very good student. It's kinda bad for a girl my age to live without her parents love and guidance, but I do my best. I get comfort in some friends and i some activities I have volunteered for. But now I feel something is missing, I'm not emotionally OK, I need help from someone older and more experienced. Some older guys tried to "help" me in this moment of weakness but I was enough mature to realize that was a bad and dangerous stuff for a girl my age. I think a good option is to talk w/ a 23 yo girl I look up to, she's wise, she's graduated, has a job, and can understand me, She has problems with her parents too, she lives alone and doesn't talk w/ them
2006-10-04 08:23:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I think your best bet would be to talk to some type of counselor. Maybe your guidance counselor at school can help find someone you can talk to.
It's good to have an older friend who understands you, but it sounds that you need some good emotional/psychological counseling, that only someone trained to do so can help you with.
And remember, at 13 we think we know it all, and we don't know squat. Don't give up on your parents. They know a lot more than you and they react to things in a way to help protect you, though you may not now understand the reasons for their actions.
2006-10-04 08:28:52 · answer #1 · answered by missportal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a wise young lady. I am sorry that you feel that your relationship with your parents is "destroyed". Ask your parents if they will sit down with you to talk over your feelings and the situation. Choose a time when there are no pressures on anyone in the family and try to put across your feelings to them as you did on Yahoo. A first step might be to put your thoughts in writing in a letter to them. Tell them that something is missing and that you are not emotionally ok. Tell them that it is important for you to feel that your parents love and accept you and talk about what steps you all can take as a family to improve the living climate.
If this fails, then try to get a trusted relative or guidance teacher to help you. See your family doctor and ask to be referred to a family counselling service. Do a little research about family counselling and ask your parents if they will consider it for the good of the relationship. You are wise not to go to "older guys" who may not have the necessary experience or correct motives to help you. Do get help as soon as possible.
2006-10-04 08:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm a year older than 23, but I do understand where you're coming from. It's not always easy to talk to the parents, especially if they are like mines who feel that they're always right and they don't have to listen because I'm the child what could I possible teach or tell them! I feel that some parents get defensive when the child confronts them about anything concerning them. What I use to do was write a letter explaining my feelings and slip it under neath their door and wait. If they are loving parents, which I'm sure they are ( you're still there), they'll come to you and want to talk about it all. But sweetie, you're just a kid, don't carry all the weight of the world on your shoulders. Enjoy being a child, you can always have a relationship with your parents, simply because they're your parents. They probably just waiting for you to come to them, don't ever be afraid to talk to your folks, if you can't trust to talk to them who can you trust? Oh, don't always put your trust in a friend, or you just might find yourself disappointed every time. Stay smart, relax, and enjoy childhood, for it doesn't last forever! ( so smile).
2006-10-04 09:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by Trena G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember parents are people too. we all make mistakes...
It would probably be well enough for you to talk with that 23 yr old girl....but in most situations its better to forgive your parents and try to work through your problems. It won't be the same without them. Rather that is a good or bad thing you probably know better than me ..But just know it will be different. Also know that at your age parents and their kids have relationship problems ALL the time. Its a part of you (and them too) growing up. All the best.
2006-10-04 08:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by rainsparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if the 23 year old and you are on the same track. If you need someone older to talk to, talk to your parents. Believe it or not you do not know everything, and you are not mature at 13. get your head out of your butt and straighten up.And your friends you speak of are probably the same age, so what can they offer, nothing. You are all just kids. I am older then you by a lot, have raised a daughter who is almost thirty, and she comes to me a lot and tells me she had wished she had listened to me when she was younger. Your parents are not going to tell you something to hurt you if they love you, and I am sure they do. Grow up, listen to your parents, and chill out.
2006-10-04 08:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only get one set of parents.Please try to make some time for them,sounds like they want to,but you have been hurt by them emotionally.So,you could deal with whatever happened to destroy this parent relationship by taking councilling with them in the room so they know how you feel.If the situation can be fixed,please fix it cause i don't have my mom any more and i miss her very much.I would do anything to have her back.The something that you feel is missing is your parents love and support and guidance.I'm glad,you seem mature for age 13,so you are doing well,with your life and seem to be cautious of who you trust.I really hope for you,that this can be resolved as it's a tough life without parents.I hope i helped in some way,and i will pray that all goes well for you.
2006-10-04 08:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by countrykarebare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to try and talk everything out with them. Everyone needs their parents in their life and you being only 13 you definetly do. Nothing is impossible so try to talk to them. You seem really mature for your age so use that and be the bigger person and tell them what's bothering you and how you feel. Good Luck!
2006-10-04 08:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by amanda725_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your parents to set up an appointment with your doctor, and ask for a referal to a counseling center.
You have the smarts to say something somewhere to get something done. So maybe you aren't completely able to go back to the way your life was before but you can come at your parents with a new perspective, they don't have a manual to teach them how to talk to you.
Maybe a counselor for all of you will help your bridge this problem.
*winks* Worked for my step sister and my dad.
2006-10-04 08:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by pariah6.9you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As bad as it is, I'm certain your relationship with your parents is not destroyed. Everyone needs someone to talk to, so find someone you trust to talk to. Do you go to church? If you have a Sunday School teacher to talk to that would be great. If not, I'm sure your school has some counselors you can talk to. You do need your parents love. They need your love too, so let them know you love them.
2006-10-04 08:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it be. Liking is only a feeling of affection. You don't have to pursue things further if you don't choose to. The two aren't worlds apart in any case and beauty comes in many forms. A beautiful person is going to be beautiful regardless of gender, so you can't say - I can't find him beautiful because he's a boy! Either he is or he isn't beautiful and no shame on you for admitting you find him so.
2016-03-27 04:55:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋