well she is very caring and very very helpful and she loves me a lot. But i m not attracted to her. But she sometimes when in a emotional mood tells me to declare my feelings for her . Which i fear might hurt her very badly. She does it time and again and sometimes she cries. I dont know wat to do, although i told her twice or thrice that i consider her only as a friend.
2006-10-04 08:14:37 · 12 answers · asked by metallixan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hmmm. Do not lie whatever you do! It may hurt her feelings for now, but she will be glad in the long run... No one in their right mind likes to be lied to that they are liked....
Good luck!
2006-10-04 08:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by nataliejluv008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to her that you would rather keep the friendship rather than risk it by going into a relationship, because if you break up you might not be friends anymore (this depends on how u break up). Tell her in that way, so that she dont feel hurt and it will show her that you care for her and want her to be a part of your life.
Remember, God is love.
2006-10-04 08:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by frankie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you not attracted to her? She sounds great!
Tell her (not when she is emotional) that you feel her feelings are endangering your friendship. Explain again you love her as a friend only, and see her reaction. If too negative, give her some time to come to terms.
Anf it that's too hard, suck it up and be a man! You are doing more harm to her now the way things are.
2006-10-04 08:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by jatmorri 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to be blunt but try to do it as caring as possible that you and her are friends but no more. I think she is wearing rose coloured spectacles and see the world as she wants. You have may have told her that you are just friends but she isn't listening to you. Be truthful and don't lie. Don't say you love her when you don't as you will just lead her on and you will regret it. Be honest and be forthright but take her feelings into consideration as well if she is the emotional type.
2006-10-04 08:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sum girls are clingy sounds like shes only helping you cos she fancies you and she wont forever so dont expect her to always be around, dont let her use emotional blackmail either its not fair, if she wont take the hint with what u hav said then its her problem sumtimes in life people get hurt if they are stupid this is one of those times i feel sorry for her but seriously mate its not your'e fault she will take the hint at sum point tho.
2006-10-04 08:19:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep being honest. Let her know that she is making you feel uncomfortable and the repeated question is placing a strain on your FRIENDSHIP. Tell her that if she needs you to you will distance yourself so that she won't have a problem with the FRIENDSHIP, hopefully she will see that she is being a bit selfish and stop pressuring you to feel a way you don't.
Best Wishes!!
2006-10-04 08:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two words ..ASSHOLE! -lol- whatever you do don't lie to her about the way you really feel it may hurt her even more although just because you don't have a crush on her doesn't mean shes dirt dude treat her well cause she might not always be there >.> you may grow the same feeling for her, think about it
2006-10-04 08:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by aliens? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in this case you need to distance yourself from her and when you feel that enough time has passed test the waters she may have moved on herself and you can continue with your friendship, but if that doesn't work I think you should cut all ties.
2006-10-04 08:23:31 · answer #8 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel but do it like this:
...tell her that you like being friends with her and you value yall relationship and you don't want to loose that. Tell her that you are on another level right now and if she can not respect that then you slack off on talking/seeing with her.
2006-10-04 08:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by angelic1302 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time you tell her exactly how you feel even if you think it will hurt her. I think she would respect you more if you just tell her the truth.
2006-10-04 08:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋